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I'm 15 and eventually want to be a homemaker

July 3, 2021

Hey, I'm 15. I have decided I want to eventually be a homemaker and a SAHM and find a traditional man. Every single person I know atm hates that this is what I want. I feel very isolated and lonely atm tbh, just wondering if there was anyone else a similar age to me as it would be great to chat. Also not really sure were to go or what to do really, I feel a bit stuck and not sure where to start tbh or how to eventually live the life I want. Would really appreciate any advice! Thanks

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Title I'm 15 and eventually want to be a homemaker
Author Amb239
Upvotes 100
Comments 25
Date July 3, 2021 10:31 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]JustaTcup 62 points63 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I'm a little bit older than you but I was even younger than you when I made my decision. You're going to meet a lot of resistance and even those who are so brainwashed against this they will even try to hurt you emotionally to try to convince you against this lifestyle. Please try to hold on and stay strong and know you are absolutely NOT alone. There are plenty of us out here who are making or have made this decision early in life and it's a wonderful thing. And can I just say that I am SO proud of you. This is lovely to read.

[–]Amb239[S] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Thanks! Yeah ig I am already coming across those people which is hard. But tysm you are so lovely and its great knowing there are other similar woman out there

[–]Icybrowngirl 13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You’re not at the stage to be an interesting, or knowledgeable person yet. Not to discredit you, it just comes with that age. So in order to meet a high value man, you have to understand the traits of being an high value woman. If your direction isn’t in working, or school; you must prove your commitment to learning and growth. And to aim for intellectual, emotional, and spiritually stability with the humbleness to be open to new conversations or ways of thought. As these are the typical men, an homemaker would want to marry. High value men usually are high paid men.

[–]JustaTcup 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're so welcome! I really hope everything works out good for you.

[–]Pycnostyle 63 points64 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I'm an older man whose wife left her career to raise our children, so I can tell you a bit about our experience. It's more or less what I would have told my daughter, had she brought this up when she was 15:

  • Being a good homemaker takes a lot of skills and organization. My wife was a project manager by trade, and it helped her a lot. It's more than just knowing how to cook (which is easy to learn) or clean (we have a housekeeper, anyway). You can practice being organized in school.
  • When adults in your life discourage you from being a homemaker, they might be worried that you don't intend to take your studies seriously and don't intend to give yourself the opportunity to support yourself financially, should you not find your knight in shining armor at age 18. I recommend that you do take your studies seriously and work toward a career, even if your preference is to abandon it in your 20s. You just never know how your life is going to turn out, and it very rarely follows our ideal schedules. Make sure you keep your options open.
  • As a practical matter, most successful households these days are dual-income. And it can be difficult to keep up if only one spouse is working for money. You might have some luck looking for a guy who's a few years older and a bit further along in his career, or at least his career trajectory looks good.
  • There are people in this world who like to feel superior by belittling others' hopes and dreams. There is no requirement that you openly discuss your hopes and dreams with people like that.
  • With some self-reflection, you could probably think about what is appealing to you about being a homemaker. Since you may need to support yourself for a while, depending on how lucky you are in love, you might choose a career path that has those components. By way of example, if you are drawn to nurturing children, perhaps you could become a pediatric nurse or something like that. I don't know if doing something like this would appeal to you, but anyway something to consider.

Enjoy your summer, and the best of luck to you!

[–]Edom_Kolona 8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

A few words of advice for aspiring homemakers who need a career to cover the gap between graduating high school and marriage:
Pick something that doesn't require you to maintain current licenses or something where renewing a lapsed license is relatively painless. Teaching, nursing, most medical options, require that you be licensed. You have to get continuing education and be putting in a certain number of hours working in the career field in question to maintain those licenses. If you fail to do so, you probably have to take qualifying exams again and possibly retake classes as well.
What's more, taking a spot in some of the education programs for these careers denies that spot to someone who might have stayed in the field. I've known certain programs to use likelihood of staying in that field as one of their criteria for program admission.

I'm very happy to see that there are still girls out there with this mindset. Follow that star. Best of luck to you.

[–]cqmille 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Do you have any examples for these careers? I’m in a similar situation and I’m still deciding on what career/job I want to do.

[–]TwoStingray 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love this, thank you for posting.

[–]Livid_Video_9553 32 points33 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hi, I’m 16 and I want to be a homemaker too!! Choosing a kind of lifestyle is a personal decision so please do not let anyone bring you down bc of it. My best piece of advice is to help yourself grow! Do things that make you feel good, learn what you do and do not like, and surround yourself with people and things that will help you with that in a positive way (both irl and social media). It’s definitely goin to take a while but starting this early is a great thing! If you have any questions feel free to reach out :)

[–]vivalachavez 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I would say still get a skill namely nursing, a medical related tech of some kind, phlebotomists, etc. God forbid you marry a narc or something and have nothing to fall back on and beyond that these skills are crucial when keeping a home/raising kids. You will see some nasty accidents, they’ll get sick and you’ll be more than equipped to nurse them back to health and know what’s going on. Get good at any skills that a homemaker would need - budgeting, organizing, rearing kids (if that’s in your plan), fixing/sewing things, cleaning, and anything else you can think of. I’m sure I’m leaving out a load of things. Find a community of like minded ppl

[–]holyshamoleyalright 8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a homemaker, and I hope that works out for you, if it's still what you want later.

But SO many of us thought we had safe, secure families and then had the rug pulled out from under us. It's terrifying to have no skills, no income of your own, and kids you now have to support fully on your own.

I've been there myself, and I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

You can avoid that experience by having a career of your own. Then, once you've decided it's time to be a SAHM, you can step away from your career, with the point being that you have something tangible to fall back on in case that rug gets pulled.

It's not romantic, but the truth is, the divorce rate is high. And of those who do stay married, how many are genuinely happy?

Always, always give yourself a safe way out -- and that means having the ability to make at least a living wage on your own, should you need to.

[–]lemongrooved 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Right, there’s a strategic way to do so for sure. You want to balance an investment in your self with a low risk of debt.

[–]shittyshitbird 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I knew when I was about your age that this is the direction I wanted to take as well. I didn’t so much want to be a “homemaker” as I mostly wanted to stay home with my children during their formative years. I currently stay home with our two young children, and we live on one income.

My advice to you would be to plan your future accordingly. If your parents can’t pay for your tuition in full, make sure that you do everything in your power to not come out of college with debt. Same can be said for consumer debt. Stay out of debt! While living your life on your terms, as a fully integrated and self sufficient adult, make your priorities clear to your dating prospects.

Once you are married, and continuing to work don’t get yourself into a position where you are depending on two incomes. Live off of one income, and save the rest. This means sacrifice for most. Used cars, maybe renting instead of buying for a time, etc. Staying home with your children and running a household is rewarding, but can also be boring and thankless. Run it like a job. Make a list for the day, and treat it seriously. If you do plan to return to your job one day (let’s be honest- most people have jobs, not careers) you can keep one foot in the game by volunteering in your field now and then, or working part time around your other duties.

The way I have chosen to live my life is wholly unpalatable to most of my family. They truly feel as though I am squandering my potential, giving power up to my husband, and lazily lounging around. But do not let other people sway you in your convictions. Live your life according to your morals and fuck the rest. Godspeed!

[–]TheMartianArtist6 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I dealt with that, too, so I started telling people I was going to be an astronaut. The comments stopped and I went on to do what I wanted :)

[–]AnotherRichard827379 14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I’m in college 20M. I don’t want to correspond much as that’s not very appropriate. But I do want to encourage you to hold fast to what you value. It will pay off in the long run. Don’t give in to peer pressure.

I’m in college now and there are many young women who share your worldview and desires. You’ll find your niche and perfect man. I promise.

God Bless.

[–]Feeliner 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just make sure that you're married first. Never give a man wife privileges' unless you're married.

[–]PhaedrusHunt 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"If you don't feel resistance from the Devil it's because you're running WITH the Devil."

My daughter is about to be 15.

I think you have a great attitude.

Just remember to be true to yourself, no matter what the cost.

[–]timissick 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Best way is to get yourself educated. Teaching degree is number one.

[–]MrCopacetic -5 points-4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Rearing children earlier... thats the kind of energy your children will sincerely appreciate.

Everything is different now. Don't listen to sour dinosaurs who think a tiny 5 year window for children in 30's is in any way clever. One small slip either him falling foul or whatnot during said window, it rudely just shuts closed. Fertility treatments. $$. 1-2 kids max. This can be extremely stressful and unnecessarily disheartening.

Don't dive blind. But why people would set such crass limitations on themselves is beyond me. Some guys want to be 100% financially prepared full steam ahead - she doesn't work - provide cleaners to help during day. so they can wake her up in middle of night for sex no complaints. This requires a business foundation. Be more selective for wealth. Countless high value men have both. Find them.

anyways i digress. remember now You can self teach anything on the internet. Its the most advanced tool humanity has ever had in history. Use it wisely. The relative benefits of expensive college and post secondary for actual learning is relatively lesser nowadays. Just don't stop learning.

The energy afforded as youth is useful , and its phase is as uniquely important and beneficial as those that follow. Trust your instincts. But What do i know.

[–]vivalachavez 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hey man a lot don’t agree with you here apparently but I see what you’re saying.

[–]VolleyBallCheers 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is totally viable! Don't be discouraged! It's normal to want to be a homemaker!

[–]CochinoChingon 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

A friend's daughter (16) has the same goals, at first my aversion wasn't because I'm against marriage, I just don't like kids and forget that other people want them around.

There was a post I saw somewhere, that a female doesn't get why other females think she's crazy for wanting a lasting marriage. And she gave the example of how she landedher husband. She got a degree in finance/CPA with minors in stuff's to how to manage/run a business. She lounged around the STEM buildings, set her sights on a man and always more pastel color dresses. Tailored/altered a suit for him andtook CE cooking classes that were from his region (he's a foreigner). There were a few more things she said she did but I cannot recall at the moment.

Good luck

[–]TwoStingray 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You are so not alone! 15 is a tough age. You are becoming interesting and finding your ground. My advice is try not to hide yourself. You will find your people by being willing to open yourself up, even in the face of criticism. I think your aspiration to be a stay-at-home-mom is wonderful. I wish I had pursued this at an earlier age.

[–]Rosee-lil-feet 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You may want this now but that could change since you are so young. I would focus on the present and enjoy your youth

[–]lensneko 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I became a RPW at 16 and have been for 3 years and was surrounded by BP people throughout HS. A lot of teenagers nowadays want to do typical teenager stuff instead of think about their future or start a family. Knowing this, please realize that no one knows your goals in life better than you do

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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