I feel constantly pushed and forced to sleep around by the general culture, but I’ve always done what I wanted to do— which is to be careful and be picky.

However, I’ve also always grown up hearing that I need to “come of age” and “figure out what I like.” I’ve actually been berated, insulted and asked weird questions by women and men when my cautious approach has come to light. I really want to shake this so that I can confidently own my truth and have it not be weird one day when I tell the truth to a future SO.

I’m feeling very down about it tonight and could use some cheering up. I don’t have anyone I’d feel safe discussing this with irl.