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I’m leaving my partner

May 2, 2020

I (26f) am about to end my relationship with my partner (48M). You can check my previous posts about what a loving supportive reliable captain he is. But he just does not treat me with kindness and consideration.

He hurts my feelings and when I tell him he insists on defending himself and turning it around to make it my fault. When I try to show him what he’s doing wrong he says I’m bringing drama and fights into the relationship.

I’m just so tired of living like this. Because it’s just been a continuous cycle from him. As I write this I’m calm and composed ( and sad), I’ve come to accept that although I wanted to build a future with him, I cannot build anything with someone who is not kind and considerate towards me.

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Title I’m leaving my partner
Author Amanda-Black
Upvotes 170
Comments 22
Date May 2, 2020 12:42 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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[–]acertainbella57 points58 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

great! happy that you want to be happy!

[–]blackandwhitemoth43 points44 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I recommend you write down the meanest things he's said to you and look at it if you start to miss him. I kept my ex's nasty texts and it really helped me move on with no regrets.

I'm so glad you've realised that you deserve better.

[–]lyralikeslychees7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's a fantastic suggestion!

[–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

you know what is best for you, put yourself first. i know it’s hard to see people’s true colors, especially if you have been blinded by love before. He sounds like he attains several narcissistic traits and you do not want to spend the rest of your life with that, do you? Your true love is out there waiting :)

[–]AquaticDramatic16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great! In future, I'd be careful about dating much older men. There's a reason they're targeting younger women, and it's not a good one

[–]Fridaylife12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good on you for taking care of yourself. I'm sorry, and I know it's hard. Your future spouse and kids will thank you.

[–]pennynotrcutt11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I remember you. Where are you going? Do you have a set up place to go? Are going home?

[–]Amanda-Black[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Lol. I have a home, a very loving safe and happy home with my parents. In fact it was my mother who supported me and helped me see that I’m in an emotionally abusive relationship. I’m a qualified electrical engineer and I run my own business (which makes good money). So I’m not destitute without him. I was with him because of other benefits ( The guidance, provision and protection of a “captain” ) not because I needed him.

[–]pennynotrcutt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’m so happy to hear that. A lot of women are not in the same position as you. I wish you all the luck in the world. Stay strong!

[–]simmingslytherin4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

i remember one of your previous posts. i'm happy you're taking care of yourself and doing what is right for you :) all the best!

[–]okquestionthen2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good for you!! Your brain is goin make you miss him, save any mean txts and write out things that he say and did. I would also change your phone but that’s just me, if a relationship wasn’t good and didn’t ended well, I just wanna leave it all together and have no contact. Block and change numbers.

[–]vough2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was in a similar relationship, if you need any support through this— please DM me. We ladies are here for you

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[–]Fridaylife15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

She's already leaving, there's no need for a recommendation to fix it. It's more of a post-mortem of things that she needed in a relationship. Captains need to be able to accept alternate perspectives and discuss them in a productive manner. Past that, are you sure your ex is pregnant? or is it a ploy to keep you? also, if she is, find out how far along she is and see if you can recall when was the last time you guys slept together. Don't let her trap you unnecessarily. A lot of women use the "I'm pregnant" to trap dudes and then "suddenly" they have a miscarriage, or it's not yours. Get proof, figure out the timing.

[–]teaandtalk5 Stars10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

And don't use the pregnancy, which may or may not be genuine, as a reason to have more unprotected sex.

[–]224Y0U2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You go girl! You got this! See Waiting to Exhale

[–]fosho_away1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Proud of you girl! Onward and upward to find a better match for everything you bring to the table.

[–]skizzum972 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

How does somebody end up with someone so much older ?

[–]AquaticDramatic11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Older men often target much younger women because they think they're less experienced and therefore more vulnerable to manipulation/staying in abusive situations. Sadly, they're often right (though not in this case, thank G'd)

[–]madjax912 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Exactly this. He's much too old and for some reason can't handle women his own age

[–]Amanda-Black[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Life is challenging. Sometimes you think maybe shacking up with an older man is a good move because he’s experienced the challenges that come with life, maybe he can protect you and help you avoid them.

Unlike being with your age mate, you are lost, he is lost, it’s the blind leading the blind. That’s one of the major reasons one ends up with an older man.

[–]stardust6230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Felt THIS! Please take care.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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