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Just wanted to share some happy developments from a crabby gf!!

July 1, 2019

Sooooo in my relationship Ive been kinda crabby. Some whinyness, prone to silence and being cold when I'm upset. And that's gross. My bf is so very patient and sweet. Literally the personality of a golden retriever. Just sweetness wrapped up in beauty.

So he's training for work and asked me to come see him for a 3 day weekend. His family was also visiting him so we were sharing him over the 3 days for the most part. And honestly, the trip wasnt perfect but he was perfect and I think I'm finally making that distinction. So I wanted to tell you guys how I altered my behavior for certain situations.

1- I invited him to take a walk with me while we were at his family's party. He's a relatively quiet dude and I think I would typically just have stayed yapping with his family, which of course is fine but I wanted to focus on him more. So I politely asked if he'd like to take a walk with me and he looked surprised and said of course. We went on our walk holding hands the whole time while he showed me things in the neighborhood. I got emotional at a certain point because I missed him so much so typically I wouldve caved in inwards with silence but i forced it out and cried to him. That I missed him so much and I just loved him so much. And let me tell you, he held me like I was made of glass and honestly I felt like I was. Then I made us stop to look at a bunny in a bush and a cool beetle on the ground. He just stood there smiling at me while I crouched and tried to communicate with the bunny. 😂 That was an exercise in childlikeness! We stayed out on our walk until his parents called him because they were getting ready for bed at midnight.

2- He was supposed to come to my hotel at a certain time but was late from dropping his family off at the airport and traffic. I had already felt an attitude bubbling because I have had issues with patience. My texts were a little short and he asked me if something was wrong. I redirected my energy and said no and asked him how he was doing instead of voicing my frustration. I let him tell me he was upset because he just wanted to see me. I was still a bit frustrated but once he got to me I held him and told him to get in the bed. Then I redirected that frustration in a way that made us both happy 😂 I can't get mad at him being late because he was fulfilling his obligations to his parents! Airports are just finnicky! We cuddled afterwards and he told me nothing feels better than laying in bed with me.

3- he told me he had a blister on his foot and I think before I would've just been like well you need better shoes. But I told him to let me see his feet and I held them and actually drained it!! Gross. But he was thanking me and giving me forehead kisses so I didn't mind. I'm happy I could alleviate his pain with action instead of telling him something he knows. Duh, you know you need better shoes if these give you blisters.

4- He had taken me and his family out to dinner and the cuisine basically included shrimps with head on. After he got rid of my shrimps heads for me he started teasing me with the severed head (I know 😂) but I just giggled and acted scared because I kinda was but not like a horrified scream and yelling, like a shocked "baby, why?!" Kinda situation. His family laughed and teased us. It was immature but like, why not? Why can't a man tease his woman for 30 seconds? Fun is fun is fun. I'm glad we're still lighthearted and if a shrimp head keeps us playful I can deal with that!

So that was my trip and the ways I've tried to become a better woman for him. I'm trying to put my emotions out more because I have a habit of keeping it in and shutting down. He loves when I laugh until I snort and I think it's wrong of me to not try my hardest to make sure he gets snorts often lol. I'm happy I'm finally finding a way to deliver even negative emotions in a sweet way. In a way that makes him want to keep me safe and happy and precious!

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Title Just wanted to share some happy developments from a crabby gf!!
Author Cookiedoughspoon
Upvotes 101
Comments 8
Date July 1, 2019 5:53 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
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[–][deleted] 46 points47 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

And that is what we call reading the sidebar and applying it in real life. Good for you. It's hard to not vent frustration but you did a good job.

[–]Cookiedoughspoon1 Star[S] 14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thank you, friend! Today he texted me "I love you and this weekend has been a gift that I'll always treasure" 😊 I'm so happy that I didnt allow myself to screw everything up by falling into old habits. I already know I would've caught an attitude and wasted time acting like a garbage can!

[–]countrylemon4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

remember, it's garbage CAN not garbage CANNOT.

[–]clemangerine18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Moments straight out of a romance novel. I'm swooning here.

[–]nicswifey7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Kudos!!! Happy for you two. ❤❤

[–]LookingForEquanimity8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Congrats. Good for you. So much self awareness and turning things around positively. Very happy for you. Hope you keep it up.

[–]thatbadlarry6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You sound friggin adorable omg

[–]countrylemon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow, major personal steps! Love how you channelled your energy into making him feel better instead of dwelling on why you felt crabby. Note taken!

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