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Keeping your nails done

October 4, 2018

I used to think that manicures and pedicures were meaningless wastes of money. “No one’s going to look at my hands or feet!” I thought.

I didn’t realize that I unconsciously did just that. Whenever I talked to a woman (and especially a man but I’ll go into that another time) and saw that her nails were clean, cut and painted, my opinion of her seemed to rise. It showed that if she takes care of “meaningless” things like her nails, she very likely takes care of herself as a whole.

Ever since I realized this, I’ve kept both my hands and feet done. I don’t always go to a salon; I mainly purchase those insta-dry Sally Hansen polishes, clippers and filers and do them myself every week. The effects that doing this has had on my self-confidence is insane. I feel sexier, more feminine and even cleaner. I’ve definitely noticed others glancing at them when we talk (and often complimenting me) and I feel good knowing what this could imply.

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Title Keeping your nails done
Author Ruinedgirl22
Upvotes 92
Comments 92
Date October 4, 2018 2:21 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/RedPillWomen/keeping-your-nails-done.3002
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/9lcble/keeping_your_nails_done/

[–]thatbadlarry48 points49 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I work in healthcare so nail polish isn’t professional but I keep my nails nicely groomed and it really helps my confidence. I keep them nicely shaped and clean. My trick to keeping them groomed is to push back my cuticles every night in the shower and then slather them in Burt’s Bees cuticle balm afterwards before my hand lotion. I’ve really come to love the aesthetic of natural but well-groomed nails.

[–]eatavacado5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh this cuticle treatment is a great idea. Do you find the cream at Walmart?

[–]thatbadlarry3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes you can! Anywhere that sells Burt’s Bees sells their cuticle balm. It’s great stuff and makes me look polished without using actual polish.

[–]SushiWizard1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good tip thanks :) I hate wearing nail polish because I get sensitive skin and scratch quite a bit but doesn't mean I can't pamper my nails

[–]littlepearlisland0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Burt's Bees cuticle balm is literally the best thing ever. I keep a tin in my nail polish box, one in a desk drawer and one in my night stand. It does wonders for my cuticles. Night and day difference.

[–]leftandleaving_63 points64 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

I'm a welder and I still spend $100 every two weeks on lash extensions and long gel nails. it's a bit pricey but it helps me to feel feminine despite my career.

[–]elrabb229 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love the idea of a welder with gorgeous nails 😍😍😍😍

[–]bambiliftsweights6 points7 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Where do you get lash extensions so inexpensive?

[–]leftandleaving_9 points10 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I paid $130 for the first time, and then it's $30 every two weeks to get them fixed up. it really isn't bad at all and they actually look great!

[–]bambiliftsweights2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Wow that’s really inexpensive - are they the full sets? Demi?

[–]leftandleaving_ 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

full set! sorry for the dirty face and neck lol - this is a fresh after work selfie https://imgur.com/a/FfeLurM

[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl[M] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

We don't want your doxxing yourself so we don't allow photos on the site. You should send this in a PM if you want to share with another user.

[–]leftandleaving_2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

my mistake! deleted comment.

[–]PrettyRP4208 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I was going to ask that too! lol....I would love to get them they're just so expensive here. $150 for putting them on and then $75 for refills and that's what I see with groupon

my nails/toes cost me 75 every other week tho

[–]bambiliftsweights4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Me too - 75 plus tip every two weeks. Expensive AF.

[–]bambiliftsweights16 points17 points  (30 children) | Copy Link

This is something I feel super guilty about haha.

I have acrylics and I spend $140 a month on it.

SO ridiculous.

I’ve tried painting my nails but I lift weights every day and they chip instantly.

Press on, all of it.

The only thing that keeps my nails nice, long and feminine is acrylics.

But yeah, it’s expensive.

I did cut out eye lash extensions though because that was also $100 a month.

[–]BraveSquirrel 1 points [recovered]  (7 children) | Copy Link

Sorry to butt in but I just wanted to say, as a guy, this is why I never mind paying up the bill at dinner. The amount of money you ladies spend on looking nice far exceeds the 8.99 I spend on razors every month or two. The least I can do is pick up the check.

[–]bambiliftsweights19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think that’s awesome.

And you have no idea - before I got married and my husband took over the finances, I spent around $500/month on looking sexy.

We’ve massively cut back now but I am not gonna lie; I miss pampering myself a little.

[–][deleted] 23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I wish more guys realized this. We’re not getting free dinners. The heels, dresses, nail polish, makeup, hair products to look good for the date costs us, too lol.

[–]elrabb223 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you!!!!

[–]cherryhearts1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow so appreciative!! This is lovely.

[–]escalover 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

My gym membership and cost of schooling, both mandatory, far exceeds the 10 bucks she spent to have elective cosmetics.

[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl[M] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

We're not playing "whose life is harder"

[–]RedCyren9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Same here. My nails and hands don't mix well with the bar. The other thing I found, because I'm not shy about helping, moving heavy things, etc., was my legs. Bruises all over from weightlifting and being active. It's one of the few reasons I like fall and winter - I can wear tights with skirts and hide the bruises from the gym.

[–]bambiliftsweights1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I also weight lift daily and I haven’t had any issues.

Have you tried acrylics?

[–]RedCyren1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I have, it was just cost, but reading your post made me want to get back into that routine. So thank you!

[–]bambiliftsweights1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You are welcome!!!

[–]ragnarockette5 Stars6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Deciding to get acrylics was honestly a Top 10 life decision. I am a nail biter and I was always so ashamed and struggled to stop for any length of time. I started getting acrylics and it increased my confident tremendously, keeps my hands out of mouth, makes me a better back scratcher, and overall makes me look more feminine and put together!

[–]bambiliftsweights1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Totally agree!!!

Thanks for chiming in!!!

[–]norahlady3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I want to start lifting weights but I also maintain long nails and it's making me nervous about starting! Any tips for lifting with long nails?

[–]bambiliftsweights4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yes - don’t be nervous!

I’ve been doing it for a long time.

I go hard, racking, reracking, I never have to worry about.

First time is terrifying but eventually you don’t even notice.

[–]norahlady3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is so great to hear! I've heard in passing all the time, "I'd love to lift but then I couldn't have long nails", so I guess somewhere along the way I thought I'd have to choose. It's great to hear from someone who does both!

[–]Ruinedgirl22[S] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think that’s awesome! If you’re able to spend that a month, why not? Obviously I’m biased but I think it’s worth it especially since painting them isn’t an option. Having them done is so important to your overall look (and confidence).

[–]bambiliftsweights1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I feel SOOO much more feminine in them!

Thanks for saying that!!

[–]snacksarelife2 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

I thought about getting acrylics, but I haven't gotten them yet because of the lifting. Do they limit you at all in, say, deadlifting?

[–]bambiliftsweights4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

No, I deadlift, squat, use kettle bells, really do whatever.

I even do this plank movement where I have to drag weight on the ground and my nails stay perfect.

I’ve had no issues at all and perfect nails 24/7.

[–]snacksarelife4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Awesome! Thanks for informing me ;) My nailpolish gets chipped all the time from lifting, so I will consider it as an option.

[–]bambiliftsweights0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It’s a great option!

[–]eatavacado2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Are your nails short? Do you get them done or do them yourself?

[–]bambiliftsweights2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

They are very long - they look like this

And I have them done twice a month.

It’s my one high maintenance thing.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

they definitely limit me, I pull sumo so my long nails ALWAYS scratch my quads, specifically my "over" hand because I pull over under grip.

[–]snacksarelife0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ahhh, I see. I pull sumo as well, either over-under or over-over...

[–]eatavacado2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

With the press ons.. do you take them off for working out?

[–]bambiliftsweights2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No they fell off almost immediately.

Or I felt like they would.

I hated them.

[–]79seconds2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Maybe Lashify? Or those Ardell individuals-wayyy cheaper.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Has anyone managed to keep regular polish from chipping and their nails from getting ridiculous? I can’t justify the time and money to get shellac or solars anymore and it gets so annoying to maintain. I’d like a low cost option that looks nice for more than two days.

[–]merel--13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Use a good base coat and put top coat under the nail to connect the top part and bottom part. So basically wrapping the tip in top coat. They last between 4 and 7 days. Sometimes I use top coat again to make them more durable.

[–]snackysnackeeesnacki8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I never thought about wrapping around the topcoat. That is genius.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, I use Nail Tek strengthener, then the Nail Tek ridge filler (makes the polish go on very smooth) and the top coat is Seche Vite quick dry. It's thicker, almost like a gel. Polish the tips and do the same with the top coat, because the top coat shrinks the polish a tiny bit. Get a cuticle pusher and cuticle softener to push them back. Polish doesn't adhere to skin well, you want it on dry nailbed. All of the above can be gotten at Sally's for $20 or less.

[–]U_Can_Have_The_Crown12 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I bought a gel polish kit (light, base coat, color, top coat) and do gel manicures bi weekly. Saves so much money and looks just as good as Salon.

[–]krizzlemahnizzle1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Do you use one of those UV light things to set the gel polish yourself? I'm been wondering if it's worth getting one.

[–]U_Can_Have_The_Crown0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I do. I got a kit from Ulta called red carpet manicure. It was a total kit for I think $60ish. It’s been so worth it. Once I used the base coat and top coats in the kit I started buying them off amazon.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

for anyone trying to grow their nails out naturally - a biotin supplement has made mine so much healthier and i'm now able to keep them long and shaped for the cute high maintenance look!! before i started taking it either they would break or i would compulsively rip them first. now they're so strong that i can't even tear them off when i get the urge to 😊

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Mine tear and rip constantly! I've never ever ever in my life had nice natural nails. I'm ordering this stat. Thanks for the advice!

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

biotin is great for a lot of women I know but it makes my eyebrows, bikini, and arm hair grow like crazy haha!

[–]krizzlemahnizzle1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Also, if you use the oil cleansing method to wash your face, rub the extra oil into your nails! It's helped my nails get so much stronger over time.

[–]HappySoutherner7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I spend $80 a month on gel nails. I love choosing fun colors and the way they look. I feel pretty. Also, according to my fiancé, no back scratch feels as good as one done with natural nails.

[–]merel--6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I know! It's so weird that you feel so much prettier with nail polish on.

[–]eatavacado8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Do you have any methods of keeping the skin nice and smooth around and above the nail? I often get the little tiny pieces of skin sticking out when I don’t go get them done, and I’d like to get in the habit of doing them myself since I need to keep them short anyway for playing guitar.

Also, as a guitar player, are there any other musicians who have figured out how to spunk up theirs nails so their okay with not being able to have long nails? I’ve started really wanting them for the past year, but it’s not worth not playing.

[–]cherryhearts3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

More moisture! You can also lightly file the rougher skin before you do. Try wearing some moisture gloves once a week or so. That's one of my biggest annoyance when it comes to my nails, I garden so they get pretty roughed up.

Also when I had to keep my nails shorter, just invest in nice polish (top coat and base coat) (maybe at home gel). Keep them filed nicely and use cuticle oil. You can also go polish free just ensure they're nice and clean all the time.

I know the 'single black dot nail' looks really nice on shorter nails and it's really subtle and wouldn't chip on the strings.

[–]eatavacado1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for the black dot idea!!! Definitely using this I’m so excited!

[–]littlepearlisland0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Using a cuticle oil or balm will help with the skin around the nail.

[–]Kara__El4 Stars8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I love painting my nails fun colors. I definitely don't go to salons. My husband would be furious if I spent $80 a month on my nails and I feel that's fair. I do love a good Sally Hansen instant dry topcoat, though!

[–]Ruinedgirl22[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oooh I never thought of getting the top coat! Getting that today lol.

Yeah I don’t blame your husband. Life would be great if I could spare that much a month but, yea, not smart at the moment

[–]Kara__El4 Stars1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That topcoat is the only reason I have the patience to paint my nails. Lol.

[–]Mewster18181 Star4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

If I didn't ruin my manicures immediately I'd keep my nails done, but I'm just too hard on my hands. :/

[–]honey-laden 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

have you tried gel polish?

[–]Mewster18181 Star2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah, but my natural nails are pretty weak and I get my hands wet too often for it to hold up.

[–]norahlady4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I started getting hard gel nail extensions and it has made such a difference. I try to choose classy colors and modern shapes/designs (my nail girl loves doing nail art) and I get CONSTANT compliments from women and men. I never thought men cared much about things like that, but it's something they really seem to notice and comment on. Plus I just feel put-together and confident everywhere I go! It is expensive but with hard gels + gel polish I can go three weeks between fills, and they seriously look 95% as flawless on day 20 as they did on day 1.

I haven't been paying as much attention to my toes. I live in a cold climate and almost always wear closed-toe shoes, plus I'm a pretty avid runner + hiker which is pretty rough on my feet. I think I've been using that as an excuse to let my feet be gross! Haha. I would really like to start taking better care of them, but I think that's probably something I could do myself at home.

[–]perkysue5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Because we live in the mountains and it’s a drive into town, a couple winters ago I bought a UV light and do gels. Because I do a lot of yard work, stack wood, etc, I’m hard on them, so I renew every week on Thursday. My husband loves them.

[–]souponastick4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

When I was unemployed and living off my severance I still got my nails done. It was the one thing that made me feel put together in such a tumultuous time. I was only unemployed for 2 months cause I still put forth tons of effort and never let myself falter. No regrets.

[–]Bea_LeChat12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

DH asked me when I came home from the salon: "why do girls obsess over their nails?"

Me: "because it makes everything we touch more fabulous. Like the steering wheel of my fabulous car. And the brilliant words I type on my keyboard" (doing air-driving and air-typing)

Him "Yes I see what you mean. But we should run more experiments. There are some other things you can touch." (with spicy smile)

Me "Yes fabulous"

[–]tinderoglu 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy Link

I’m a dude. If a girls nails are bitten or look horrible I’m instantly turned off. I don’t want to have nicer nails and hair than the girl I’m with! Also putting your fingers in your mouth after you’ve touched countless doors, keyboards and other germ infested surfaces is fucking disgusting.

[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl[M] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Make your point without your gender. Personal preferences are not advice and remember that men must have an active presence on TRP before posting advice on RPW.

[–]tinderoglu 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

Cool I didn’t know that rule

Btw TRP got quarantined tho I was pretty active before that happened

[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

TRP still exists and remains quite active :-) . You have to access it through a computer the first time but then it will pop back up on the apps.

[–]Chemtrails2k161 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I get acrylics($30) done, with a refill($15) every few weeks. Of course they try to push for the uv gel, but honestly the acrylic with shellac is strong enough for me and doesn't break the bank. I keep them filed in almond shape, and change the colors based on seasons. I love how it looks, and I feel sexy and confident digging into finger food I'm not grossing anyone out. Not to mention pets and (potential) bf love them for scratches. :)

**also ladies magnetic lashes are a game changer.

[–]thatbadlarry2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Tell me where you get your magnet lashes pretty, pretty please! Definitely want to give it a go

[–]Chemtrails2k162 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I buy them on eBay very cheap. And then when they get here I cut them into three so they're much easier to place. Takes me like a minute to do my lashes each morning, and they last quite a while. Just curl and add mascara BEFORE the lashes. Also I hear Sephora has them, but personally the $2-5 lashes on eBay are good quality. So why pay more for the same thing?

[–]thatbadlarry2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good to know! Thank you

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yesss! Love magnetic lashes. The ardell ones are great and only twelve bucks. I cut them into sections. Makes applying them so easy.

[–]videlachkadua1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Understandable. It especially looks good with jewelry. Like a nice ring and bracelet. :)

[–]AnnaAerials1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

I am a big believer in having your nails done. I posted this on r/nails. Any girls who are nail biters or who want to stop using acrylic but their nails are too weak maybe this will help- My before & after

[–]sunfleur 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

You should post to r/RedditLaqueristas too! They would love this over there

[–]AnnaAerials0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh gosh thank you!! I was searching for a more active nail subreddit

[–]letgoor1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Read your post and your nails are so beautiful! I’m not a nail biter but I do have “weak” nails and they don’t grow to be thick like yours. Are you saying that filing them is better than cutting them down for growth? I just started taking a biotin supplement so hopefully they will grow stronger, but they have always been weak :/

[–]AnnaAerials1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yes! A good glass file is about $8AUD. Invest in one, and learn to file with the grain of your nail fibre ,not against (google videos or images about it) Biotin is great and taking a supplement is good if your nails are weak due to nutrition- it may be worth seeing a GP as weak nails and hair loss can be a sign of a bigger thing and they can also test to see how deficient you are :)

The one thing I’ll stress is get an oil for your nails and massage them daily or as often as possible, the stimulation of blood flow helps heaps- especially if you have bad circulation. I recommend watching nail care videos from simplynailogical

[–]letgoor1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Amazing, thank you for all the advice and I will do this all! I’ve wanted beautiful nails for so long 💕how long did it take you for you to see noticeable results? What’s the timeline between your before and after pic?

[–]AnnaAerials1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think the timeline is maybe over a year for the physical pictures but they were in healthy and fine shape before then. Depending on how fast your nails grow (mine tend to grow fast) and depending on how thin or brittle yours are, maybe the “white part” or end part of the nail may have to grow out 5 times (shaping each time) if that makes sense. In terms of months, I want to say 4 months until you’d see something you were really happy with. All the best 💓💓

It’s also worth getting a manicure professionally once or twice to see how they paint nails and take care of the cuticle :) there’s little tips you’ll grab alone the way such as “wrapping the tip” of the nail with polish to prevent chipping in the polish. Painted nails are also strong nails, I’m a big believer that naked nails are short nails!

[–]organicsunshine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Very important. I do acrylic cause it lasts longer and I cook a lot. He pays for it.

[–]cocksuckaddict1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love it too. I usually get a french tip, I know some find them tacky but I like the look.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think this is one of those things where practicality is more important. I can't stand having long nails. They get in the way of everything. Painted is fine.

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