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Liberal Female Friends

January 3, 2021

I discovered this subreddit and have read so many of the past posts due to my excitement. I saw a common theme on women in this subreddit having difficulties gaining or keeping female friends.

The posts I've seen are proclaiming that most females are too liberal/feminist and generally do not share the same ideologies, making it difficult to be friends with them. Or, that OP struggles to gain friends in the first place and that they are lonely because of it. I've personally struggled with loneliness and as someone who is new in this sub, I believe I have a few tips.

To find friends

  1. Social media: use it specifically to catch up with old friends/ acquaintances. I personally used "hey, I saw __ and it reminded me of you! How have you been?". However, social media can be very detrimental to your mental well-being if you compare yourself to everyone's life. Do not looking at what everyone else is doing and also remember that people are only posting their best lives in it.
  2. Take up a new hobby that involves a group: sewing, book club, volunteering, pole dancing, cooking, etc. (I acknowledge that this point and #3 is harder due to COVID)
  3. Chat with people while doing chores outside. Worst case scenario, they ignore you. Usually, you leave with a funny story. You may leave with a new friend. If you like this individual, leave them with your number (don't ask for theirs) so that they can chose if they'd like to talk to you again.
  4. Old people. Most of them will give you HOURS of their time. They are full of life lessons and, honestly, you're probably filling a much needed void in their lives.

To keep friends, remember these:

  1. Look at yourself first. If you believe that other females are too liberal/feminist and you get annoyed by them, they are picking up on that. If you believe that you are better than them in any way, you are giving off subtle cues. Realize that they may not want to be friends with you because they feel your animosity whenever they talk to you.
  2. Find commonalities and put those foremost. Maybe they care about family, they volunteer on the weekends, they've given good advice, they have the same hobbies. Focus on those instead of what makes you different.
  3. Use RPW methods on them. If talk suddenly goes to a topic that makes you uncomfortable and respond the way you would to your s/o. Gently, firmly, and respectfully assert yourself. Ex) If a topic goes to "all men are trash", then you can interject with "I don't necessarily agree with putting a blanket statement on a group of people. This subject feels negative to me, can we change the subject?"
  4. Learn humility and curiosity. You can learn from your worst enemy. With friends, you can learn from them AND have fun with them.
  5. See the gray. None of us are black and white. I love domesticated activities, am very feminine, love elegance, and am very realistic about the expectations placed on women by society and am using those expectations to further my own fulfillment. I also care about advancing other woman to a more equitable standing. I have both RPW and feminist ideologies.

Curious to know other methods you've found.

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Title Liberal Female Friends
Author sunnyjizz2
Upvotes 120
Comments 13
Date January 3, 2021 9:05 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
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[–]Javret25 points26 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

This is a great post! We should have like a link to this on the side somewhere. This kind of question comes up a lot.

I need to work on not showing my disgust in my face/subtle actions. One girl in a class of mine did a presentation and my teacher called me out on my opinion just by my face...

A few tips I have:

Pay attention to who gets quiet in your friend group when political discussions come up. That person probably either doesn't care or has the exact opposite position as the person talking. This isn't a guarantee but I made most of my true friends this way.

Getting quiet yourself can also be helpful. You don't need to scream anything out to the world if you don't want to. Being mysterious is okay. It sucks to bite your tongue but there are some friendships you just need to save.

And it's okay to drop them if it just doesn't work. I had to do it recently. They were nice and we settled our differences until they started to get snarky. Questions like "Why do you dress like a nun?" and remarks like "You'd have to be stupid to believe in (x)" got to me. It is okay to leave if you need to. I wasn't able for many years but now that I have, the weight is off of my shoulders!

A text/message that says something like this is a polite way to end a friendship:(The REAL way is to say it to their face but if the friendship has broken down, it can be hard!)

"Hey (Friends), I really appreciate that you have taken the time to hang out with me. I just (decided to take more classes, a promotion at work, involved in something really time intensive) so I'm not sure how much I will be able to hang out. I appreciate that our friendship has been so much fun. If I see you around, please don't be a stranger! -(your name)"

It can be tempting to set the world on fire when you end a friendship. Be the bigger person. This isn't the Mean Girl's scene where Regina George throws the burn book around. It's real life and real feelings. If you can't leave your emotions out of it, copy and paste what I wrote above. Don't be Regina!

(Sorry if that seemed obvious but I didn't know how to end a friendship, politely, until like last year.)

[–]sunnyjizz2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh wow, this is great! Thanks for your addition. I love how you ended things and I hope you are ok.

[–][deleted] 28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Old people is a really pro-tip. Some of the people that I hang out with the most now are more than two decades older than me. I get coffee regularly with this 80 year old man at my parish who is such a wealth of knowledge.

[–]JadedByEntropy8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Old people are the best! They care, are smart, know how to keep friends.

And second the pole dancing.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Word up on old people pals.

Im part of a kind of fringe religion so I make friends online through that.

[–]Robin4la1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

May I ask, what is your religion?

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Torah observant Christian, or messianic

[–]HornyBackToad1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

See the gray.

Truly gracious advice!!

[–]MTB135791 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Old people really are the best to talk to lol

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yep. Honestly most of my elderly college professors are far more calm than most of the kids. The shame is that I wouldn't really want to talk to them in person right now unlike my other friends, given that covid may be a risk.

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[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's the name of the sub you are on.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Try talking to ladies around the world. Pen pal ladies in East Europe, Asia, etc are generally far more tolerant of illiberal ideology in my experience. NA and Western Europe may be harder to find friends in.

Africa is honestly a cool place as well, as long as you avoid scams. South America varies, but it isn't as culturally liberal as the west for the most part. Just beware that sometimes people from poorer countries may request money, and make sure not to get used. I think charity is nice, but giving money for friendship never works.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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