Something I have noticed about mainstream feminism and mainstream feminists is that, even among those who are more reasonable or those passive followers who claim not to like the radicals, they love misery.
They just can't get enough of it. And they can't abide seeing someone doing something differently, or even the same way, who is happy.
The same feminists can complain that a happy housewife is abiding by a 1950s patriarchal structure that oppresses her and that a happy career woman is sleeping her way to the top. The same feminists can complain that a happy young mother is being hurt and oppressed and that a single woman happily sleeping with a number of men is being used by them. Whenever someone claims to be happy, feminism is here to say "No, you're not, you're just kidding yourself. REALLY you're sad and hurt and miserable."
The only women feminism seems to like? Sad women. If a woman is an unhappy housewife airing her dirty laundry then that's fine. If a career woman admits to sleeping her way to the top or complains about how hard it is and how lonely she is, then she's encouraged. If a young mother is stressed, overworked and doesn't really like her children, that is admirable. If a woman is sleeping around and having difficulty coming to terms with her feelings on it then she is lauded as some sort of heroine. When you're miserable, feminism is here to cuddle you, coddle you and tell you that it's all men's fault, or the patriarchy's fault if there isn't a man to directly blame. The unhappy housewife is oppressed by internalized misogyny and her husband. The career woman is oppressed by her male coworkers and the glass ceiling. The young mother is oppressed by her children and their father. The single woman is oppressed by these noncomittal men and her own internalized misogyny.
Mainstream feminism sets out looking for illness, makes it up or creates it when it fails to find it and presents itself as the cure to these ailments.
And in many ways this seeking can actually help. Looking for social illness when there is an illness can help. If someone is genuinely unhappy, why shouldn't they look for the cause? It has helped people overcome all forms of discrimination and has helped us craft a world where we are largely free to do as we please, largely without hurting other people. But when the illness is not there, it hurts. Because feminism can't exist without illness. It needs to be the source of a cure, or, when there is no cure, it needs to be the treatment itself. When the children are healthy, feminism needs to feed them rat poison and break their legs so it can heal them again. When the children can't be hurt, feminism needs to lock them indoors and tell them they are ill until it can poison them again.
Because if people, especially women, are happy, feminism can't do anything. So it must assume everyone is ill, convince everyone they are ill and its followers must make themselves ill so that feminism can keep on curing people.
And this is why we need to avoid this sort of thought pattern.
Feminism tries to make you ill or make you think you are ill insidiously.
It says you are being hurt if you're a happy housewife.
It says you are being oppressed if you're a working woman.
It says your male partners can't lay a finger on you even if you beat them black and blue.
It says that forcing you into sex and denying you sex are both just as violent.
When an unhappy feminist, even a normally rational mainstream feminist, or feminist-lite, questions your happiness, that is because they need to find an illness to cure. They want you to be ill.
But that isn't a healthy mentality. When you are continually dissatisfied, continually looking for the next best thing and continually looking for reasons not to be happy, you are guaranteed to be unhappy. No matter who you are, what you do, who you're with or where you're heading, if you are looking for oppression, unhappiness and the likes, it will find you.
By all means, if you are genuinely unhappy take a long hard look at yourself, your situation and ask why.
But if it isn't broken, don't break it just so you can fix it.