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Making my husband's lunch

June 16, 2019

Over this past few months, I began making my husband's lunch to take to work each day. Before, I often did it, but not every day like I am now. And honestly, I had no idea how much something so simple would mean to him.

As a SAHM I do everything around the house (cooking, cleaning etc.), that I would have never imagined a job that takes me five minutes would make my husband so happy. I don't do anything too complicated - leftovers or a nice sandwich and fruit, and usually some homemade cake or a cookie baked with our toddler.

But it really is something that he's so thankful for. Apparently his work mates always think he has the best lunches and he likes telling them I made it for him. It's also a nice little reminder of me when he works long, hard shifts.

Is there anything so simple you do for your captain that he just loves and looks forward to?

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Title Making my husband's lunch
Author Theflowerswillbloom
Upvotes 215
Comments 53
Date June 16, 2019 5:24 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–]artemis28648 points49 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

It means soo much to my husband when I make breakfast and his lunch! I'm 36 weeks pregnant now, so it's not always happening as much as I'd like. And on the days I'm not well enough to get up and out of bed and handle food smells, it is defintely missed.

And like you, it takes only a few minutes. But it really makes his whole day better. Homemade dinner really means a lot to him as well. He's capable of cooking, but he loves my food so much more haha!

Even simple things around the house, like organizing a messy drawer of his, doing the laundry, and cleaning the kitchen. He's always more than willing to help, especially since I'm so pregnant right now, but when I'm well enough to take care of it it means a lot to him. One of his love languages is acts of service. A simple massage puts him on cloud nine too! I've picked up some basic techniques from getting them at chiropractors offices for years, plus some personal study, and he would take one every day if I had the energy haha!

[–]Theflowerswillbloom[S] 13 points14 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

It really is often the smallest things that mean the most I find :).

[–]jsxtasy30416 points17 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Good gawd woman... A wife that fixes hubby a home spun lunch everyday... You're the star of the show, MVP, superwoman... Even upon realizing what this means to your hubby I still don't think you fully understand. This is our home away from home in that box, our reason to stick out our chest and brag.. Yep that's my wife, what did you get, oh McDonalds huh, yeah well I'm happy for you just don't touch my treasure lol. You're a great lady, keep up the wonderful job you're doing and don't ever think your hubby doesn't appreciate it beyond words because he does.

[–]FRedington22 points23 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Years ago I worked for HighTechBigCompany. I often ate in the company cafeteria. The food there was excellent: standard hot lunch (meat, potato, vege); grill (burgers, chicken, dogs, fries, ...); make-it-yourself sandwich priced by weight (cold cuts, chacuterie, tuna salad, chicken salad, choice of breads or not); salad bar; made to order salad of the day, pasta bar; pizza bar; pizza to order (gas fired real pizza oven); salad in roti to order (roti baked in the pizza oven); stir fry to order; smoothie bar; ... -- Food intended to keep you on-site for lunch; priced right (you cannot get $5 worth of food on your tray without stacking it.

Now comes a fellow I didn't know to the cafeteria, an anglo guy. At the time I was in my 20s; he looked to be late 40s. He brought his lunch and sat with his colleagues; they were accounting types. His lunch was made for him by his wife (Japanese): a covered bento box wrapped in a place mat with cloth napkin, chopsticks, and other necessary tools, sauces, whatnot. Visually it would appear that it was professionally made, but he said that his wife did every item of it herself. -- She puts reminders, love notes, short readings, humor in the kit with it.

He tells me that she works a few hours per day on commissioned art things, no kids. She makes him a hot breakfast daily, makes his lunch from leftovers and/or things prepared while she is making dinner the night before. Most are from the Japanese cuisine.

He says that the lunch is always excellent, that it makes the day better, is appreciated more than he had imagined it would, it helps sustain the bonds between them. At that time I envied him.

[–]Theflowerswillbloom[S] 10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

What a lovely story. I think there is something so special about food, homemade with love. I know that for me a big way that I show love to my husband is by cooking his favourite meals from scratch each night.

[–]jsxtasy3042 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Absolutely, I also envy him. My ex of 29. Yrs (and I'm not meaning to be an ass or speak bad of her, just what it was) wasn't really taught to cook as my MIL sucked at cooking Also but for 29 yrs + we survived on the few things she could cook, my cooking and fast food or take out. After the divorce I swore the only way a woman would have a chance.... Just one of the things but an important one... Is that she has to be able to cook decently to some degree or deals off lol, I ( lovenly) refer to my ex as Peg... As in Peg Bundy and it wasn't because of her red hair but because of her cooking skills 😂.

[–]Banjaiel2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

the house, like organizing a messy drawer of his, doing the laundry, and cleaning the kitchen. He's always more than willing to help, especially since I'm so pregnant right now, but when I'm well enough to take care of it it means a lot to him. One of his love languages is acts of service. A simple massage puts him on cloud nine too! I've picked up some basic techniques from getting them at chiropractors offices for years, plus som

Read 'how to get the love you want'. You're doing great stuff, and ther'es more gems in that book waiting for you.

[–]teaandtalk5 Stars26 points27 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Can I suggest adding a little note? Mine loves that :)

[–]MightyNerdyCrafty18 points19 points  (5 children) | Copy Link


My intended had the most unexpected 'stars in his eyes' reaction when I had packed his lunch into little labeled bags, and drew a relevant picture on the one marked 'cutlery'. (Apparently, it was something his dear mother would do, that he had never mentioned before!)

OP, would your child like to have that as their regular 'secret job of the day'?

That way, they can contribute even when they don't get to help with meals.

[–]teaandtalk5 Stars3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Ooh, what's the 'secret job of the day'?

[–]MightyNerdyCrafty9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Little One/s get to draw a picture to be included with working-parent's lunch! Shh! It's a secret!

We'll tell you when you're older!*

*My parents used that last one on me and would either forget, or not tell me. (Or so I thought, in the moment.) Very irritating to tiny me, so YMMV. What would be a better equivalent?

[–]teaandtalk5 Stars2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Mine always said 'Never you mind'!

[–]teaandtalk5 Stars0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

(and that's adorable!)

[–]Theflowerswillbloom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That is an adorable idea, thank you.

[–]Theflowerswillbloom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What a great idea! I often leave notes when he comes home after a night shift, but never in his lunch before.

[–]thatbadlarry18 points19 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Just a little story on this topic - I had to make a sudden 2 day drive to see my mom when she was palliative. I stayed the night with my old best friend who I hadn’t seen in at least 4 years. We have been best friends for 20 years and I taught her how to cook. When it came time to get on the road again she handed me a lunch. She made a tuna sandwich just the way I like it (toasted bread and with pickles) and a homemade chocolate muffin. I totally cried when I saw it. I was so so so touched. It was just a tuna sandwich but that act of love and thoughtfulness and the fact that she remembered how I like my tuna from like two decades ago - just made me feel so so so loved and supported in a really hard time. I ugly cried on the side of the road and called her to say how much I love and appreciate her when I ate it. Now I get why making food for the people you love is so important. The simplest act of service is one a good partner will appreciate so much. I always thought making lunch for your man was no big deal till my BFF did it for me.

[–]Theflowerswillbloom[S] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

What a beautiful, sweet story. Thank you for sharing.

Shortly after I had my second baby, my sister visited, bringing a massive lasagne, chicken noodle soup, and Victoria sandwich cake. It was so thoughtful of her during a time that I needed to rest, and meant more than any lovely baby clothes or flowers we received (and I love flowers!)

[–]thatbadlarry0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Your sis knew what was up! What a thoughtful lady

[–]organicsunshine4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Being cared for is so meaningful.

[–]thatbadlarry2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It sure is. “Food is practical love” is something my Grandma used to say and she was 100% right.

[–]MrTrizzles12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

If we are in the same residence she will always wave me off to business in the morning. She would be hurt if she missed me. Small gesture but it touches on a couple virtues that aren't always easy to regularly demonstrate to one's man. I do miss it when she is absent. I cannot think of a better way to transition into battle.

[–]Theflowerswillbloom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That is lovely, my husband likes this too.

[–]myrtlebtch9 points10 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

My husband got used to me making breakfast, so the day I don’t feel like cooking he gets mad. I might have spoiled him.

[–]pigghenuette128 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

The one thing that somehow always makes my SO turn into little-kid-happy-mode is that when I get a text that he’s having a shit day at work, I always pick up his favorite candy (mike-n-ikes)

For whatever reason he never buys them for himself and when I set up his computer at home for on-call work with a box of that candy you’d think I gave him the stars. It’s adorable and I love doing it. Little things!!

[–]Theflowerswillbloom[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Oh that is kinda adorable!

[–]pigghenuette124 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thank you! The only problem is, he eats the whole box 😂 one time he had to work 8 days straight- 12 hours in person, 12 nights on call. So I bought like four boxes and separated serving sizes into sandwich bags and drew on them so he could still have them but also not overload on candy. He thought it was the funniest and cutest thing ever. I spend more time doing little things like that instead of grand gestures and it seems so work best!

[–]teaandtalk5 Stars5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Random homemaking/enviro friendly tip: I have a bunch of small jars that I use for portioning out snacks, they're environmentally better and much nicer to use than sandwich bags imo!

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

As a careergal, I'm slightly jealous. I try making lunches and breakfasts when I can and I get a kick out of it-- when I met some of his co-workers they always talk about how my boyfriend brought the most amazing smelling oatmeal to a meeting and the men all jealously said "Your girlfriend made you breakfast!?" And when he responded with "Yeah she said it's got like 36g of protein in it!" They got even more surprised and went "She counts macros!?!?!"

Apparently he's the envy of all his male co-workers 😂 I must admit I was glowing that my oatmeal got me famous at his work, but I'm often too tired to do all the meal prep despite it being relatively easy to do.

[–]Theflowerswillbloom[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Haha I like that it's funny! I must admit I have no idea about macros, I barely know what they are.

I wish my husband wanted me to make breakfast for him - me and our toddler have porridge (or oatmeal, I'm English) with fruit, pancakes/crêpes, scrambled eggs etc, but my husband just likes cereal lol. He will occasionally have something else, but he always has to have his cereal first - one of his little quirks I guess.

[–]burnie_mac1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes you know, macros are macronutrients aka fat, carbs, and protein.

[–]Fridgemagnetman8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Social validation is a strong moderator of relationship enjoyment. Every time someone ask who made that sandwich he gets to humble brag about his loving wife and see the admiration in his colleagues

[–]thelaineybelle6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My guy is a RP kind of guy. I've been lurking this sub for tips. Definitely cooking him supper daily and rubbing his feet keeps him happy. His love language is acts of service. Not my preferred language, but having my brakes changed, the leaky roof fixed, and a new TV is nice! He is definitely Captain material. Thank you ladies for the encouraging ideas.

[–]Fayve274 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm very fortunate in that my husband has the flexibility to drive home from work and spend lunch with me almost every day during the week (we have a routine of going out together on Friday lunches). We both love that time where we can enjoy a homecooked meal together. I often struggle with feeling like I'm being boring or repetitive in what I'm making for him? It ends up being a lot of omelettes, some wraps, and ideally leftovers (although I usually plan to make extra at dinner and we eat it all instead). Would anyone like to share some ideas of tasty lunch options? I have the benefit of being able to whip things up in the morning, so they don't always have to be fast, but we do both enjoy frugal options with a good amount of protein to help keep an eye on our weight.

[–]Theflowerswillbloom[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

How lovely you get lunch together each day :)

On my husband's days off, I like to make things including:

•homemade quiche (usually with bacon, cheese and some thyme from our garden) and salad

•homemade soup (such as leek and potato with some bacon on top/chicken and vegetable/Thai inspired coconut, prawn (shrimp) and kale/or smoked sausage with potatoes and vegetables)

•egg fried rice or a stir fry (using leftover chicken and lots of vegetables)

•or occasionally multiseeded wraps with hummus, salad, and grilled halloumi, peppers, and courgette (zucchini) inside

[–]Fayve273 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

These are some great ideas, thank you! We usually end up eating a ton of eggs, and he says that he doesn't mind repetition but I think I get tired of meals before him. Soup is a great call though, maybe with some homemade bread!

[–]MsScamander5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

During Summer I always put the whole bedding (pillow and blackets) out into the sun to fresh it up.

When the berries are ripe I pick some for breakfast when I take my evening walk.

[–]Fieryirishplease4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Every morning I get up before my husband no matter when he has to be awake which can be super early sometimes. I blearily stumble into the kitchen to make his coffee, make lunch, pack his cooler with drinks and snacks, and gather the stuff he needs to get out the door in one spot.

It lets him sleep in a little longer and I can give him a kiss and a hug good-bye plus that sweet forehead kiss I get every morning too!

[–]LateralThinker133 Stars2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My wife likes to surprise me occasionally in the evening by washing my feet with a warm wet towel. It comes from her Indian culture, and it's always a real treat. Helps me sleep too.

[–]Banjaiel1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What are his love languages? I'm guessing 'favors' or "tokens of affection". Men that have committed, apparently put huge value on being shown they are appreciated & valued. This is a lovely thing, I'm so glad you stumbled on it.

[–]throwawayacc2661 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

These comments are really wholesome. You all are great wives! :)

[–]MomentArise1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I do this for my man! I pack his lunch every workday and make him espresso for the ride in. (I added a to-go breakfast for a couple weeks in a row, but that got to be too much. I currently also work.) He loves getting it and bragging about like multiple people have said (and not getting fast food like a lot of his coworkers). I’m a VERY proud person, so besides the actual lunch, the act of making it is an exercise in putting my pride aside to do something for him. He texts or calls during each lunch break, and most weeks he brings me home flowers or a treat.

[–]organicsunshine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My man works out of the home. I always pack lunch for work. Typically pre planned leftovers. I always make sure he has a portion and tell him how to prep it before I go. If not, I leave a list of lunch ideas on the fridge of options before I leave. It is a good gesture of love.

[–]Bea_Noemi0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I bring my boyfriend lunch almost daily, it means the world to him. I also don’t mind that others notice and tell him how lucky he is :)

[–]Cumber_Cookie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’m totally single, happily so, but I loved reading how you’re making your husband so happy every day :) What a nice thing to do for another human being!

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