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Masculine men are attracted to feminine women??

April 6, 2016

Red Pill theory says that the more masculine the man is, the more he's attracted to and needs a more feminine woman.

Red Pill theory also says that they wish for a woman to have loyalty, discipline and hobbies they enjoy to keep occupied without having to search for "a better man to quash their tingles."

However, qualities like loyalty, discipline and developing your own hobbies are also masculine (think about how a man improves his self-worth to gain status).

So, doesn't a masculine man ultimately wish for a feminine, nurturing, caring woman to have certain masculine qualities to be able to independently make decisions regarding the house and family while he's off hunting for money and success in the world?


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[–]placated_doll17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Having hobbies and friends is gender neutral. Seriously, this post made me giggle.

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[–]coffeedynamics2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

This is so nice :) Your new girl is an inspiration. I'm happy for you.

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[–]coffeedynamics1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you! That's a wonderful compliment.

[–]MissNissaModerator | MissNissa[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I understand that this was meant as a compliment but it is not appropriate here.

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[–]MissNissaModerator | MissNissa[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This isn't on topic. We're working on some new subreddit and posting rules right now, so keep an eye out to get a clear idea of what is appropriate in this sub!

[–]MissNissaModerator | MissNissa[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Off topic.

[–]L1vewarePr0blem0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for sharing this! She's an inspiration indeed.

[–]MissNissaModerator | MissNissa[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is not the place for your field report/love letter. We're looking for advice written with the primary intent of helping women improve their relationships and lives.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not all things are masculine or feminine. I want a woman who wipes herself, and I also wipe myself, but that doesn't mean wiping yourself is inherently masculine.

[–]ApronString3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

According to Jungian psychology, both men and women possess a masculine aspect (animus) and a feminine aspect (anima). They are inescapable and integral parts of human psychology. It's true that a person possessed by their animus will be drawn to a partner who is possessed by anima (the masculine will attract the feminine), but it's a sliding scale. Anyone who is completely one or the other is a statistical anomaly and has almost certainly excluded multiple other aspects from their personality, particularly if that person has embraced the aspect opposite of their gender.

In other words, there will always be some shared traits between men and women, because although the genders are fundamentally different, there are some things which are just part of being a mature adult.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not in my relationship. I'm bold, very confident and assertive. My man is the exact same way. He hates wishy washy women with no goals and personal interests.

My man and I powerlift together and he loves seeing how physically and mentally strong I am. Of course, he is into the fact that I take care of my body with my diet and training and I'm trim and clean, and that I'm not promiscuous (not now or before I met him). But he isn't looking for a nurturer. We both don't want kids, so that might explain why we work.

[–]fire-fly0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It actually seems to me to be a lot like the alpha - beta spectrum in men. Too far on the alpha/masculine side and women are very attracted, but also tend not to feel secure enough with him to feel comfortable in a relationship as he will also tend toward the womanizer/can't commit side of things. And yet too far on the beta (more feminine..?) side and there's not enough respect and attraction. The best for most women is a middle ground where there isn't too much sacrificed on either end. Either that or they can end up pursuing the dualistic AF/BB strategy.

In women, if they're too far on the feminine side and they may be more child-like, and have less masculine traits like discipline, loyalty, intellectual hobbies, etc, it's true (ie. being quite emotional/all about the 'feels' of the moment, more hypergamous, "my hobbies are clothes and shopping" etc). And yet it's those kind of women who often drive men crazy because they are so feminine, sexy and attractive. But like with men, there are down sides to having a relationship with someone too far at that end of the spectrum, and men often like a partner who has some masculine qualities too. However go too far in that direction and he won't be as attracted.. she might seem more like a buddy, or someone to compete with because they are so similar. So he can try to find a nice middle-ground that suits him, or end up either being very attracted but not really "getting"/relating to his girlfriend and finding her difficult (too feminine/"crazy" ie. too emotional/shit tests/etc), or finding they're more like buddies and aren't necessarily that attracted to each other.

Anyway it's just a theory, and that was pretty messy/quick, but I hope it kinda makes sense ;)

Edit: I want to add that I think that when men have the power & opportunity to do so, they have their own version of AF/BB. In previous times when men were more dominant in relationships and women were homemakers, some men had their woman at home providing them with a clean comfortable home, meals, a mother to their children, sex when they wanted it, and a long-term friend/companion while having the ability to cheat if they wanted to with those super-feminine women that caught their eye (secretaries, waitresses on business trips). Men may be polygynous instead of hypergamous but when they have the opportunity & fall prey to their biological imperative the outcome (a neglected, broken hearted, used, or betrayed spouse) isn't much different!!

[–]RedPillDoll0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Loyalty, discipline, and hobbies could be applied to either gender, IMO. From my experience, a man who wants a "strong" (alpha) woman will be a weaker (beta) man, while the stronger (alpha) man will want to protect and provide for his woman. When the man is alpha and wanting to take care of the woman, it is easier for him if she is nurturing, caring, and supportive of him.

[–]JustClickingButtons0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

All men want a feminine woman.

No man wants to lead when the stakes are insignificant to him.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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