Mothering styles

vanBeethovenLudwig · 2017-05-03T19:37:29+00:00

Yes, I see this pattern in a lot of men I know.

My father was very independent growing up, knew what to do and how to handle everything himself, my grandmother always left him alone. He despises when my mother tells him what to do. He originally chose her because she was sweet and submissive but she turned into a nagging shrew later on.

My boyfriend is the same as my father, handles everything himself. I'm quite submissive and I don't really like telling people what to do (unless I'm at my job).

My brother grew up with my mother being overbearing because he was a really active boy and my mom tried to squash it out of him. He strove to please her throughout his childhood. He chose a wife that wears the pants in the relationship. He is a Greater Beta and she makes most of the decisions.

scallopkid · 2017-05-04T00:26:46+00:00

He's very independent and has an overbearing mother. I think he just naturally digs in his heels. It's both a family trait and a family survival mechanism. I have to remind him to choose his battles and that "all of them" isn't an option.

As for me, I'm very independent and have a very supportive father. I often joke that he's wasted on ME and my apple pie goals. He should be the father of a lesbian traveling author.

kekerae · 2017-05-03T20:20:38+00:00

My husband had a working mom and two younger siblings and was mostly a latch key kid. His mother has admitted on several occasions that she probably wasn't as involved in her sons lives as she should have been. For example, just taking her teens words for it when they said they didn't have homework and then finding out come report card time that they were extremely behind and their grades suffering, etc.

My DH is pretty independent in that he is fully capable in a kitchen or doing housework. I am surprised, but maybe not that surprised because of his mother's statements about how she wishes she was around more, that he is so supportive of me being a SAHM. I stay at home with our 2 year old and have another child on the way due this fall and I know he's very supportive of me continuing to do so until I want to do otherwise.

Title	Mothering styles
Author	vanBeethovenLudwig
Upvotes	14
Comments	4
Date	May 3, 2017 7:09 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	/r/RedPillWomen
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