Hey y’all,

I’m in a 1.5+ year relationship with a man who is fairly RP-oriented, but breaks in a few ways which I appreciate.

He’s currently deployed, so we can only communicate via phone calls. During our last call, he mentioned that it’s getting old that I can only talk about things that bother me through jokes, and that I immediately deflect before we can talk about them head-on.

This is true - I’m a survivor of a childhood filled with physical and emotional abuse which I’m working through (I’m seeing a therapist who specializes in trauma). This isn’t super RP specific, but if humor/deflection was your coping method of choice, how did you get past it?

The way I joke about it has made it really hard for me to be open and direct. Unfortunately, some direct memories pretty much knock the breath out of me/immediately push me to tears. Just looking for like-minded women who get it, I guess!

Thanks :)