Hello everyone! I'm fairly new to the community so I might sound awkward and stuff, but I don't really have anyone to ask for advice about this.
To put it simply, my family is financially disadvantaged. My mother never got married to my biological father, and frankly speaking it was a pretty abusive relationship. Family court isn't help much either. I've made my way into really good schools, and am on my way to a well-ranked university (sorry, I love to humblebrag about this). Pre-tertiary education was severely discounted for me by the school, but even with financial assistance, we struggled financially. University is going to be the most expensive thing, and while school hasn't even begun, my mother has been making suggestions that make me very uncomfortable.
My mom works 2 jobs, at some points 3. I currently also have a part-time job (probably gonna find a different one because my boss is being very inconsistent). However, these few months she's been bringing up weirder jobs, asking me to work with "old men". She won't shut up about this, saying things like "I know a guy. You just work at his place, let old pervs touch you a bit, talk to them, get them to buy you things. Anyways, this kind of socialising is a skill you need. You'll learn how to talk to men. I used to do it." And me, being frustrated with my mother can only think "Yeah, this skill totally made you successful." She doesn't really tell me what exactly the job is. She tries to make it sound like a hostess, but it sounds more like a sugar baby to me??? I've so far given her disgusted faces in response to this, and she just laughs at me. She comes home from work and starts nagging at me for not making enough money, telling me to find a job even though I already have one...but she's right that it isn't making a lot of money.
I'm worried that my image of my mother just worsens as she makes these kind of remarks. It doesn't help me respect her, especially when she recently revealed she was "around $10,000 in credit card debt" and "owe a moneylender $2000". I don't know if she's pushing me to work these jobs because she's stressed about the interest rates for the money she owes, or if she's trying to financially help me with tuition fees/dorm/etc. I know she's in debt and borrowing money (maybe from shady places) for the sake of my education and future, and I'm trying to feel happy about it, but I simply can't find a way to now.
I'm just wondering if there's anyone else here who's been/is in a similar situation? Having attended such nice schools, all my friends are upper middle class at least, so I feel quite isolated about this. And, do you think I'm being petty for rejecting these job offers? I know I'm young and blahblahblah men are willing to pay decent money, but I am extremely strict about living by my principles, and frankly, do not feel safe working in such an industry. I'm also worried about what men would think of me when they know I work/used to work this kind of job. I know the decision is mine in the end, but I would like some input.
Sorry if this is lengthy and messy, if I find a way to improve it I will. Thank you very much <3
TLDR: My family is poor, my single mother is in debt, and I'm about to attend a really expensive university. She wants me to work some night-life job she thinks will pay better than my part-time job. I don't know if she's using this as an opportunity to repay the money she owes, or help me financially prepare for university. Should I do what she says and take up this new job?
EDIT: I just want to give the biggest THANK YOU to anyone who has read, and even answered this post. Being a new member here, my question originally wasn't posted. I had been considering taking up this job for about a day, and I was ready to talk to my mom about the job, trying to build up the courage to catch her attention after she got home from work and what do I see??? The mods approved the post! I SWEAR it was the most perfect timing. God or Life or WHATEVER works in mysterious fucking ways. Thank you so much!