Hi trpw. Here is the situation. My boyfriend is great in many ways. We've been together for 2/3 months. He's 26 and still a virgin, which I don't mind. We both do things together sexually, and have recently tried to have intercourse, but it didn't happen. We've both had a few issues- him with getting soft and me with pain down there when trying to get it up.
My boyfriend's parents live abroad. He is very close to them however, and speaks with them most days. He has told me that they know absolutely everything about him, and he is very open with them. His father is coming from abroad to visit him tomorrow. He has told me that he is going to make sure that he talks about his sexual issue with him. I felt a little uncomfortable when he said this, and we had a longer discussion. He told me there would be nobody better to talk to about this than his dad, more than his best friend.
He told me that it's obvious when two people are together they do things sexually, and when we do something sexual, occasionally he'll tell his parents that we 'had fun'. He said part of this is because he's 26 and never done anything like that with a girl, in a way they are sort of concerned for him, and thus he is keeping them updated.
Whenever we are together, he is often sends pictures of me to his family, and although I cannot read their language, I often see my name coming up in their chats. It makes me wonder how far this will go, especially after his comment ' they know absolutely everything about me'. His mother and sister take pap/smear cervical tests. I don't as of yet. Apparently he has asked them how far up the tool goes, and has assured me it is not far. He has tried to talk me into getting the test more than once. I'm thinking, even if I did get it , would he tell his mom and sister? Would they try to get him to make me have it? I'm worried that further down the line if we were to get married that the family would get more and more involved and would know absolutely everything.
He told me he would talk about issues around my health down there with his mother, as she used to be a nurse and again, his parents know everything.
All I'm asking is for my privacy, it's a dealbreaker for me. I know he definitely doesn't mean bad, he knew I didn't feel good about it, but I can't help it. What do you guys think, am I being reasonable?
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