No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover (From here on out, "NMMNG") is a fantastic tool and should be added to the RPW toolbox.
There's that saying that goes "Nice guys finish last," Green Day had a smash hit in the 90s about it, and of course there's the infamous subreddit.
Now, NMMNG is a book for men, by a man, designed for men to avoid being "that guy," but even though the intended audience is men and there are homework excercises throughout designed for men to do, this book shouldn't be dismissed as a Men's Only book. This book should be added to the RPW staples because it has advice that is crucial for successful relationships regardless of gender, it could be very useful to identify men with blazing red flags, and more importantly it is so incredibly useful for identifying high quality men.
NMMNG identifies unhealthy behaviors like covert contracts, pedestaling, and constant seeking the approval of others, and what drives them to do this behavior, how to avoid engaging in this behavior, and why this behavior is poisonous to relationships. This type of material is invaluable for anybody, regardless of gender. It makes quick sense of behavior that women often ask about on RPW and often are quick to write off as harmless for them to engage in.
When I first read the RPW sidebar, I would argue that the most confusing thing about everything was how much it talks about the importance of vetting, and how little it talks about actually vetting. There's a very vague checklist of items to green light and red light, but at the end of the day, it's a checklist. With boxes. Totally open to interpretation. NMMNG goes a step further and paints a picture of the difference between a high quality man and a Nice Guy™ with plenty of examples and explanations that make the comparison much easier to decipher.
NMMNG makes discovering undesirable traits in potential mates easy. Things like lying to hide flaws, being non-confrontational, keeping score, the savior complex, and an inability to stand up to mom. This book explains a concise portraiture of how to identify potentially abusive behaviors in potential mates as well, along with what drives those behaviors to manifest themselves in people.
On the inverse, this book makes identifying a quality man much easier. It distinguishes Mr Right from Mr Wrong in Mr Right's clothing and paints the persona of a high quality man who possesses the qualities we as women so often miss because we get hung up on the logical fallacy of thinking a man with achievement and material wealth should automatically possess.
Upon reading the book, I immediately understood why it didn't work out with my exes, and I understood even more why things were going so well with my current significant other. It was so eye opening that I had to make the case.
I hope you all will also give it a read and see this for the invaluable vetting tool that it is!