Most young women aren’t attracted to older men.
I don’t know why the contrary is proposed to men.
I (now 20f) was 16 - young and near my peak - and still I was never drawn to older men (at 16, ‘old’ for me was over 19).
Nothing changed when I got to 18. The chemistry was just never there with older guys (at 18, old for me was now 23+). I was an 18 year old girl - pretty picky and immature - but they seemed boring to me.
Although, now that I’m 20 and not as immature - I’m aware that (in general) 23-38 isn’t old at all, far from it. But dating wise, I’d still considered 26+ to be too ‘old’ for me
Even in my teens (16-18), the only significantly older guy I could fantasise about was Robert Pattinson. Even then, I would fantasise him as a 17-19 year old (Cedric Diggory), and not his actual age (his actual age being 30; he’s still hot don’t get it twisted lol).
At 18, the (non-existent) chemistry with older men is nowhere near the same compared to guys who were my age or near (18-23). Tbh, maybe it was me.
But at 18, being with guys around my age was so exciting. There was always this undeniable flirtatious and cheeky aura - a slight sexual tension maybe. No matter how much I tried to hide it. Even with friends. There was always this playful energy and connection. And I still have the same feelings now that I’m 20
But when with older men, there was nothing. nothing lol. It was like clumpy, half-dried paint. Again, it could simply be me.
I think men around my age emit this playful and cheeky aura without downplaying their masculinity. Reason being that the connection with men around my age is more fluid.
Playful and masculine. The two traits go quite well hand in hand, it’s super charming.
This is obviously applicable to both sexes, but there this strong emphasis (usually emphasised by single guys I think) that young women are naturally drawn to men in their 40-70s.
I’ve never understood why I would be attracted to some that old, let alone want a long term relationship. I want kids lol.
And really, this only applies to the very small % of extremely rich old men; even then - most women want a quiet and private life, so many won’t be attracted to the idea of getting with a extravagantly rich man who is 20-40 years older.
Most respectable rich men get married pretty young - in their 20s/30s - and are usually quite happy with their marriage. They usually have a long-lasting marriage and a few kids by 50. So they have no reason to desperately tag onto every 16-30 year old girl/woman they come across.
An old rich man with no spouse and inconsistent relationships - scavenging for 16-30 year old women - screams midlife crisis to most women. That in itself is a red flag.
As a man begins to age, it that playful aura warps into a creepy and bland aura. It’s not always accurate and true; the man may be a playful, loving dad with a happy family. But he’ll be perceived as boring and creepy - without context - at face value; hence why so many 16-20 year old girls/women are quick to write older men off as creepy.
It’s life, the same will happen to me. All of us. It’s probably already happened. But we accept it, why can’t most men?
Of course some women will be drawn to older men, but that’s similar how some men are drawn to older women.
I feel like this topic completely excludes women’s point of view (ew I sound like a feminist lol, but it’s true). I say this simply because so many other women agreed with me when discussing this.
But if you look into the male perspective of this, you find the polar opposite. They’re all truly convinced that most 18-30 year old women are most sexually attracted to 40-70 year olds.
Well .... they’re all okay with it until you ask them:
‘would you let your 18 year old daughter date a 40 year old?’ lol.
Then it was like a hall full of stutters aha.
Anyways , give me your opinion. Anyone.
Disagree or agree idc