Good evening beautiful ladies!

I just wanted to add my experience as a new member of the community, especially since I had such a strong immediate reaction!

I’ve been lurking for a bit but I just borrowed a copy of ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’ from a friend and am 4 chapters in. I was incredibly surprised about how the author described the male mind in response to female actions and honestly if everything I read is correct no wonder I haven’t been getting the relationships I want. Anyways, in the first few chapters the author suggests to women as an exercise not to offer unsolicited advice to men and observe how your responses change.

Honestly, I was skeptical... like how big a difference could that make, if anything it sounded less helpful. But I committed to trying it and had the first opportunity last night.

A few friends swung by a bar we were at to say hello and goodnight since they thought they would make it out but weren’t able to. I had a moment with a male friend where I asked him about his day, and he described his frustration over a computer problem he was having with the WiFi. I’m currently in school for computer science and immediately I wanted to strip his brain and offer as many solutions and “we’ll have you tried...” as possible. I literally started to question him, before shutting my mouth, thinking for a second, and saying “well you’re smart, I’m sure you’ll figure it out”.

Ladies. My lord. This man IMMEDIATELY lights up with a grin and his whole demeanor picks up. Literally his energy switched like a light from exhaustion to inspiration. He thanked me right away and seemed so flattered! And then in turn I felt so appreciated that I made such a difference!!

I’ve been having the same problems in my relationships where I always feel like a mother, because I want to make sure everyone is safe, happy, and taken care of, but this experience showed that there’s multi ways to take care of someone and that I don’t always have to be the problem solver. Also, in the wise words of my friend “No one wants to fuck their mother”.

Anyways, I just wanted to give everyone a little update about how well this has worked for me, and maybe even encourage someone to at the very least give these ideas a shot!