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On inner serenity

February 2, 2018

Fascinating Womanhood (one of my favorite RPW books!) talks about the importance of inner serenity, which is crucial to being feminine.

I was someone that always had social anxiety, and general anxiety, constantly ruminating and worrying about the future. I was always paranoid of what others people thought of me.

In the past few weeks I'm going through an interesting period of my life, thinking a lot about our roles as a woman in a marriage and our life meaning in general. I wrote down a few thoughts about inner serenity in my journal that I'd like to share with anyone who struggles with anxiety or depression:

Inner Serenity is: 1) Being happy in the moment. 2) Not worrying about the future - we will handle it when we get there. 3) Accepting yourself - not worrying what others think of you. There will always be people who like and dislike you. 4) Feeling compassion for others, not criticizing. 5) Feeling happy about being alive today. 6) Letting go of worries at the end of the day. 7) Not looking for luck, it will come to you when the time is right. 8) Focusing on radiating happiness. 9) Not worrying about downtime, meaning any negative feelings are temporary and they will always pass.

It's easy to get caught up in our futures or our problems, but in the end, it's important that you are happy today and happy tomorrow. Trust me, your man will appreciate this.

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Title On inner serenity
Author vanBeethovenLudwig
Upvotes 33
Comments 7
Date February 2, 2018 7:51 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for sharing this post and your thoughts, I needed this reminder today. I might read Fascinating Womanhood again too.

I have been really anxious lately and I thought I was hiding it well, but after talking to my husband I became aware I wasn't (at all).

I need to do a better job of reminding myself these feelings are temporary and everything is going to be fine. I'm not capable of doing as much right now and that's okay, the world isn't going to end and my husband understands my limitations at the moment.

One thing really bothering me is I can't drive (most likely until I have my baby in April) and I convinced myself I was a huge burden on everyone, my husband must be mad at me about it, our family has to be annoyed, etc. That just isn't true and I need to graciously accept their help, be thankful, and stop there. Overthinking and stressing about problems that don't exist isn't good for me, my husband, or the baby.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Congrats on your pregnancy. I found those some of my happiest months. Forgive me but I was wondering why you’re unable to drive. I just want to understand if that’s contributing to your anxiety

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thank you.

I've had some problems with low blood pressure and fainting. It isn't safe for me to drive because I have lost consciousness. I'm following a high sodium diet, so if that helps to keep my blood pressure up and I don't faint again I should be okay to drive (but it's possible I will have to wait until the baby is born). My OB also said my bp might rise naturally now that I'm in my third trimester.

I'm pretty sure it's contributing to my anxiety on some level. I feel stuck and I don't like to burden people or feel helpless.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes I can imagine that would feel stressful. Personally, I don’t like feeling like a burden either but I’m sure you’re around people who love and support you. And it’s temporary! That’s the best part. Just remember the cost for the baby over your worrying. It isn’t worth it.

[–]dkerri2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

In my humble opinion, the easiest way to have inner serenity is to put your trust in God. Of course you're going to be really worried if you have no idea what is going to happen in the future. But if you know that God is in control of your life then you do not worry :)

[–]vanBeethovenLudwigEndorsed Contributor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I actually follow this too - I'm not religious but I struggled so much with anxiety, I did find the easiest way was to think outside of yourself, which for me was a higher being. And faith it will all be OK. Uncertainty led a lot of my anxiety. So therefore I agree!

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I needed this right now. Number 9 hits home for me. I'm still feeling the pain of a breakup and just 10 minutes ago I was lying in bed crying. Once the pain subsided I was up and about.

I need to remind myself constantly, that allowing myself those few hours of pain will pass and I get back up once the tears pass.

Thank you for sharing❤

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