So my roommate is 34, probably only a 5.5/6 (her skin is aging a lot) and dating this 31yo man for the past three months. Apparently he's absolutely smitten with her and has talked about marriage and wanting her to visit his family during the summer.
She has been actively looking to marry for the past 8 years or so. She was strung along during a 4 year relationship (they lived together, she moved to a new country with him without being married, she suddenly realized he didn't want to marry her and had to make the move to leave) and has been unsuccessfully trying to date since that relationship.
Anyways, so she was telling me how turned off she is by him being overly attentive to her and talking about marriage, which is what she wants. It made me think how he was being too much of a beta and she didn't really need to chase after him or prove herself to him either. She also talks about how he's "too short" (she's about 5'5 and he's 5'8) and how that's may or may not be a deal breaker for her.
A bit interesting to think about...especially when she pulls the "short card."
Do you think men can get away with being more beta if they're tall? Do you think women feel like they also need to "earn" her husband? Do you think there's a "marriage game" where both people need to feel like the other is a catch and both have to seem not desperate?