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Proud of the progress I've made

March 27, 2022

When my husband and I first met, I had alot of issues controlling my emotions. I was like a child and would throw tantrums when life went sideways. However with the help of therapy and this community I've gotten alot better. And what happened yesterday was a testament to that.

My husband and I were out of town and I had given him my credit card to buy something so we could get points for it. Then, he lost my card.

The old me would have had a full blown meltdown in the parking lot and erupted into yelling at him for this. But instead, I kept my composure, held his hand, and told him it was alright while he apologized to me for losing the card. My husband was blown away. He stared at me in shock for a moment and then commented that he was highly impressed with my reaction.

We then went back to our room, made love, and snuggled all night. I feel like our marriage turned a huge corner after yesterday. My husband seems less stressed out and happier now, and I feel alot happier now too. What would've ruined our trip before became a small bump in the road before we quickly got back to smooth sailing. I've also started reading Fascinating Womanhood to continue growing in my femininity and becoming a better wife and woman in general. I'm really happy I found this community.

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Title Proud of the progress I've made
Author saddensgirl
Upvotes 140
Comments 22
Date March 27, 2022 8:20 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
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[–]bcapone27 35 points36 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is one of the best things I have ever read on Reddit 🙌🏻 you can be proud! Your husband can be proud! Thank you so much for sharing and opening up :)

[–]saddensgirl1 Star[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks! :)

[–]CountTheBeesEndorsed Contributor 13 points14 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Congratulations! This is such a wonderful field report.

u/LivelyLychee Can I award +1 star?

[–]LivelyLychee[M] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Done! Congrats u/saddensgirl! Keep up the good work 💫

[–]saddensgirl1 Star[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you, will do!

[–]saddensgirl1 Star[S] 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Thank you, just wanted to share sorry and hope small changes can make a big difference.

[–]CountTheBeesEndorsed Contributor 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Absolutely! I watched Eyes Wide Shut with my boyfriend recently (terrible movie btw) and Nicole Kidman's character was picking pointless fights and having hysterics, and it struck me that women watching this wouldn't necessarily realise how bad this behaviour is unless they had gone through the self improvement process themselves. It almost looked normal. Her husband was frustrated and said "now we get the fucking laughing fit" as if she'd done it before.

Scary thing was, that was the only scene in the first 40 minutes where Nicole Kidman didn't look as if she was "acting".

I was the same when I was 20, and had to change as well. Avoiding being a drama queen requires a lot of self awareness.

[–]alexaxl 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

^ Repetitive impressions of that flavor when seen unconsciously embeds those patterns into your consciousness.

99% of media today is meant to be this way.

To generate discontent, discord, drama.

Tame your own inner shrew, so no one else has to.

[–]Glad-Discount-4761 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

That's great progress. Sorry to ask,did you found your credit card?

[–]saddensgirl1 Star[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nope. I cancelled it and ended up just ordering a new one.

[–]Charming-Paper-1564 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That is amazing! well done!

[–]nopethats-not-me 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well done!! remember to pause or freeze the card while you guys search for it.

[–]alexaxl 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Mind management 101.

Losing your mind for a replaceable plastic wasn’t worth destroying so much that was gained.

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[–]saddensgirl1 Star[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think literally screaming at someone in a public place and refusing to walk with them, qualifies as a tantrum. And yes, I have done those things in the past. As I said, I am proud of myself with the progress I made.

[–]LivelyLychee[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Please read the sidebar and the Rules for Giving Advice before giving advice. None of what you are saying is RP and is unproductive here.

[–]Madelinecole09 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Aw this is so cute congrats!!💖💖

[–]Advanced_Bar_6733 Stars 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wonderful and congratulations 🎊

[–]Forward_Courage_7418 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Congrats. I know how hard it is to change something like that, but you nailed it! I'm really happy for you

[–]saddensgirl1 Star[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you, I find STFU and thinking about things from the point of view of my husband and really anyone I'm interacting with, before I speak really helps. It has also opened my eyes to how self absorbed I was in the past. Makes me want to cringe now.

[–]Alternative-Cancel91 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Love this! Do you have recommendations for books/youtube channels to support this inner transformation? I'm on a similar boat.

[–]saddensgirl1 Star[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I really started with reading Fascinating Womanhood. That really made me start doing the internal work. I have since started watching some YouTubers like The Feminine Fancy, the Daily Connoisseur, and Ebony Nikita Okeke.

Also changing my life routine has helped immensely. Getting a cleaning routine, making sure I do a short, daily self care routine, and dressing better overall has made a big impact.

And as a huge Jane Austen fan, I'm trying to get myself to a place where I can finally host formal dinner parties for my husband's work associates and friends. I'm a lil ways off from that for now, but I'm getting there haha.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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