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Purifying the heart makes you more attractive

September 3, 2018


People can sense purity, and they are extremely attracted to it.

Pure men and pure women are almost irresistible, especially when combined with self-respect, which includes respecting your physical body and appearance. Pure and self-respecting people are very rare and they shine among dull crowds.

You can't help but love those people and want to be near them and be more like them, or envy and judge them if you leave your subconscious thoughts and emotions unchecked.

When you have nothing to hide, no games to play, no hidden agendas or ill intentions to be ashamed of, even at a subconscious level, it becomes easier for you to be fully present and engaged, because your awareness is not divided into parts that are present and others that are busy trying to hide something.

When you are fully present, you automatically become funnier and more confident.

On my spiritual path, I am learning the importance of having pure intentions, my purpose for doing this was never to attract more men, but it seems the more I purify, the more men I attract; GREAT quality men.

I am 33 years old and single, and frankly, the attention I receive from young and old men can be overwhelming, especially because I don't like making men feel rejected, to the point where I started wearing loose clothes more often than not.

This way of living, I began to attract kind, pure men as well. Revealing clothes attracted too many predators and not the kind of attention I wanted. I want pure love and mutual respect, because I realized that that's what makes me truly happy.

Frankly, I am no longer Red Pill, although it served me well for a while and helped me understand a lot about our human nature at the level of the ego, I have a different way of looking at life now, but I figured this sub might benefit from this tip.

Much love.

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Title Purifying the heart makes you more attractive
Author LSDMusicLady
Upvotes 102
Comments 14
Date September 3, 2018 12:01 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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[–]CrazyHorseInvincibleModerator[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (1 child) | Copy Link

All advice must be actionable.

[–]trexgomez 1 points [recovered]  (11 children) | Copy Link

You're a great person and I wish there were more like you out there.

My mother and father are quite similar to you. Naturally even I bend towards that sort of thinking and behaviour. But I've been fucked over endlessly and always happened to get the shorter end of the stick until I started applying RP strategies.

I still resent being fake and manipulative. But I just have to do that. I'm a guy btw.

[–]LSDMusicLady 1 points [recovered]  (9 children) | Copy Link

It's very likely that at some point, playing games will get exhausting, and you will crave a more profound, authentic connection, the kind of connection that makes you cry from joy.

Wearing a mask is annoying, it has weight. Your soul wants to be weightless.

The people in our lives are perfect mirrors. Understand this well, and you will understand the world.

When you are ready to be 100% authentic, you will start attracting people who are also 100% authentic.

Your ego wanted something from that girl (or girls), it wanted fulfilment or sex or love or attention, or maybe even wanted to own that girl, own her heart, body and freedom. Well, they wanted something from you too, and they were not able to love you authentically because they were too busy wanting something from you.

You will find deep, authentic love when you stop wanting it from someone else, and start BEING love instead. Radiating. Without any need for anyone to approve of you or love you.

You will even stop wanting to call any person your own, you will respect every person's freedom and individuality, you will love people exactly as they are, not as you want them to be.

I know.. I know.. it sounds like hippie stuff, but I tried everything under the sun, from Blue Pill to Red Pill and everything in between, and the only thing that brought me real joy, lasting joy, is working on self-love first, and then everything else fell into place.

Love is magic when it is real.. not the silly "love" they taught us in Disney movies which is built on possession and neediness.

[–]iX2wFp 1 points [recovered]  (5 children) | Copy Link

What things did you do to improve on self-love?

[–]LSDMusicLady 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy Link

My internal dialogue was very mean and harsh, the same critical and negative thoughts would repeat themselves day after day after day.. I let those thoughts come and go as they please.. I had zero control over my mind.

I realized one day that I would never be friends with anyone who spoke to me the way I spoke to myself.

I asked my inner self for forgiveness for the way I have been treating her all these years. She didn't deserve any of that. Even though I have made huge mistakes in my life, I was doing my best from my level of awareness at the time. I didn't deserve to get yelled at or be ashamed of so repetitively. Even once is too many times, let alone daily punishment for years. That's what hell is.

I realized that no matter how old we are, deep down inside, we will always be innocent children who don't know any better, and we should treat ourselves the way we should treat children; with radical acceptance and kindness and unconditional love. You never, ever take love away from a child no matter what they do.

I started treating myself like the bestfriend I'd love to hang out with all the time.

I understood the importance of doing the things I love, find more music that I like, dance more, reach out to people who make me feel good, join activities that spark my interest, following my bliss. Please, please follow your bliss wherever it takes you. Not to be confused with egoic desires such as lust and gluttony that can be harmful to your body and soul.

I thank my body for putting up with everything I have ever done to it or every mean comment I have made about it, I was sooo mean to it, never satisfied with anything, totally ungrateful. It always finds a way to heal, my legs never fail me, billions of cells are working in harmony just for me, my heart is beating every second for me, I abuse them but they still love me and support me. I begged my body for forgiveness. And now I am filled with gratitude and appreciation for it.

Daily habits like showering or putting lotion on, went from trying to get stuff over with, to opportunities to give myself more love and nourishment.

Food became another way to give myself love, I respect and love myself therefor I will not let myself eat harmful stuff. I love myself too much to eat red meat or sugar. I love myself so I feed myself good stuff. Same with working out, I love my body, so let me take it for a walk and teach it some tricks, it's been a very good boy.

I stopped looking at my flaws when I look in the mirror. I used to immediately start staring at my undereye circles or cellulite as soon as I see a mirror, now I just take a very general look and feel gratitude for all the things I'm grateful for.

I stopped lying to people and to myself (well, not completely but getting there). I stopped giving promises I can't keep, I stopped exaggerating, I stopped seeing people to get something out of them, I stopped being a people pleaser and giving flattery to get love. These changes immensely increased my self respect.

You can lie to people and hide your demons from them, but you can't hide from yourself.

Speaking of demons, I dug deep to find mine and I fell in love with them too. They all served a purpose in my life at some point. Some of them disappeared on their own after I loved them, some of them are here to stay and that's okay because we became friends after I met them, they were only annoying me before because they just wanted to meet me. Now we are like a gang.

You can't fully love yourself before you fully meet yourself. You can't fully meet yourself until you stop judging others and yourself, because your demons will hide from you if they know you will judge them, humor is useful here, try looking at everyone as cute little children who don't know what they are doing, and when they seem evil, it's just because they are super hurt. Same applies to you, nothing in you is evil, you're just super hurt. Forgive and release. Drop the baggage and dance free.

I started helping others more, particularly strangers who can't give me anything in return. At least making them smile. It feels really good to make someone's day. But never say or do anything you don't mean, it always has to be purely from the heart.

I started allowing my heart to be sad when it's sad for as long as it needs, instead of trying to force it to be happy by immediately switching to positive thoughts. I let my heart and myself cry for as much as we need, I even try to squeeze a few more tears out after that, only THEN I will move to doing or thinking something positive.

I now cry more deeply but also I LOVE and feel joy more deeply and I prefer it this way. Un-numb your heart. Sadness is not scary, only resisting it is.

Send love to everyone you meet, especially those your ego resists or feels superior to or better than or envious of or hostility towards. It will bounce right back at you. It's so beautiful. You will fall in love a little more with yourself when you do this, because, well, it's really super cute and cool and kind to do that.

That's all I can think of for now, please pardon the typos I am super sleepy. I go sleep now. Happy to answer any questions later.

Oooh.. just remembered, every night before I sleep I summon the feeling of gratitude in my body, I feel it, for anything big or small, usually it's just immense gratitude for how soft and mushy my mattress cover is.

Gratitude is a healer.

[–]SasssyFrass 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Are you high?

[–]excaliboor 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

You have transcended.

Safe journey and hope to see you on the other side.

[–]LSDMusicLady 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

What's on the other side, in your opinion?

[–]raeonmon 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

I love your perspective! I have felt I've lost a lot of my purity of heart as I have gotten older. What has helped you gain purer intentions?

I'm Catholic raised, but I no longer feel like the Church is the place for me. I'm dubious about many of their practices as an institution and I also no longer believe in some of the core tenants of the faith. I would classify myself as agnostic, and ever since I stopped going to church and believing fully, I have felt the definite lack in my spiritual life. Do you subscribe to a faith? How did you get back into it?

[–]fosho_away 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Awesome! Thank you for sharing. One of my ultimate life goals is living in true integrity, so that my actions/expression fully line up with my internal beliefs. It’s a process but creates space for authentic connection that can’t be faked or forced otherwise.

[–]onyx_69 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

I’d like to believe that, I am exactly that person open honest, respectful, no hidden agendas, and I don’t see it happening..

[–]MissNietzsche 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

I hope to reach the same, except not by taking a bunch of illicit drugs.

[–]SasssyFrass 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link


[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl[M,🍰] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Be polite or be quiet.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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