Real life RP effects: men in 40s divorcing wives who helped them reach high SMV/RMV?

CountTheBees · 2021-11-09T00:13:00+00:00

We don't know the following about their marriage, including: - whether she was faithful to him - whether he cheated on her before, but is only public about it now - whether they truly had a happy marriage (but it seems not, as he said: "I am in debt overall but that is because I am married to a spender" )

An unhappy marriage will make a man either hate you, cheat on you or divorce you. And we can't say for certain theirs was a happy marriage. We can't say if he's a bad husband or a bad man without knowing whether his wife was a good wife or a good woman.

Whisper · 2021-11-09T04:40:39+00:00

Remember that you have a parasocial relationship with these people.

You don't know if she was supportive or not. You don't know what she did or didn't do, what he did or didn't do. You only know what the press makes up, then tells you.

LateralThinker13 · 2021-11-09T15:18:59+00:00

oh, and before that he had at least 8 known affairs in 5 years:

Right there. Stopped reading. THIS is an example of a man who can't be faithful. This is why we tell you to VET VET VET. Some men are constitutionally incapable of maintaining a monogamous relationship.

These kinds of stories make me (a mid-20s woman) nervous to be dating an attractive HVM with high career potential

This isn't because he is a HVM. This is because he's not wired to be faithful. Period. We do warn about these kinds of men.

it seems to be a pattern that they start wandering if they get super successful, especially in their 40s.

IF the wife doesn't step up her game to match his. IF the wife gets complacent. IF you are working on your girl game both before AND after landing your man, this is much less likely to occur.

The majority of women think that most of the work of a relationship goes into getting the ring on her finger. Wise women know it's in keeping it there.

BeholdTheHair · 2021-11-09T01:27:20+00:00

Don't fall prey to the apex fallacy. Celebrities and the ridiculously wealthy don't live in the same world as the rest of us. The stuff they deal with and how things fall out for them don't necessarily track to the experiences of normal folks.

MarchBaby21 · 2021-11-09T03:58:08+00:00

This is one of the reasons RPW argues for marrying a man who is not just a pure alpha but a healthy mix of alpha and beta characteristics. The risk of marrying an alpha is that they are much more likely to cheat and/or “trade you in” when you get older. A lesser alpha or greater beta is not nearly as likely to do that.

There’s a good theory post about this but I don’t have time to find it. It’s on the sub somewhere.

sinisterforces · 2021-11-09T00:10:04+00:00

This is blackpilling

Underground-anzac-99 · 2021-11-09T15:05:46+00:00

There is nothing in this Daily Mail story which suggests anything he is a hard done by husband. There is his one comment about marrying a spender but I gather she also had her own money. He became a great success while they were married and now he’s enjoying himself. It happens.

titlejunk · 2021-11-09T03:58:11+00:00

My take is get married!

I have a dear friend going through a break up right now. They have been together maybe a year or two less than me and my husband. She will walk away with nothing after decorating, cooking, cleaning, raising his dog (he will definitely keep), etc.

She has like renters rights maybe.

Eta: You don’t have to give advice to a woman who got married and helped him. She will get hers. Generally

TheShiningSun · 2021-11-09T11:57:26+00:00

This is exactly why you don't build men. Get a man who's already established so that he doesn't see you as the come up woman and leave you when he feels that he has better options than you.

Either that, or you need to increase your SMV/RMV while building with him (which I don't recommend but I find it understandable if you and your SO are both young college undergrads.)

Acrobatic-Stuff · 2021-11-09T09:53:10+00:00

Bon Jovi is still with his highschool sweetheart though. So I guess there's still hope? He is a very humble man. Which I don't understand. He is with the same normal woman that helped him succeed besides being the king of the world, he could have any girl. Mick jagger on the other hand is dating 19 years old girls at 60 or so xdd Something about bon Jovi's life seems beautiful and inspiring. I wonder if it's possible that you love a woman so much for so many years. I'll have to test for myself xddd I think the key is being as less promiscuous as possible, if you don't lose that innocence there is a greater chance love feels something new and lasts for more. Anyway sorry about the rant

zino193 · 2021-11-09T06:13:07+00:00

I would not call a historian and activist a succesufull man. Do you really think he led the relationship? Do you think he was anything but the typical beta chump that has issues connecting with his true desires and living them out with his S/O.

The reason a RP man is preferable to a BP one is that he doesn't bottle up frustration and needs. He doesn't let you steamroll him for decades until he becomes a shell of a person or just find a woman that makes him feel like a man again.

This confusion of Red pill man, and HVM is not going to end well. Anyone can be of.higher status. It doesn't mean they understand how to be a man, how to.comunicate like a man, and how to lead or set boundaries.

Title	Real life RP effects: men in 40s divorcing wives who helped them reach high SMV/RMV?
Author	SnowOnCinders
Upvotes	36
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Date	November 8, 2021 11:30 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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