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Redpill Success story

July 18, 2022
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Thank you redpillwomen!! Me (F27) and my boyfriend (M28) have been together two years. He is my absolute world. I love him more than anyone ever, and as I’ve worked on being more feminine, I’ve watched him evolve and become even more masculine. We have such a great relationship that feels so equal, but in our own respective roles and ways. He took me ring shopping this weekend, and I’ve just been in bliss all day. :) Watching him take charge at the jewelry store and say I need a ring that represents him as a man and how great of a woman I am was the greatest moment ever.

I’ve realized that if you find a man while you’re young and in your 20s who has potential to be a leader, you need to allow him space to find his role. Stay in your feminine lane and allow him to thrive and grow into his role as a man. You will feel the urge to take charge and do things for him or nag and complain, but don’t. Just be patient, and if he is a good man he will figure out what to do. It is such an amazing thing to watch!!

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Title Redpill Success story
Author dontouchmybutt
Upvotes 125
Comments 10
Date July 18, 2022 3:27 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/RedPillWomen/redpill-success-story.1123969
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[–]amadexodus 21 points22 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Congratulations!

My man is ~22 but has more maturity and drive than other men I've met who were pushing 30. Watching him grow in his career and his masculinity over the past year has been joyful and a lot of fun!

[–]dontouchmybutt[S] 14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Isn’t it the best!? So many ppl recommend dating much older men, but growing with ur guy and learning together is awesome 🥰

[–]amadexodus 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Absolutely. He also went out of his way -- unprompted -- to let me know that given his age and situation (1 semester left of school), he obviously doesn't have the wealth, living situation, or career status that a guy my age (26) would have. So it would necessarily take a little longer to reach certain milestones (e.g. popping the question), and he was telling me, "don't stress about me like you would about somebody your age or older who has all of those resources but is just unserious about you and wasting your time; I'm not that guy."

I thought it was very mature of him, and I don't doubt his ability to do well at any job he has, or to earn enough to get a house one day.

[–]samanthamolina 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree with you. That’s is what I want the most someone around my age to grow with. I’m not attracted to men much older than me. I’m so happy for you. Congratulations on finding a good man.

[–]jenna_grows 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love this for you!

I’m one of those people that is cognisant of how a ring actually symbolises a man’s success, as much as how much he values you. I’m well aware it’s not a true reflection, but our outer appearances do send a message and I love that your man understands the way the ring affects people’s perceptions of both of you!

So wonderful that you are on the same page.

[–]Rose_Tremiere 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

First of all congrats, it must have been a really thrilling moment for you! And thanks so much for sharing this success story with us.

Stay in your feminine lane and allow him to thrive and grow into his role as a man. You will feel the urge to take charge and do things for him or nag and complain, but don’t. Just be patient, and if he is a good man he will figure out what to do.

This is really inspiring for me. I've started this journey to be more feminine and it's hard to be patient and put myself in check when I want to complain because old habits die hard. It gives me hope that if I persist my husband will also thrive as a man.

[–]kaliflower77 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That’s amazing!! It truly is an incredible feeling to watch it happen before your very eyes! I’m 22 and my man is 24 and he is by FAR the most mature, hard working, devoted and successful man of any of our friends or anyone else we even personally know that’s anywhere near our age. His goal has always been to have a family and he has made his goals come true and strive to make my dreams come true and for that I will forever be so grateful, even when it’s incredibly hard since he works 9 hours away so I don’t get to see him often.

[–]LateralThinker13Endorsed Contributor 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I’ve realized that if you find a man while you’re young and in your 20s who has potential to be a leader, you need to allow him space to find his role. Stay in your feminine lane and allow him to thrive and grow into his role as a man.

This good advice is NOT time limited. There's never not a time to stay in your lane and not manage your man by seizing the reins of the relationship. Encourage, yes; manage, no.

[–]dontouchmybutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

for sure! I had realized it has the opposite effect of what we are going for. Example, I nag and things get done even less bc he now associates those tasks with nagging and bs. Praising and patience works better for sure.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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