I went to a work event for my husband’s company this week, & it went very well. I just wanted to share my experience!
Initial context: this was an important event shoved in the middle of a stressful work week for my husband.
For my outfit, I chose a super feminine, classy-but-still-trendy look with venue-appropriate shoes & accessories — & I let my husband have the final choice between 2 dresses.
A few days before the event, I told my husband I’d love to have a refresher on who would be there & what I needed to know. On the drive out there, he came back to that request & gave me a quick summary of everyone he was hoping to get a chance to see & a little insight into each relationship.
Once there, I was extremely impressed by how many of his coworkers & clients stopped me specifically to tell me how much they love working with my husband. Later on (a few drinks in for everyone!), some of the men started to get a little bro-like & started ripping lightly on my man to me… I reacted in a friendly way, smiling & joking back, but still saying how awesome he is. A certain work mini-drama was brought up, but he’d given me the context, so I was able to gracefully defuse the situation. At one point, some guy said my husband had obviously married up — & my husband agreed lol — but I just thanked him & said I felt like I was the lucky one.
I met a new female employee who is objectively hotter than I am… When I was younger, this might have triggered me. After so many years with my husband, I fully understand how he operates as a person; it wouldn’t matter how hot or how drunk either person is — as long as I’m treating him right, he’ll be loyal to me. Instead, I just enjoyed meeting her & noted *why* I thought she was hotter (trendier clothes, whiter teeth, more “done” hair & makeup, & skinnier). I could then decide to:
- Spend $ on new wardobe stuff
- Use the dentist whitening trays in my fridge
- Update my hair (as for the “done”-ness — well, I’ll stay in my lane; I’m a more natural girl, & it works for me)
- Lose ~3lbs maybe? not my priority. I have an awesome body & have been working out pretty hard, plus my husband prefers a little softness
My husband woke me up by saying how he loves me more than I’ll ever know.
I found an insane sale online today & spent $250 to get >$1300 in multiple designer investment pieces (I just got a serious raise & had warned my husband I’d be indulging in some minor retail therapy; when I gave him the summary, he gave me accolades for my smart shopping skills).
[The teeth / hair stuff is easy.]
Also, got several texts throughout the day saying how many compliments he was getting about me from his colleagues!!
Finally… we are currently on our first cycle of trying to conceive (after some medical delays, we are both extremely onboard), & I’m super close to ovulation (so wanted sex tonight). I wasn’t too worried about it, since we generally have sex at least 1x/day, but I knew he was having a super tough week & didn’t want to put any pressure on us. I put on yoga pants, an elegant crop top, & wore my hair his favorite way + made a really easy dinner that he loves. We had lovely (critical!) sex, & now he’s in bed early before an important work presentation tomorrow.
TLDR: Respect (& self-respect) is something that happens internally as well as publically. It creates opportunities for mutual growth! Also, shop the sales. I paid what I would gladly spend on a nice pair of shades to get: 2 purses, a full suit, a new hat, & sick pair of designer sunglasses