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Scoring some wife points

August 9, 2019

I went to a work event for my husband’s company this week, & it went very well. I just wanted to share my experience!

Initial context: this was an important event shoved in the middle of a stressful work week for my husband.

For my outfit, I chose a super feminine, classy-but-still-trendy look with venue-appropriate shoes & accessories — & I let my husband have the final choice between 2 dresses.

A few days before the event, I told my husband I’d love to have a refresher on who would be there & what I needed to know. On the drive out there, he came back to that request & gave me a quick summary of everyone he was hoping to get a chance to see & a little insight into each relationship.

Once there, I was extremely impressed by how many of his coworkers & clients stopped me specifically to tell me how much they love working with my husband. Later on (a few drinks in for everyone!), some of the men started to get a little bro-like & started ripping lightly on my man to me… I reacted in a friendly way, smiling & joking back, but still saying how awesome he is. A certain work mini-drama was brought up, but he’d given me the context, so I was able to gracefully defuse the situation. At one point, some guy said my husband had obviously married up — & my husband agreed lol — but I just thanked him & said I felt like I was the lucky one.

I met a new female employee who is objectively hotter than I am… When I was younger, this might have triggered me. After so many years with my husband, I fully understand how he operates as a person; it wouldn’t matter how hot or how drunk either person is — as long as I’m treating him right, he’ll be loyal to me. Instead, I just enjoyed meeting her & noted *why* I thought she was hotter (trendier clothes, whiter teeth, more “done” hair & makeup, & skinnier). I could then decide to:

  • Spend $ on new wardobe stuff
  • Use the dentist whitening trays in my fridge
  • Update my hair (as for the “done”-ness — well, I’ll stay in my lane; I’m a more natural girl, & it works for me)
  • Lose ~3lbs maybe? not my priority. I have an awesome body & have been working out pretty hard, plus my husband prefers a little softness


My husband woke me up by saying how he loves me more than I’ll ever know.

I found an insane sale online today & spent $250 to get >$1300 in multiple designer investment pieces (I just got a serious raise & had warned my husband I’d be indulging in some minor retail therapy; when I gave him the summary, he gave me accolades for my smart shopping skills).

[The teeth / hair stuff is easy.]

Also, got several texts throughout the day saying how many compliments he was getting about me from his colleagues!!

Finally… we are currently on our first cycle of trying to conceive (after some medical delays, we are both extremely onboard), & I’m super close to ovulation (so wanted sex tonight). I wasn’t too worried about it, since we generally have sex at least 1x/day, but I knew he was having a super tough week & didn’t want to put any pressure on us. I put on yoga pants, an elegant crop top, & wore my hair his favorite way + made a really easy dinner that he loves. We had lovely (critical!) sex, & now he’s in bed early before an important work presentation tomorrow.

TLDR: Respect (& self-respect) is something that happens internally as well as publically. It creates opportunities for mutual growth! Also, shop the sales. I paid what I would gladly spend on a nice pair of shades to get: 2 purses, a full suit, a new hat, & sick pair of designer sunglasses

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Title Scoring some wife points
Author aftertheafter-party
Upvotes 142
Comments 19
Date August 9, 2019 5:38 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–]MicrotusOchrogaster40 points41 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Brava!! Sounds like you utterly nailed it, well done you! And extra points for the humble and self-valuing way you responded to hot girl, by turning her into inspiration and a comrade, rather than an enemy.

You already have your husbands eyes firmly on you by the sounds of things, but nonetheless I hope you out-gorgeous them all in your new clothes, enjoy your beauty!

[–]peacocktoast17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Amazing! I just wanted to mention, in my opinion, classic and well-fitting pieces always win over trends. I doubt the woman you met really had that on you, unless your husband specifically cares about fashion trends.

[–]prince0verit36 points37 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Standing ovation!

[–]Heavenlywind40 points41 points  (1 child) | Copy Link


[–]aftertheafter-party3 Star[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]SilentCantaloupe12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love everything about this - how you prepared for the event, acted towards the people there, treated your husband. You are what I hope to be as a wife someday!

[–]Hannaebeth8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Where did you get this crazy sale? Was it an online store? Share with your fellow budgeters!

[–]aftertheafter-party3 Star[S] 11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

u/hannaebeth u/catipillar Barney's Warehouse Clearance sale online!!

[–]catipillar0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]catipillar0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is my burning question as well.

[–]countrylemon9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Can we also point out that you earn points for yourself too with your analysis of the beautiful woman! That's such an insightful way to approach that situation and instead of allowing it to make you insecure (like you may have been previously) you instead used it as a way to motivate yourself ! BRAVO!!!

[–]A_Hero_Drowns8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

To me, an uneducated fellow (still in college), this just sounds like you prepped well. I can appreciate the amount of forethought that went into this. All your lines of critical thinking paid off handsomely beautifully for you. Congrats and good luck with your first.

[–]WhisperTRP Founder5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I met a new female employee who is objectively hotter than I am… Instead, I just enjoyed meeting her & noted why I thought she was hotter... I could then decide to:


One of the most difficult lessons to absorb for both men and women is how to make envy into a productive emotion by trying to imitate instead of stab.


[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow thank you so much for the post, great changes with great outcomes!

It's these type of things i feel is needed to keep your man on his toes. I did a list recently as well, teeth bleach, an updated style, losing a few kilos, working on my glutes, wear well fitted and sophisticated clothes (as well as buying new ones and then have a great skin care as well as eating healthier (currently on Keto diet with my husband.) It's going great.

There's no greater joy then when your man sees you in the best light possible as well as in a new light when you change yourself for the better.

[–]many_mornings0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Congratulations! I once posted here regarding my husband's company party, since I was very stressed about attending it and received lots of great pieces of advice from ladies here and you certainly did so well!

[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl[M] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

1 Star from u/Whisper. Keep up the good work!!

[–]aftertheafter-party3 Star[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you!

[–]dian_slay260 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That sounds like a lovely way to wake up! Focusing now on other important points made...where was this sale???

[–]Tiny_Market0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fantastic life for a fantastic wife!

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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