Shallow

Many people - men in particular - are shamed for being honest about their sexual and relationship preferences as being shallow. It is my opinion that everyone except for a few saintly human beings are shallow people to one degree or another.

Looks

Generally speaking, men like the following physical features in women.

• A pretty face
• Long hair
• Beautiful hair color and texture
• Healthy body that has no extra weight and not anorexic
• Firm perky boobs
• Firm solid ass
• Long legs
• Soft skin

Generally speaking, women like the following physical features in men.

• Square face
• Chiseled jaw
• Big chest
• Strong arms
• Six pack abs
• Tall
• Rough, tough and scruff

Men look at a woman's width, women look at a man's height. Men look at the size and shape of her boobs, women look at the size and shape of his chest. Men look at women's legs, women look at men's arms. They're all equally shallow.

Status and character

Just like with regards to looks, status means different things for men and women because men and women are attracted to different things in one another.

The following is what many men find attractive in women when considering marriage and starting a family.

• Virgin or very few sexual partners
• Submissive
• Respect
• Trust
• Good cook
• Good housekeeper
• Frugal
• Resourceful
• Empathetic

The following is what many women find attractive in men when considering marriage and starting a family.

• Work ethic
• Financial stability
• Emotionally strong - to be her rock
• Leader
• Love
• Good provider
• Generous
• Listener
• Problem solver
• Self motivated

Once again, men and women aren't attracted to the same things, both are shallow.

Being shallow

Let's say a husband decides to stop working and just plays video games all day long, leaves every decision to her, is stingy, doesn't pay any attention to her and can't seem to motivate himself. The wife of this man is likely to loose respect for him. This can break down the marriage and may eventually lead to divorce.

Let's say a woman doesn't cook or keep house, doesn't want sex, gains a ton of weight, starts spending a lot of money, is disrespectful, nags, criticizes and has become too emotionally complicated. The husband of this woman is likely to start to dread coming home to his wife or spend any time with her. This can break down the marriage and may eventually lead to divorce.

When you single out any one of the items mentioned (or those that weren't mentioned), it can be argued that each one is shallow. The reality is that we only relate to one another from the outside in. Meaning - we first encounter the skin and hopefully, we can develop a relationship that's deeper than skin deep. However, the basis for every marriage is objectification to one degree or another. We can shame each other for it, but that doesn't help anyone. A better idea would be to embrace it and channel it appropriately.

Conclusion

Men and women are shallow in different ways. It's easy to look down upon each other as being shallow and disgusting. Just remember _ when you point at someone, you have 2 fingers pointing in their direction and 3 fingers pointing back at yourself!!!

My wish for all of you is to find and enjoy a great amount of depth and intimacy within your marriages.

Cheers!