I usually avoid feminists/shrews but once in a while I find talking to them can be helpful in what NOT to do.
I've got a girlfriend - 34, currently dating someone but not doing so well. Had dinner with her last weekend and I could point out every mistake she is doing in her relationship (her boyfriend told her he thinks they might not be compatible).
So my girlfriend was telling me how she starts to nag at her boyfriend (he spoke about marriage with her but now everything is snowballing into a mess) because he's pulled back aLOT and instead of giving him space, she makes these snarky comments. One example is their friend offered to get complimentary tickets to a concert in January for them but he hesitated - and she made a snide comment saying "it's because we might not be together anymore in January, right?"
She also showed me their "text fights" where there are just walls of angry texts coming from her and he's clearly taken aback.
Then when I told her I had a small conflict with my relationship, she wanted to analyze it with me (which I didn't want to do, because I already knew what I should do - be less sensitive, control my emotions, be more forgiving and realize that I was being aggressive). But it just made me realize the true amount of hamstering and self-absorption in women in general - the inability to get outside of your head, let things go, stop analyzing everything.
In conclusion, sometimes it's good to hear other women complain because you realize how awful it would be to be a shrew!