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Sometimes women don’t want your help, but they might thank you one day

April 2, 2021

A few weeks ago someone was talking about providing RP advice to other young women, and I amongst others said that other women mostly don’t want advice and it’s better to lead by example.

However, today I had the rare chance to see one of my friends undergo a mini conversion after planting some seeds about RP theory.

She, like many of my friends, is very liberal. Since her last relationship ended, I’ve tried to impart to her a greater need for boundaries, but also allowing men to express their masculinity because (gasp) that can actually make the man you date and yourself happier.

Today she told me that she took some of it to heart! She started allowing her new boyfriend to help and lead her instead of always crying independence, and was shocked by the results. He’s more giving, loving, and is falling for her even more. She told me that when I first brought up this idea she secretly called it “caveman theory” (lol) but has since embraced it because she’s seeing it’s really working!

Also! She said that because of this and other recent experiences that have taught her to value masculinity, she’s removing the phrases “toxic masculinity” and “men are trash” from her vocabulary because she now sees them as damaging. A year ago we used to argue this point so I was honestly shocked to hear that.

TL;DR most young women might not like your advice, give them time and space to explore these ideas and they just might come around!

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Title Sometimes women don’t want your help, but they might thank you one day
Author mercederu
Upvotes 105
Comments 15
Date April 2, 2021 11:51 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
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[–]AnotherRichard827379 25 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Doing the Lord’s work. Thank you.

[–]ihopemewingworks 10 points11 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

That's amazing! How did you plant those seeds? 😊

[–]mercederu[S] 18 points19 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

I’ve been semi-open with my friends about my perspective the longer I’ve been RP-ed, so many of them let me talk about how/what has changed. I think they kind of dismiss it as being old fashioned but they just let me do my thing lol

For me its never giving unsolicited advice and always phrasing things like “personally I would do __” or “with my partner, we do __.” Then people don’t take it as personally and if it resonates they’ll let you know

But number one is that if people see you having success with what you do, they start to consider your strategy more seriously

[–]ihopemewingworks 2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

And did you know them before you met your bf then?

That makes a lot of sense though, it won't feel like an attack or even that much like advice if you say it like that.

[–]mercederu[S] 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I did, yeah! They saw me in my crazy and very cringe-worthy pre-RP days, so they’ve seen the whole metamorphosis

[–]ihopemewingworks 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Did you tell them the strategy that you were doing when you were rp or when meeting your bf?

[–]mercederu[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Before my last relationship I wasn’t RP, so it was after I met him

[–]ihopemewingworks 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I meant with your current one 🙈

[–]mercederu[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

No current :-) (tho I can understand how my wording might’ve given that impression!)

I’m on an extended nun mode bc I don’t want to date during the pandemic and my country is still mostly in lockdown

[–]ihopemewingworks 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ohhhhh, hahah oops. That makes sense.

[–]RP_Bear9 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks for this great post and example! I work with a number of younger men & women, and I can clearly see they often need a fair amount of help navigating relationships. (I'm an older guy in 50's) I try to do what I can to provide an example and some guidance. This is a great reminder to have a good strategy with a few red pill-oriented messages to pass to those in the right place who you think may benefit.

[–]stayPositive890 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Happy to read this! Come to think about it, I wonder why women get so caught up in being independent. Being interdependent and embracing a man's masculinity makes life so much easier!

[–]DelicateDevelopment 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Congratulations! Well done <3

[–]LateralThinker134 Stars 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Throw Fascinating Womanhood's concepts at her, see what sticks.

[–]mercederu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

My thoughts exactly 😉

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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