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Successful post-wall marriages

March 12, 2017

Does anyone know any women past the age of 35 that has successfully married (and has a healthy relationship)?

Note: This does not include women who married between 30-34 or were engaged in their early 30's then married in their mid-30's.

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Title Successful post-wall marriages
Author vanBeethovenLudwig
Upvotes 9
Comments 24
Date March 12, 2017 9:14 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well my grandmother passed away some years ago and her husband has since married his high school sweetheart. They were both... wait for it...80! I attended their wedding and it was very sweet and they're quite happy together several years later :)

[–]NotThatOneGirl4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


The tl;dr of my story - married at 18, 2 kids, by 37 he was on his third affair, and just all-around not a great guy. Divorce, back on the dating scene, not fun.

At 40, I started dating a guy I'd been friends with for 8 years, now we're married.

And it's really good. He's what I think of as "accidentally red pill", in that he's not a follower of the Red Pill as a philosophy, but happens to just embody almost all the criteria, so I really lucked out there.

[–]Willow-girl4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

TBH it never even occurred to me that people don't find love at any age! My grandmother married for the last time around age 80, to a very nice gentleman a few years her junior. (She outlived him, too.) My mother remarried after a divorce at 60 and her younger sister remarried in her 50s after losing her husband to cancer. Most of the women I currently know are in long-term marriages although I do have a client who was widowed and single for years before hooking up with a guy who works for her. They have lived together for a few years now.

Oh, and as I wrote elsewhere, my hay guy, after losing his wife 2 years ago, got involved with a widow who lives right up the road from him. They've known each other since childhood. They got engaged at Christmastime and he was excited as a schoolboy telling me about it. Really made my heart glad to hear it; he's a nice guy and had taken care of his late wife through a long and debilitating illness. I hope he still has some good years left in which to enjoy himself; he deserves it. :-)

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[–]tempintheeastbayEndorsed Contributor1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Holy crap, I had no idea those 2 celebs were married!! Off to see if I can stalk wedding photos

[–]bowie7475 points6 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

There's a user here who I think (re)married after 35 and is now very happy.

/u/WillowGirl maybe is the name

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

she's been married and divorced like 4 or 5 times now... no way.

[–]NittanyLioness848 points9 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Damn. I haven't even been married once yet. No way I will catch up.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

my point is that as far as RPW goes, divorced women, and especially multiple-times divorced women should not be considered models you want advice from.

[–]Willow-girl6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well, it took me awhile to find one who could keep up with me! The last three showed early promise but kinda petered out after awhile. Hey, I never said it was easy being my man! :-D

[–]Willow-girl1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Well if you were a guy, you could become a fundamentalist Mormon and just marry four at once, LOL. Since you're a gal, I guess you're screwed, :-)

[–]radioactivities91 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You rule! Perfect rebuttle. Or the gals could always take advice from 18-21 year-olds...not that they don't give solid advice time to time but some things only experience can teach.

[–]tempintheeastbayEndorsed Contributor2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Still uncommon but I see many successful post 35 marriages in a particular class of highly educated / highly mobile / urbane professionals. Had a friend who met husband @36 and married at like, 38 or 39. She was a high powered attorney & he was a software engineer who had lived in like, 4 diff countries. However, he did had a kid...!! So even then, she was making compromises.

[–]meh6132 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My cousin (37) married his fiancee (also 37) in December. I don't know her as well, but he seems pretty happy. They were engaged at 36 and met at 33.

[–]NittanyLioness841 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My cousins both remarried in their late 30s/early 40s.

They are both nurses and blonde skinny little things with children from previous marriages. They do very well for themselves in central PA.

They both left their former husband/fiance to be with their new mates.

[–]aster0idB6121 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I know a few, but the best example that's close to me is my mom.

My mom and my dad got divorced when they were in their late 40s.
My mom married again at the age of 50. The man she married is great, as far as I can tell. I don't know where to put him on the alpha/beta spectrum but he has a very successful career, is very caring and loving toward my mom, is extremely intelligent (he has helped me with my homework in college, helped me study for my interviews, etc., so I was able to gauge how good he is at what he does), and is very confident in social settings and knows how to put everyone at ease. I think she was very lucky to find him. He's been committed to her and wanted to marry her after dating for a couple years.

He did have children of his own from a previous marriage, so I know this might be an issue for some people. It wasn't an issue for my mom, since she had children too.

About my mom - she has a very easygoing personality, and I'm pretty sure she is RP, even though she doesn't know what it is. She has always taught me the importance of being with a man you respect, the importance of committing fully to one man, not sleeping around, learning to cook, etc.

From what I've seen, I think she brings him a lot of comfort. They have a lot in common and it always feels like they are on the same team. They are also the same age, so that probably helps with common interests and background. They've been together for 9 years now.

[–]tempintheeastbayEndorsed Contributor1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

That's a lovely story, and it's great that you and he have what sounds like a good relationship as well!

[–]aster0idB6121 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Aww thanks! =) Yeah, he's been great to me and our entire family. Seeing them makes me feel much better about the whole eventually hitting the wall thing.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, my aunt. She was already 42 or something.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I knew this incredibly sweet, and sadly a bit naive, woman at work. She started dating a man and never seemed to get excited about him. He was clingy and needy and she seemed to think he was the best she could do. She told him she wanted to wait until marriage for sex and he literally proposed waith a Taco bell sauce packet a few days later. Within six months, she married him and a few months later he claimed she was abusing him and had her and her three kids thrown out of the house. She shouldn't have been surprised, since she was wife number 5, but she was. She thought she'd never meet a man who would have her after being divorced twice and with three kids.

Fast forward a year and she's married again. He seems like a great guy and they're equally religious people. She jumped in this time too, but it seems to be working out now and at 43, she seems really happy. I don't keep up enough with her to know how they met, but they did and it seems real this time.

[–]est-la-lune0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

My mom isn't RP but she and her boyfriend started dating when she was mid-40s. They're happy together and very well-matched. There's someone out there for everyone.

[–]Landry860 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes! I know a couple that married in college and she is 36 now. He is a little older than she is

[–]Rivkariver2 Star0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I know a woman who was like an aunt to me who is happily married. Don't know the exact age but she was well over 35. Also my aunt and uncle married rather late I believe. There are plenty of people who do. It's not necessarily the norm but it doesn't mean it's literally impossible. It might be harder for a woman who totally lets herself go and never goes out, of course.

[–]flyingwaterlilly0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not sure if my relationship counts because I'm not straight. I technically would be considered "post-wall" at the age of almost 40, yet I'm still taking good care of myself and people guess my age around 30 - 33. I had two previous relationships that (obviously) failed, of which my first one was a civil union (almost like marriage). I now have a new gf (she is much younger than me) and even though I never wanted to "marry" again, I might consider to do it with her in the future. We are both slightly RP-ish and feminine. :)

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