Hi ladies, just wanted to extend a quick thank you for the advice I have received on my last two posts over the last few weeks, regarding my relationship. One question was about asking my man about engagement timeframes and the other was about cooking him meat since I am veggie. I really appreciate all your answers and have spent a lot of time in self reflection and journalling the last few weeks and have also re-read The Surrendered Wife cover to cover (having previously just skimmed it).

Because of all of the above, I've been able to take the opportunity to have a conversation with my Captain about the direction our relationship is going in - and received the confirmation I wanted, without me feeling I have pressured him, and without hinting or being passive-aggressive...I simply switched off the hamster, waited until he next said "I want to spend forever with you" and took to opportunity to ask, "That's lovely - how do you see that working, logistically?" and he told me his plans and intentions, which more than satisfy me.

I also jumped in and cooked him a bacon and pea linguine which he thoroughly appreciated and it didn't trouble me at all, cooking meat is going to be a regular thing.

In addition to these two big (in my life) instances, I've really taken a lot from The Surrendered Wife this time around (now I have a captain to apply it to) and been actively listening a lot more, STFU a lot more, and really just becoming more and more calm.

Because of all of the above, my man has commented that he feels even more in love, and so trusted and respected as a man by me that it makes him feel so much more committed. To me, that's gold.

So I really just wanted to say thank you for the time people have given in response to my questions and also to all the great content on this sub, as I read everything posted and it has improved our relationship tenfold...taken it from great to truly solid. Thanks!