There is nothing new here. It's just another way to look at things most of us already know, to help those who are just joining us and those who still have trouble understanding.

The way men feel attraction for women can be thought of like a cake.

Presentation

Experienced chefs and bakers will tell you that the first bite of food you take is with your eyes. When constructing your cake you want to make it look as appetizing as possible. Making the layers even and spending extra time on the finished product will make people want to have a bite. the more delicious your cake looks the more people will want to try some.

In the best case, people may come from far and wide from seeing pictures on instagram. Every morning before you open there is a line of people going around the block hoping for an opportunity to try your cake.

In the next best case, even if you are home baker, making your first cake for your son's first birthday party, your family will still want to eat it. You won't be a famous baker but there will still be people willing and eager to have a bite of cake. Hey it's cake, and people will want to have at bite.

In the worst case, your cake looks like it's been run over a few times, and there's some green icing on it that looks a bit like flem. If your cake looks disgusting only the most desperate hungry people will want to have you cake.

If you haven't figured it out, attractiveness determines how likely you are to be pursued by men.

If you are the first category, congratulations. You are one of few who is coveted by many. There are people hitting on you all the time, and you pretty much have your pick of suitors, who will pursue you.

If you are somewhere between the 1st and the 3rd category, you should work on yourself as much as possible to get as close as you can to the 1st category. But as long as your not in the 3rd category you will be able to find suitors. You may have to work harder and do some pursuing and initiating.

If you are in the 3rd category, work on yourself as your primary objective. If there are things that cannot be fixed period, you have to work much harder at pursuing than everyone else, and have your choice of much fewer people.

Taste

Taste determines how likely people are to want more of your cake. It determines if people take a bite and decide that they are full (or spit it discreetly into a napkin), or have another piece. The more delicious your cake is, the more people will want more for themselves. People will want tupperwares with extra pieces of cake if there was any they were unable to finish.

This is girl game. Your pleasantness, helpfulness, playfullness, compassion, patience, femininty... These all play a role in how much a man wants to spend time with you. The more he enjoys being around you the more he will want to be around you, and if you are really good at it he will want to be around in preference to being around other women. What makes a long term relationship is the day to day decision that he likes your company.

The great thing about taste is it's entirely under your control. The presentation of your cake can be ruined by accedently dropping a water bottle on it, but the taste is what gets your grandpa asking for the recipe after trying some.

Frills

Frills are the extras of your cake. They are the icing sculpted into flowers, the gold flakes, the strawberry filling, the rainbow colored layers. These are the things that are nice to have but if they were not there, nobody would notice the lack of them. They can come in many different varieties as there are infinite ways to add frills to your cake to make it stand out just a little more.

Frills are great for showing off, but don't really make the cake worth having on it's own, sometimes just because they make the cake more expensive. There's a reason wedding cakes are only seen at weddings.

Frills can be your education, your hobbies, your job, your net worth... Men like frills because they make it so they can brag about you a bit. It just adds another thing that they can be proud of you for, and proud to be with you. However these on there own are never going to attract a man or keep a man.

In fact too much can make you less attractive, if they see it as something that is going to cause more work for them. A woman who spends all her extra hours on a career, or a woman with a doctorate who only wants other men with a doctorate. These are example of women who are more expensive due to their frills.

Summary:

  • Men pursue women who are attractive.
  • Men keep women who are feminine.
  • Other factors are nice to have, at best.