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The magic of earrings, or how being intentional gets you further

August 11, 2020

I've slowly but surely been putting the advice I've been reading here to good use. However, one area where I've historically struggled is appearing feminine and put together. I'm a plus sized woman and pretty shy, so I've always gravitated toward plain (and tbh, kind of frumpy) clothes. However, recently I have decided put in more of an intentional and conscious effort to feel (and hopefully become) more put together.

Y'all.....making this move has literally changed my life in a few short weeks. And I'm not talking about a complete overhaul. I'm talking small and reasonable changes with the wardrobe and products I already owned.

Tucking my shirts into my jeans for waist emphasis. Cuffing the jeans for a fun and femme touch. Wearing strappy sandals instead of bummy flip flops. Even better, wearing flats. Updating my glasses to be cute but classy. Taking better care of my skin. And, to tie into the title, always wearing some earrings.

These changes have changed my life. From my SO telling me that he loves that I just look so effortlessly together when we go out, to my friends asking how I manage to look simple and chic, to getting random compliments from strangers on how they love my shoes or purse or whatever. Wild.

However, I had a virtual interview about a week ago. I wore a simple gray cardigan and black t-shirt style dress, and I literally got the job over another person with a similar work history and education because the employer said they could tell that I took myself seriously by how I presented myself. They talked to me about how they've been interviewing people who show up for their Zoom calls in pajamas. For interviews. What?? I went in today for my physical and HR stuff, and I was approached by all kinds of higher ups throughout the facility who congratulated me on my new position with the group. These are people that I have seen all over town before who never gave me a second thought who are now giving me their cards and telling me that if I'm ever in their building, feel free to stop by.

Maybe it's a placebo effect of feeling better because of looking better. Maybe people really do respond better when you put in more effort. Maybe a mix. I don't know, and I'm not entirely sure that I care to know. What I do know is that my life has vastly improved in the past few weeks, and I'm going to chalk it up to having the audacity to start wearing earrings. :)

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Title The magic of earrings, or how being intentional gets you further
Author happyhearthwitch
Upvotes 176
Comments 19
Date August 11, 2020 11:00 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
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[–]ktcpar58 points59 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Everyone wears jeans - it depends HOW you wear the jeans. This goes for everything!

Congratulations on this achievement! I bet it feels like you’re walking on air

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Absolutely!! It's so interesting to realize that how you style things can really elevate a look and how much changes.

And thank you! It's definitely a good feeling and a much needed win.

[–]LeilaintheDark2 Stars17 points18 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Ahhh this kind of makes me want to get my ears pierced!

Congrats, must be a great feeling :) and thanks for the post. I often forget that even little things can make a big difference. Sometimes I get so hung up on big things (right now it’s my health that I’m seeing doctors for) and so sad about them that I neglect all the little things that I CAN do to make a difference.

[–]HappilyMrs13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

If you do, go to a body piercer and have it done with a proper needle, it's much gentler on your ears and gives less scar tissue than the guns at jewellery stores

[–]LeilaintheDark2 Stars0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I didn’t know that! Thanks for the tip!

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Ha! I promise, you can switch it up with or without earrings :)

Sending you lots of love and good vibes about your health situation. I don't have to know what's going on to empathize with how draining dealing with things like that can be. Please remember to take care of yourself and treat yourself well- health comes first, always!!!

[–]LeilaintheDark2 Stars1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you so much! Truly happy for you :) PS you’ve inspired me to wear a cute outfit today even though I’m just staying home

[–]IntelligentEmpress8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is so true! When I started listening to the advice from this subreddit, I started to feel better internally and it showed externally. The compliments you get from your loved one and strangers doubly encourage you to keep going. Keep it up missy!

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yay! Congrats on the new piercings. That's always exciting! Honestly, if it wasn't a little extra, I'd totally get more piercings. I always loved the feeling of new fun piercings.

[–]melissasue224775 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I read this last night before bed and didn't comment. Revisiting this before work to tell you that it's not the earrings. Its your confidence. Anyone who dresses in a way that makes them feel beautiful, conveys it. Confidence is the most attractive thing anyone can wear and it draws people to them! Your earrings are helping you channel it. For me its dresses, skirts, and chucks lol. Im glad you found your channel to show your confidence! You're gonna go far! ❤

[–]colourfulcomposure1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Ugh, coming from California where masks are required everywhere - I MISS WEARING MY EARRINGS! They get caught up in the mask and it drives me insane!

Hit I absolutely agree. I bought myself two pairs of these slender, sterling silver hoops that go with absolutely every outfit. On days I didn't want to put thought into my jewelry, I always just threw them on and felt great about myself.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

They're required in my state, too! I started wearing studs because they didn't interfere with my masks!

[–]CalmWalk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Of course people respond better when you look better. That's why we get dressed up to look good.

[–]Ms_Sommersby0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Amazing. I wish I could figure out casual fashion better than I am currently doing.

[–]seblin88-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

In the words of Ricky Gervais.. "anything but jogging"

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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