Things to have together before dating for a RP woman

• Fitness, health, sense of style/dressing

• Emotional wellness (past traumas dealt with, receiving/surrendered mindset, feeling positive, methods in place for dealing with hamstering)

• Having found purpose/sense of meaning (could be education, checking off a goal you’ve wanted to fulfil, volunteering, community)

• Communication skills (good listening skills, body language, articulation, being well-read in areas of interests)

• Decent support system (feminine mindset friends, close relationships with friends and/or family members). Be kind to everyone, especially other women.

• Finances (the ability to support oneself, clearing of debt or plan in place to clear debt)

• 1 or 2 Hobbies (for yourself, not for a guy)

• Basic cooking and domestic skills. Maybe know how to cook around 10 solid dishes well

• Vetting - knowing how to vet a guy. Identifying prior toxic patterns in your relationships if necessary and recalibrating your picker.

• Confidence - Writing down and setting personal boundaries/dealbreakers and trusting yourself and gut to follow through. Be willing to walk away when disrespected.

• Availability - Making room for a new man in your life by sending right signals. This includes clearing out/limiting interactions with exes, orbiters, and politely declining invitations from pursuers you’re not interested in instead of leading them on. Getting rid of behavior where you hide that you want a relationship. Dating incompatible men in effort to change them.

• Assertiveness - Understanding that RP submission is not equivalent to being a doormat and should be given gradually, according to how the man responds. Understanding “feeling bad” or having a meal bought for you or excusing a man’s disrespectful behavior as “he’s just a RP man” is not good reason to have sex with him. If you feel pressured to do anything, it’s a red flag, no matter how much chemistry you feel. The only good reason to have sex is when you have commitment (not just the status, but commitment preferably through time) and when you feel ready.

• Sensuality - Being in touch with your own body, loving your own body and feeling sexy. Knowing what makes you feel good. Especially so if you’re a conservative woman so you don’t end up starfishing when you meet Prince Charming. Treating yourself to spas, luxurious body scrubs, bath and wine, and whatever makes you feel sexy.

• Resillience - “hope for the best, expect the worst” mindset. Accept that there are still risks at the end of the day and that you can do everything right, but still have things not work out.

Edit: I wrote this list not to say “don’t date because [insinuating] you are not good enough” but more of this list is to say “this is the best position a RP woman can be in to empower herself in a feminine way and attract someone of higher value.” Also, this list is taken from reading this forum inside out and putting it together.

When you don’t have your shit together, you’re more likely to be desperate and put up with abusive relationships or fall for men who disrespect you/lie to you/use you as a plate but tell you otherwise.

Having your shit together is most importantly, FOR YOU. It’s to love yourself. IMO that’s what RPW are. We strive to be of value and know our value. We respect ourselves and are not automatically entitled to the universe without putting in the work. We put in the work and strive to be the best women possible, single or no. Obviously we have flaws, trauma, baggage, but we deal with them and make as little excuses as possible. If we have a captain, we know ourselves well enough to ask for help. There’s no such thing as perfection.

— If I’m missing anything from the list, do let me know.