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this is crazy....improvements after reading this sub for ONE DAY!

February 24, 2017

I just found this sub on accident and was sucked in. Ive been raised in that dont-need-no-man-career-comes-first way by my parents (who once argued that one of my boyfriend seemed sexist because he offered to drive me places too much??) sorry if my formatting is bad im on mobile!

I immediately started recognizing all the things NOT to do are the things ive been doing for the past 3 years of my relationship.

Here is how I would have treated my boyfriend today, without having found this sub:

-Wake up, complain to him that its cold and stay in bed so he has to do the morning chores (take care of pets and so on) sometimes I even pretend to be asleep so I don't have to do them

-Constantly ask him what he is doing if I dont think he is 'being productive enough'. Nag him about his plans for the day (so I can approve of them or hold him accountable or some shit)

-If I am cleaning, point out how I am cleaning and he is not. ugh

-suggest that he take out the trash tonight or something he can do without my suggestions, he can clearly see the trash is full with his own eyes. (he isnt an idiot why have I been treating him like one!!)

Here is how I treated him after binge reading this sub and what happened:

-got up before him, offered to make breakfast burritos (he declined, better luck next time!), did some dishes and cleaned up a bit.

-Saw him doing 'nothing' and said NOTHING about it. Went along my own goddamn day and did whatever I wanted.

-While I kept my mouth shut, he organized our game collection, found some games of mine I had lost and organized them, organized our cabinets, hung up some posters (and I did not nag about the best place to put them or blah blah blah), added some of his old things to our value village donation bag

-now he is off to the store to buy some stuff he needs, and I did not pester or question how much money he was spending.

-after we are getting sushi and he decided the time we are going!

has he secretly been this productive and awesome the whole time and ive been squandering it with constant nagging? so far survey says yes....

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Title this is crazy....improvements after reading this sub for ONE DAY!
Author Jemjon
Upvotes 97
Comments 14
Date February 24, 2017 1:58 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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[–]neveragoodtime1 Star25 points26 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

That's great to hear the changes you've tried and the results you've seen. I want to encourage you to keep it up. It's possible the past nagging has really taken a toll on him. I would never pass up any breakfast burritos offered, so it occurred to me he may be afraid of a covert contract, that something would then be expected of him if you did something nice. Give him time to accept your new mentality and for him to trust it's coming from a good place. With patience you'll see him take more responsibility and add some surprise to the relationship. Good luck!

[–]Jemjon points points [recovered] | Copy Link

thank you! I think the burrito thing was a different issue on my part - they are microwave burritos, because I can't cook!! so he wanted to cook a breakfast instead that I did not know how to make....I will have to work on that too :) I used to be a girl who was 'proud she couldn't cook' since it seemed feminist in some weird way haha!

[–]i_have_a_semicolon14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

DK how feminism brainwashed a generation into thinking there was little to no value to know how to cook a nutritious, delicious home made meal for people you love.

[–]SZONom9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Would it be inappropriate for me to drop a quick, cheap, breakfast burrito "recipe" that guys can't resist? On mobile, please excuse formatting: • russet potatoes (big Brown ones) •eggs •bacon or sausage. *poke potatoes with a fork and put it in the microwave for 3 minutes, take out poke again and microwave for another 3 minutes *cook bacon or sausage in the pan until done (usually about 6/7 minutes and you can do this while potatoes are cooking *cut potatoes into squares and brown them in the pan (I usually use the bacon grease to cook the potatoes in and it's the same pan/less dishes to wash) *scramble a couple eggs. *heat a tortilla over the burner on the stove but don't set it on fire, just flip it on the flame every couple seconds until it's soft and warm
Viola, breakfast burritos :)

[–]tempintheeastbayEndorsed Contributor1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

amazing, I will DEFINITELY try this! My man loves breakfast burritos and it's our anniversary Sunday so this is perfect.

[–]cant_downvote_truth-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

because I can't cook!!


[–]i_have_a_semicolon12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is so great! This is just the beginning. I've been reading red pill women for almost 4 years now, and almost at 5 years with my bf. I believe without having found it, I would eventually have driven him mad, and lead to us breaking up, and me not ever realizing how I was accountable for that. Truth is, I don't "need" a man, but I certainly "want" one, so I better act like it ! Congrats. But also, realize that your mindset and mentality from before is very toxic, and can and will return. But this is just day 1. If you keep it up, you'll have him fawning over you like never before. But also, at the same time, having the confidence to say things that normally he would not have said because he would be afraid of you turning it back on him. 3 years in, it will be harder to show him how you are changing yourself. Just keep going. I'm far from perfect, and I've had to go back to the basics multiple times over the years. But it's so much better to be the good girlfriend than just be a girlfriend who has a good boyfriend. Every woman is raised to believe they should only date a man they deserve. But no one teaches us what we need to do to be deserving of such a man. :) Good luck!

[–]loneliness-incEndorsed Contributor10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

has he secretly been this productive and awesome the whole time and I've been squandering it with constant nagging?

The short answer is yes. You've been punishing him and tearing him down. A person cannot thrive while being torn down all the time.

But... you caught yourself before it's too late. You found this place before he was so beaten that he left you. Take advantage of this. Make every moment awesome. Change for the better and your relationship wil soar to new heights that you never dreamt to be possible.

[–]SouthernAthenaEndorsed Contributor4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Wow! Keep it up! It's hard to break old habits. Glad you're already seeing the positive change.

[–]Eosei2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Haha, lovely :). If he can cook breakfast better than you or likes to do it his way, maybe wake him up with a cup of coffee (or tea or water or whatever he drinks in the mornings) instead.

[–]Jayms2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's so awesome! Thanks for sharing and keep it up! Try to be consistent so he can learn to trust you again after the way you treated him in the past. After a month or so, you might want to apologize to him for your past behavior and tell him you are trying hard to be a better girlfriend. They mention doing this in Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood. Sometimes my hubby will jokingly bring up something silly I did in the past and I'll blush and say yeah, that was the old me and I'm trying hard to be better. Instead of getting defensive, just acknowledge past mistakes and move forward. Keep up the good work!

[–]est-la-lune1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Welcome and congrats!

[–]Willow-girl1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You go, girl! :-)

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Welcome welcome. It's never too late. You'll see, life will now get better every day.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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