So I'm pregnant, about to enter my 2nd trimester, and asides from crippling exhaustion/nausea/food cravings, things have been a-okay physically and mentally. As the pregnancy has progressed and my bump has become more visible, my husband in turn, has became exceptionally doting.

I..don't know how to process this. I'm not complaining, but this is a new development in our dynamic. We've been together for 10 years and in that time I've been the doting force. Always fussing over him, getting him drinks, bringing him snacks, rubbing his back, making and serving him food, etc. Now the tables have turned and I'm a bit lost. I'm still fully capable of doting on my husband, but every time I try he always tells me to sit down, relax, I'm pregnant, I'm supposed to take it easy, etc.

ok, so on one hand I feel compelled to just listen to him; he is my captain after all. But on the other hand I don't want to slip into a lazy BP/selfish mindset; last night I caught myself thinking "you know what, I am pregnant, maybe he should serve me tea instead".

What would you ladies do? you're pregnant, but capable, however your husband insists on fussing over you.

Personally I never liked the idea that just because a woman is pregnant, she's suddenly incompetent. If I had a high risk pregnancy, or lived in a developing nation with shitty maternal care, ok I could understand the fussing. But I'm healthy, strong, capable, and have the american health care system at my beck and call. I can still do my 'wifely duties', but maybe there's an aspect of it that I over looked? The ability to let go and receive special care because I'm pregnant?

arg, conundrum. Should I be feminine/delicate and receptive to his care? or a strong wife who can still serve her husband?