To the younger girls in this sub: Some things I wish I knew when I was younger

KombuchaEnema · 2021-05-04T20:53:26+00:00

That was such a good video. I watched it yesterday I think.

Whenever I call out hypersexualization of young women, I’m always called a “prude” and told that I hate sex. In reality I love sex, I actually have quite a few kinks, and I have a very healthy identity in regards to my sexuality.

However, I think that a young woman discovering her sexuality is someone who is extremely vulnerable and that phase of her life should be kept private and personal. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with, say, a young woman experimenting with her high school sweetheart. I do think there’s something extremely distorted and perverse about a child waiting to turn 18 so she can create an OnlyFans, or a 20-year-old running an Instagram with thousands of half-naked pictures of herself.

There’s nothing empowering about that. You can take charge of your own sexuality without turning yourself into a hypersexualized caricature of yourself.

I especially like the part where she mentions that being sexy means you will be more popular. I think that’s why so many young women feel the need to imitate the “sexy e-girl” look online, because they’re thinking, “Well if I want a man, I need to be just as sexy as the women he’s masturbating to online.”

I went through a really, really dark phase where this is something I was so concerned about. Am I a sexual being? Of course. Did posting certain pictures make me feel sexy? Of course. But that’s not the only reason I posted them. I wanted to prove to the world that I could contend with the “hot sexy e-girls.” I had to prove that I was on their level and therefore deserving of my man. It destroyed me mentally and emotionally. And people who argue that it has nothing to do with competing or maintaining an image are lying to themselves.

We’re starting to view women’s sexuality as something perverse and hedonistic rather than something that is intensely personal, intimate, and private. There’s no passion to it anymore.

abacabbmk · 2021-05-04T23:36:52+00:00

These days not flaunting yourself like a piece of meat makes you different/special/desirable to the right kind of people.

The kind of people who reward you for sexual content are the wrong kind of people who dont actually care about you.

harrietnottubman · 2021-05-04T22:40:07+00:00

Saving this thread for my daughters. I’m 30 now wish I would have know this as a promiscuous teen 😫

SunshineSundress · 2021-05-04T23:28:58+00:00

This is so important. I fell to the trappings of social media thirst trapping (and real life thirst trapping, lol) when I was younger. If I wasn’t so damn socially awkward and bad with men back then, I would have definitely gotten into some bad situations or relationships where the only value I had was my body or sex appeal. Thankfully, I found RPW before it was too late and it truly changed my life around. I got sick of just lurking and now I’m trying to be a bit more active in the community that helped me so much!

At the end of the day, we’re not telling you that you have to dress like a fundamentalist christian (not that there’s anything wrong with that) to use RPW to your advantage. However, there is a clear line between using your looks and sex appeal as an enticing cherry on top, and using it as the only thing you could possibly offer. People make judgments on how you look - it’s just how the world works. Use this fact to make yourself look like and embody the woman you want to be treated as.

lazycatlovespho · 2021-05-05T10:07:19+00:00

to me, personally, everything is fine until they start to talk about women empowerment. they can post pics in bikini all the time and i honestly do not care. they are proud of their healthy bodies, they do that bc they want more followers and interaction on ig bc they do social medias or business owners , etc i honestly can not care less. but when they start to make excuses that they are uploading all those photos for women empowerment and thats how feminists should be i cringe. Talking about vaginas and showing your ass 24/7 do not empower any women or prove anything. Just say that you do that because you like that I'd rather hear and accept that reason.
also, i hate that they always try to compare themselves and mimic the bad things that guys did. like the reason why Cardi B sings WAP is probably bc "why men are allowed to talk about dicks publicly" but women cant talk about their vaginas? like why men can swear alot and talk about fucking and sexual things in rap songs but not women? I always think bragging about your dig/ vaginas 24/7 is problematic and I would not do the same things like the guys did and and call it gEndEr eQuAliTy. thats literally like a stupid competition. For instance, after seeing someone stealing something, you have to go steal a thing real quick because you want equality. thats such a immature childish illogical way of thinking

I know that this is a very controversial problem. Would love to hear thoughts from others also

BePrivateGirl · 2021-05-04T23:46:55+00:00

I like what you said in the post. I think it’s valid and important. I want to say the things you described are obvious, but the behavior you see online demonstrates that it’s not obvious. So these are all valid points.

But also: one day you are going to be partnered or married, and at that time you do need to be sexual. Not on social media, and not for the world to see, but you do need to be sexual.

I think that some women on here deal with their personal values of saving themselves, or limiting their n-count, by developing a sex-negative attitude. “Sex is valuable” “sex is special” “sex is intimate” but then when they are partnered, the volume of sexual activity needs to change dramatically.

I know men meet good girls with low n-counts, and then commit to them only to find that the woman just has a low libido. And that’s not “wrong” or “bad” or a character defect to have a low libido...but I just hate to see people conditioning themselves to be less sexual, to have a higher RMV, but then they can’t turn it around when they get the commitment, or have their first child, etc.

Sex is important to men, so don’t look at sexuality negatively. Know in your heart that there is a time and place to be very sexual, and enjoy yourself once you get commitment.

NoShitsGivenAtAll · 2021-05-05T04:16:42+00:00

Remember who wins in this messy hypersexual society we live in. Governments and corporations.

Governments get more taxes because more women have to work instead of building families. Governments also don't have to worry about building infrastructure when there are no children to build infrastructure for.

Corporations get workforce with much cheaper cost, because all the women that used to raise kids are now working, which increases the supply of workers, which makes them cheaper. Simple supply and demand.

None of this is in the interest of society.

HeyWhoTookMyCookie · 2021-05-04T23:26:34+00:00

this is really true! Thanks for posting this

PirateStill · 2021-05-05T02:25:27+00:00

Thank you so much, I was just thinking about this today.

Guapscotch · 2021-05-05T02:42:38+00:00

Well written post, very thought provoking

ragman75 · 2021-05-05T18:06:10+00:00

And if you're trying to get into a relationship, you're making it more difficult for yourself because you won't be attracting the right kind of men — men who fall for your personality, instead of only your body.

Worse than that. You will either attract guys that you dont want to be with that will lie to you about committing. Or you will attract a guy that will actually be genuine and want to commit, but he just wont be able to because we just arent hard wired to be that sexually open with our relationships.

ChadGoingHisOwnWay · 2021-05-19T19:07:38+00:00

well thank feminism for that "empowerment"

Fast_Bee7689 · 2021-05-21T23:32:12+00:00

We’ve come full circle in my opinion. Female empowerment was always about choice, only that’s now been taken away from us again. We aren’t being forced to cover up, nor become housewives, instead we’re being told to look like sex dolls & start onlyfans.

Title	To the younger girls in this sub: Some things I wish I knew when I was younger
Author	P0WERPLANTH0MER
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Date	May 4, 2021 8:39 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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