I was searching RPW for posts from women with careers who just so happen to be the main breadwinner... Not finding a whole lot of ladies who can relate...

I posted this on another thread but I was late to the party. I really wish I could slow down my career a little to focus on doing what needs to be done for my relationship, except I'm having a hard time because he doesn't make enough money to support our family.

We have piles of laundry in our room, dirty and clean. I have a hard time keeping the house as clean as I would like. Its not a pig sty or anything but if I had more time it would be in better shape.

We are both getting fed up with the laundry situation, him moreso than me, but I just can't work full time, take care of the kids, keep the house clean, and be the partner that I want to be because I have to work full time at a demanding job. I don't know how to fix it. I love him and I don't want money to be the thing that ruins our relationship, but if something doesn't change we are both going to freak out.

Also I don't think he even knows red pill exists, and I am in the process of trying to change from a sarcastic independent woman to a strong wife/mom/partner. Its been hard.

Tldr: I am the breadwinner, don't have time to do the things needed to build a better relationship, hubby has never even heard of red pill. Don't want to jack up relationship due to him making less money, but I don't have the time to do the little things that would make us both happier. Help!

Edit: this post isn't as long as I thought it was going to be. Oops.