Trying to not feel ashamed by wanting to be a housewife.

socksonmonkeys4117 · 2022-06-09T03:37:23+00:00

I became a SAHM after working in corporate America and getting my Masters. It is a joy but man is it hard work. If you’re making healthy meals, doing laundry, exercising, and raising children intentionally, it’s a ton of work. I cook 3-5 hours a day, clean 4-5 hours a day, and run errands around my daughter’s nap schedule. It’s not soap operas and snacks all day.

I think part of the problem too is that we all outsource so much of our lives and household to others that we find it odd now when a woman chooses to handle it herself. We outsource food, cleaning, education, etc. and then we all wonder why we’re so scattered and busy. Running the home is a full-time job because it’s supposed to be and pushing it onto other people or industries isn’t sustainable IMO. And it’s actually very rewarding. I’m able to run my home the way I want at my fast pace and do side projects (I write too and am enjoying the freedom to finish works after years of putting them off). This is the best decision I’ve ever made, and better yet, it’s the best situation for my family.

Exstntial-strawberry · 2022-06-09T00:19:11+00:00

Do people tell you their criticisms in person or where do you get this criticism? Just curious because all of my friends would love to be SAHM/Ws if they could

Mcmcickerson2335 · 2022-06-09T00:14:32+00:00

That’s wholesome wish we had more like you! Just have a fallback plan money wise. People can change in a marriage or something could happen to your future husband physically .

Lab_Brat_13 · 2022-06-09T01:51:05+00:00

People will criticize you no matter what you do. All that matters is that you and your husband are happy with whatever family situation you decide to have in your household. It’s your family and no one else’s. I have a Master’s degree, work full time and I don’t ever want kids. One of my best friends has the same degree and is a SAHM with two beautiful little girls. Both of us chose the lifestyle that best suited us and our family and that’s all that matters.

2022-06-09T02:38:30+00:00

I'm a housewife, 15 years here and I'm in my 30s believe me no matter what you choose you will hear something. It's a damn hard job it can be very stressful, if you want to do it and know it's what your here to do then I say go for it. You can write books as well.

StillWatersLily · 2022-06-09T00:17:05+00:00

People will criticize you no matter what you do. If you need quick proof, go check the comment section of any post about motherhood on Facebook. SAHMs are criticized AND working moms are criticized. You probably feel that the harshest criticism is leveled at whichever you identify with the most.

It's impossible to make everyone happy with your choices, therefore you can't make your decisions based on trying to make "society" or other people happy. You have to learn to live with the criticism and be confident in your own choices.

Luscious-Grass · 2022-06-09T01:55:32+00:00

Being a SAHM is damn hard work. Not much time for leisurely writing.

The truth is that for most people there is no such thing as a free lunch. You have to pick your poison with clear eyes, and don’t worry about what other people have to say on the matter.

Protocol_Apollo · 2022-06-09T10:50:37+00:00

The real red pill is being a housewife is equally, if not a better, job than working at some corporate ZOG.

In the latter, your labour is stolen/wasted on frivolous tasks tasked to you by someone who doesn’t give a shit about you, would happily replace you and if you died, would be over it in a couple of days.

This is not the case for the housewife. The housewife works for and with her family, profiting herself and them. She gets to work for something that actually does give a shit about her and well-being and wouldn’t be replacing her anytime soon.

ichillonforums · 2022-06-09T01:23:39+00:00

I relate to this. Like you one of my passions are writing, and the other is UX which is a technology field (the most feminine of the tech field imo, it's based in design and empathy), and it would be a dream to have a man provide financially while I have free reign to do writing/blogging/freelance UI and UX so I'd have free reign with it and not like actually tied down. That being said I wouldn't mind being tied down in this career, so I'm pursuing it. But I always have a wanderous heart and wanderlust, I'm also prone to ASD burnout, and if I could be secure while traveling the world and taking care of my mental health, man, I don't even know how I could be so lucky ☘️

I also feel ashamed. Idk what to tell you but just wanted to tell you you seem pretty cool, I really love other writers 📝📚

Dabz_TW0598 · 2022-06-09T04:45:02+00:00

More power to you. Being a SAHM is a full time job. May at times feel overwhelming, but rewarding and wholesome. Ignore the trolls. Good luck

stockholmwife · 2022-06-09T07:24:24+00:00

I'm a housewife and get criticism often, but I don't really care. People are going to criticize you no matter what choices you make in life, so there's not much you can do against that anyway.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2022-06-09T14:17:41+00:00

First, anyone who doesn't like your choices can FOAD.

I want to be a writer

So tell people you are a writer. /sorted.

All I want in life is to be a housewife and have a happy marriage and babies, why is this so frowned upon

Because we have allowed a very small subset of mentally-ill women to dictate what is "right" for women. People are often resentful of other people having it "better" than they do, and thus "Why does SHE get to stay home and eat bon bons all day while I have to go to WORK?!" Well that person made different choices.

Also corporate women sometimes wargame this out as the men they have to compete with having a "secret weapon" at home who can attend to managing the household, organize life etc. They hate it.

"You can have it all" is a Big Giant Lie, and those who were duped by it are Bitter A. F.

2022-06-09T22:03:51+00:00

Is it possible that you're getting pushback because of the way you're describing your plans?

I think if you said "I plan to graduate from college and work as a freelance writer. When I have kids I'll stay home with them," you might face less criticism.

But instead, you're setting it up as a you-vs-the-world conflict. "Society looks down on my hopes and dreams!"

And I think that makes people wonder whether you've really thought things through, or are just looking for drama.

Either way, I wish you luck in your plans!

angelicasinensis · 2022-06-09T12:22:08+00:00

Don’t know where you live but in my area I think it’s looked upon in high esteem- people always smile at me with my kids, tell me I’m doing a good job, compliment my children when we’re out and say I must be a “very busy woman”- lol.

NikiY12 · 2022-06-09T08:01:23+00:00

There's nothing wrong with your plans! Hopefully your parents will want you to be happy above all else.

Fyi you can do writing from home and manage a household and babies at the same time without spreading yourself too thinly, so it's hardly a waste of your degree ☺️ I do marketing from home (mostly content writing at the moment) and have a music degree! 🤣

2022-06-09T13:08:24+00:00

Sounds familiar. I also wanted to be a writer.

It's been 16 years of marriage and I have no regrets.

Life is too short. Don't worry about what others think. Live your life for you

chuggMachine · 2022-06-09T04:35:31+00:00

The only people that are gonna look down on you are feminists. Don't be ashamed for being an amazing woman. More power to you.

aslanhatessmeagol · 2022-06-09T09:20:07+00:00

Being a housewife is great if your partner is okay about it and can afford to support the family. Nowadays,being a housewife is like luxury.

2022-06-09T10:42:05+00:00

Fuck the radfems, I also wanna be a housewife working from home. I am at uni and I regret it. It's frowned upon because the world is dominated by the nightmare called feminism, which allegedly shames internalized misog. but uses the same shit against tradwives. And this shaming is not the deepest in the iceberg. The root reason of feminism is so the workforce doubles. The employee wages decrease, so the evil elite gains more money. Behind feminism is greed.

LoveWitchXo · 2022-06-09T02:02:07+00:00

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dorian1356 · 2022-06-09T13:35:33+00:00

They hate it when others have what they never will. They shame stay at home moms because they represent all that they're not.

ImpressiveEbb6377 · 2022-06-09T07:20:01+00:00

I think that's a beautiful idea. I think you guys should go through with it.

AcanthisittaExotic81 · 2022-06-13T04:25:59+00:00

It's seen as a bad thing usually by people in pure cope mode

Jukingku22 · 2022-07-04T00:38:59+00:00

Sadly feminism

Title	Trying to not feel ashamed by wanting to be a housewife.
Author	LoveWitchXo
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Date	June 9, 2022 12:07 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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