Last night I (30/F) went out for dinner with my boyfriend (32/M). We’ve been together for six years. When we arrived at the restaurant, one of the waiters recognized us, they worked together in the past. I met him once during that time. They made some small talk and eventually he invited us to a drink to which my boyfriend pointed to me and asked if I wanted to, I politely declined. Persistent, he came over a second time to ask and I accepted. I guess didn’t mind and he seemed nice- wanting to catch up with my boyfriend.
Randomly in the conversation, the former coworker made comments about my appearance. “You look good.” That was okay, I smiled and said thank you. Then it escalated to, “You have all the right assets.” I looked to my boyfriend and he changed the topic, ignoring what was said. I thought, okay.
This progressed to making sexual innuendos. He referenced getting blow jobs and wanting to get a hand job... spoke about sex then told me again that I looked good. I was extremely uncomfortable at this point, luckily my bf finally said we had to leave because it was getting late.
He insisted to walk us to the car to which he motioned up and down with his hands, saying AGAIN, “oh man you look great.”
Once in the car, I asked my boyfriend why he didn’t say anything. At first he said that’s how older single men talk. I told him I was uncomfortable and wished he said something to make him stop because it was disrespectful. He said it’s difficult because when men have discussions about that it can lead to a fight, and he didn’t want that to happen. He seemed a little clueless or scared on how to react. I am wondering if maybe I’m being too sensitive? What would you have done or expected from your SO?
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