I got a lot of replies. And a LOT to think about.

I talked to my husband last night and I think we may be down to the heart of the problem.

drumroll

My weight.

He said he is frustrated more about my health than anything else. He’s worried that I’m setting myself up for major health problems (his dad is diabetic and in denial so it’s all linked in there as well). He isn’t as concerned about my appearance as long as I’m making strides to do something about it.

I am not 100% convinced is the only thing (he’s pointed at other things as being issues and when the resolved we still didn’t start having regular sex). So I did ask that he see a doctor since he said he is very tired most of the time. He also has tried watching porn (not something he typically does) to see if he could get himself in the mood. And it didn’t work. That’s where I’m thinking it isn’t solely about my weight/health.

I signed up for a walking challenge and a keto group my friend runs through the summer.

I really appreciate all the feedback. Thanks.