First of all - thank for the well thought our answers to my whining! I was tired from being in the hospital, hormonal from my period starting, and dealing with side effects of new meds on top of everything I wrote about.

Secondly, I put into effect a few suggestions. I sat down with my husband and told him I needed to make some changes for myself. He agreed with me that changing the way we do school right now would probably be more stress than it’s worth and we could reevaluate for next year. But as for this school year - we are done! I decided to cut us off and have them just do some independent work every day, but I am backing off at the moment.

We also talked about our relationship (which has been an ongoing conversation since) - and he expressed what his needs are so I can focus my energy there. He expressed that he would like to see us really working as a team again and for him that means finances primarily- that we both make a budget and I stick to it (I’m guilty of NOT doing this in the past). He also loved the idea of decluttering to make everything easier to keep tidy. So I’ve been focusing my attention & energy on that right now (I’ve gone through the books and our living room looks so great with just that small change). He is also concerned for my health especially with this whole heart thing - so I have the OK from the doctor to workout again. My goal is to lose 20 pounds over the summer.

I’ve been struggling with self care so that is on my list of things to work on as well (I’ve been getting more sleep, taking a bath almost every night before bed).

Again - thanks for the input! I’m glad so many of you out in some really though provoking responses that were not short (so I know a lot of time went into answering me).