Welcome, I'm RedPillSchool, the head moderator of TheRedPill. I'd like to personally welcome you to RedPillWomen.
What's this all about?
One of the main tenets of red pill understanding is that the dating/mating/marriage market is considerably broken. Now, on /r/theredpill, you probably hear guys bitch and moan because men's and women's mating strategies are at odds with eachother. They are, kinda.
Here's the quick and dirty: We all have biological imperatives that our brains are programmed to try to make us accomplish in order to find happiness. The good news is, we're not slaves to the drive, and once we understand the drive we can be proactive to either satisfy the urge, or change our goals to mitigate it.
A man's biological imperative is to procreate. Some men (the few-- less than 20%) are very attractive to women and may take on as many partners as he can. There's no telling if he'll stick around to help with the young, but rest assured he'll make the rounds. Other men aren't as attractive are happy being providers. This is a majority of men. They want to settle down, have a family. Their biological impulses, believe it or not, is to make a woman happy. It's both a feature, and as we've discovered on /r/theredpill, one of man's biggest weaknesses.
A woman's biological imperative is to procreate. (We're not so different!) Her strategy is slightly different. She wants provisions, but she also wants the highest quality DNA to procreate with. Unfortunately for guys, this sometimes ends up with women having sex with one of the attractive but noncommittal men, and then finding another man to do the provisioning. Her strategy is two-fold: have sex with the highest value males as possible, and get commitment from the highest value males possible. If possible: get both in one man. If not, get both from separate men.
The reason for this drive for the absolute best DNA is because the biological cost for women is higher than men when making babies. It's a 9-month + many year expenditure. For men, it's about 15-seconds to half an hour (or longer if you're lucky, bow chicka wow ow).
Naturally that means women cannot afford to "accidentally" end up with somebody of lower caliber, as this takes up precious time and resources that could be dedicated to higher caliber DNA.
This strategy, which is mainly unconscious, is called hypergamy: maximizing rejections to reach the best quality males as possible.
Now, these imperatives we speak about here aren't set in stone, some have stronger instincts than others, and all men and women have the free will to ignore them. You don't have to give in to your biological imperatives. But know that left unchecked, most men and women will act on these imperatives without realizing it- causing visible trends that are easy to spot if you know what you're looking for.
Another point to be made is that blindly following your biological imperatives may bring you short-term happiness (that's what it's programmed to do!), but isn't necessarily the longest term happiness plan. In fact, following your instincts really only serves the purpose of making sure you make a bunch more of yourself.
So Why Red Pill Women? Isn't the red pill all misogynistic and stuff?
It isn't. The red pill is about accepting reality for what it is. As you've seen above, men and women's mating strategies are at odds with each other, and a lot of men on /r/theredpill are a bit angry. But they're not angry because this is reality. They're angry because they spent a majority of their lives being told that this isn't reality, and putting them at a severe disadvantage.
Once we embrace what reality is, we find our relationships to be more successful, more fulfilling, and a better deal for ourselves and for the women we've dated. We've concentrated on what women like, and by doing so have been able to make ourselves into mates that women would want.
But what do women have to do?
Well, the past half a century was the march of feminism telling women that they don't need to do anything for men, that they are perfect and don't need to change, that change or compromise is oppression, and that you can have it all. A career, kids, family, education- it's all yours.
The problem is that our culture ended up self indulgent with no long-term goals, and thusly- no long term happiness (at least where family is concerned).
With divorce rates skyrocketing, single motherhood increasing, never-marrieds piling up, and hook-up culture and one night stands at an all time high, people are reaching 35 going.. where's my family?
That's when Red Pill Women comes into play.
We had a radical idea- what if men and women learned about their natures and took proactive control of them, came up with a compromise that made both parties happier in the long run?
We're a cooperative species, and great things can be achieved when we do. Women, you have the ability to find happiness when you embrace the reality of your biological urges and impulses. You have the ability and the requirement to become the optimal mate for your optimal mate. Do not believe the hype that you are good enough how you are, and realize that in life, the only things worth having take work. That's for men and women.
RedPillWomen is self-improvement and long-term goal setting to maximize your personal happiness.
What RedPillWomen is and is not.
The problem I've seen with female-based sexual strategy forums is that they inevitably focus on what's politically correct. They focus on tempering the message so as not to offend. Because ladies, like it or not, our entire culture currently revolves around not offending you. Seriously. That's today's culture.
This forum will embarce truth first and foremost, sensitivity be damned. While I encourage people to remain positive towards each other, plain insults are discouraged, I understand that sometimes the truth will seem like an insult.
RedPillWomen is not the place for men to show up and spout nonsense. We have an unofficial rule on /r/theredpill that basically amounts to: don't listen to women about sexual strategy. It's not that we don't like women, it's that women really have a hard time seeing past what they like to understand men have a different palate. The same goes for men, perhaps even worse so. Men, being the less discriminating gender, are more-or-less programmed to find women sexy.. no matter what. And when a woman says, "I like to eat pie with my fingers" you'll have sex-thirsty guys line up out the door willing to say anything for female validation. "I love women who eat with their fingers."
Trust me when I say, this validation may feel good, but it's entirely useless if you want to find success in mating and in a family.
Men will say anything for female validation. Men are utterly and completely blind when it comes to what attracts them. They are clueless. They are conditioned by society to tell you that things we're supposed to find attractive are attractive. And why not? In our minds, if I find you attractive, and you exhibit certain qualities, it's hard to isolate which qualities were the ones we found attractive.
But you're not looking for low-hanging-fruit. You could just walk into a bar with no clothes if you want to make men drool. But instead, you want to make yourself into the woman who will snag the highest value mate. You want to redefine high value to mean longest-term happiness. And you don't want just any old schmo to drool over you. So don't take schmo's advice. It's terrible.
Welcome! I hope this will be a productive place to discuss sexual strategy for women. If you have any questions, do not hessitate to post and ask away. We have a great moderator team that will provide some excellent insight. With us we have /u/redpillwifey and joining us soon is /u/TempestTcup who are both great voices to lead this community. RPLady is new to the community, but is very well adept and I trust she'll also bring some interesting insights to the communty. Let's get started!