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What do you ladies wear at home?

July 15, 2015

I started working from home about a year ago, and I've noticed that my at-home attire has gradually turned into tank tops and knit pants. I'm ashamed to say that the same lounging wear is on when The Boss gets home and I feel like I could do better. Plus, it would be nice to go outside without feeling the need to change my clothes.

So, what do you ladies wear around the home? Could you offer some ideas for outfits?

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Title What do you ladies wear at home?
Author Kittenkajira
Upvotes 28
Comments 57
Date July 15, 2015 8:15 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
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[–]jocrue26 points27 points  (20 children) | Copy Link

Simple dresses go a long way. If you wear them with leggings, they're basically just a more sophisticated version of a tank-top and yoga pants. And soooo comfortable.

It also helps to spend at least a half an hour on hair/makeup/whatever in the morning. Don't just throw your hair up into a bun.

[–]cats_or_get_out23 points24 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I wear dresses or skirts everyday to work. I have a job that requires a lot of physical work (librarian--lots of shelving, moving boxes and things), and I can do it comfortably and still be feminine. The trick is to go for skirts and dresses that are full (not pencil).

I have a family member who has made me oodles of skirts and dresses. I have a high-end sewing machine, but I haven't made the leap from curtains to clothes. Pattern companies have reprinted their old clothing patterns from the '50s and '60s. These are the best!

I refuse to leave the house in shorts or pants. Even if I have to run around the corner for milk, I'll slip into a dress. Around the home, I wait until he's in his "home clothes" before I jump into mine.

[–]jocrue6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes yes yes! Full and A-Line are the epitome of the casual dress.

[–]iamz3ro 7 points7 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Around the home, I wait until he's in his "home clothes" before I jump into mine.

This is why I love this sub. I hope to marry a girl (if I even decide to) that will do stuff like this.

[–]cats_or_get_out4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I just discovered this sub! So interesting. I have been married for 13 years, and I have seen a lot of cringy behavior from other couples throughout the years. There are a few things (like the clothes thing) that I think are no-brainers...but apparently not.

[–]PinkFloweryBranches0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

What do you do in the winter time? Even though I live in Atlanta, it gets REALLY cold.

[–]cats_or_get_out1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great question! I wear sweater tights if it's extra cold. During most of the winter, I wear patterned tights.

If there's snow on the ground, I wear these insulating leggings I have (designed for running). I have also worn plain black leg warmers over my tights. These are great because if they have the heat cranked up at work, I can take them off.

[–]FlowerAndWillowWorld11 points12 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

Not going to lie, I feel like most men would hate a dress + leggings. A dress shows off your legs, and leggings show off your butt. But both worn together hide your legs and your butt.

You could probably get away with it in the winter, but a better alternative might be a dress with high socks, like this.

[–]jocrue1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My man seems to like the combo. It's usually something like this

I feel like dressing to impress your man =! dressing to look put together.

Maybe I'm the only one, but I hate having bare legs when I'm doing things around the house.

[–]MerryJobler1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Socks that high must be glued in place with special glue or else they slip down. They are also much more expensive than leggings and don't warm as well, especially with a shorter skirt.

[–]FlowerAndWillowWorld1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I own several pairs of over the knee socks that stay up by themselves. I got them at Forever21 for a few dollars per pair.

[–]MerryJobler1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nice, I'm shopping at the wrong stores then. Sock glue does exist, though. Mine never stay up without it.

[–]frozen_strawberryEndorsed Woman1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

but that makes no difference because they hide the legs like leggings do and you're not showing your butt off either. i think that style looks kinda wacky, tbh. and the dress is pretty short so you'd have to be comfortable with that, too.

[–]FlowerAndWillowWorld6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

A lot of guys really like that bit of skin showing between the socks and the skirt. Plus it still covers your legs for warmth while leaving him easy access for fun times.

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[–]frozen_strawberryEndorsed Woman3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

yeah, that's why i mentioned how short the dress in the picture was. maybe i'm old fashioned but just because men like short skirts doesnt mean it attracts the kind of men we'd like to attract here/sends the right message.

[–]FlowerAndWillowWorld2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well, we are talking about clothing you'd wear at home here, not necessarily things you'd wear out for everyone to see. Of course it's up to you what you're comfortable with, but I would think the majority of the discomfort would be alleviated by being alone at home with someone you love.

[–]littleredmelody3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I second the simple dress. I've been wearing more dresses lately, and the gateway was a cute pink plaid strapless thing, that falls to my knees and has a stretch waist.

I can pull it on over my head, or over my legs, and if I'm going out and don't want bra straps showing, it looks even more dressed up with a shawl or cardigan. It's the easiest no-thought no-discomfort outfit ever, so I even wear the dress around the house sometimes.

[–]Kittenkajira0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I need a plaid dress in my life. That's going on the list for sure!

[–]Kittenkajira1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm liking the leggings under a dress idea. Now I've got to find some comfy leggings.

[–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Our apartment is "clothes optional," so most of the time we're both hanging out in our skivvies or less. The man likes easy access, so he doesn't care for having me dressed up at home. If I had to wear clothes, I'd like a cute little nightie or PJs to lounge around in that don't make me look overly lazy or unkempt.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Oh god, dresses from H&M. Affordable (some are 2 for 10 on sale pretty frequently) so I don't care if I mess them up in the kitchen. Tons of styles/colors/fits for whatever you think is flattering. I have them in every color, and multiples of my favs. My man loves my "rainbow of tiny dresses" example

[–]Kittenkajira0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Like, 2 for $10?! Wow! They have some cute looking dresses.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's normally the basic jersey knit ones. But they're my fav!

[–]dancingforthemirror4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm single, so I generally roll around the house wearing the most comfortable clothes I have. :p If I were married or dating, I would definitely try to look nicer, but as it is I just don't care if I look like a hobo.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yoga pants/hot pants. I'm usually never cold so I wear tanktops. I also make sure that my comfortable clothes still look nice and appealing to my man :) Though he doesn't really mind... he says :P

[–]pseudomuffin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

My man is a very vocal fan of yoga pants as well :) So comfy! Paired with a cute top and a 3/4 sleeve cardigan (I'm always cold!) I look decently put together at home and I can still take the dog out for a walk without changing.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Experimented with some styles, yoga pants + tight shirt/top or shorts with tight shirts/tops is what he liked most (and me too).

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I usually wear what I wore to work minus the stockings till I go to bed then I sleep in lingerie(actual lingerie not that cheap crap from VS). I work everyday so I don't really have "weekend/lazy" clothes. I don't own any jeans and only own 4 pairs of pants and they're all for workouts. I think pants on woman no matter how well tailored they are always looks sloppy. I don't wear my workout clothes anywhere but the gym. I don't even wear them to the gym I change when I get there and change again when I leave. I do my hair and makeup everyday no matter what. Makeup takes about 45 minutes I take my time, hair depends on if I set my curls the night before but usually 30 minutes.

I know this seems very odd and maybe a little Stepford but it's how my husband likes me to present myself.

[–]fryingpanofdoom 3 points3 points [recovered] | Copy Link

I don't think it sounds odd at all, especially since I've noticed over the past few months that the more time I take to groom in the morning the better I feel all day. I would really like to work my way up to a having a no-rushing, set amount of time every morning for makeup and hair. Right now I manage makeup pretty well daily, but I'm always cutting corners with my hair. How do you usually set curls overnight? Whenever I try I end up with really tight curls and my hair turns into a disaster only gel and a bun can fix.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I do no roller pin curls so maybe different then what you're doing. Be sure you're doing your curls correctly(end to root and NO TWISTING!!) and be sure you brush them out A LOT!!!! Like 3 minutes straight. I also do mine "standing" instead of flat so none of the curls end up crushed or matted. I also recommend Japanese or curved bobby pins the regular straight kind poke too much. Practice makes perfect I guess.

[–]MrsLabRat0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

(actual lingerie not that cheap crap from VS)

Where do you order it from? Or do you go to a shop?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I order If I can directly from the brands or if they don't deliver I order from Net-A-Porter. There's only one really luxury lingerie shop in Seoul and they take so long to get new stuff.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If it's warm out I usually wear sundresses or shorts with a flowy top and if it's cold I'll wear leggings and a long sweater.

[–]MrsRitt2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

During the day I wear dresses when I am out and about or doing errands. At night with my husband I always try to wear cute fun lingerie, panties or silky pajamas. But truthfully sometimes I slip up and find myself in flannel :/

I second the dresses with leggings. You can stay comfortable and still look very feminine while doing it. :)

[–]cxj1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Couldn't you just wear whatevers comfortable most of the day and change rly fast when your man gets home? Seems like this would capture the best of both worlds

[–]Kittenkajira2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

That's how I started, but somehow I evolved into comfy clothes all day long.

[–]DrJawn20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Just take off your clothes right before he gets home

[–]cxj3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

^ great solution.

[–]Ariel1251 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

can anyone link to 'house' dresses or lounge dresses? I tried ordering some off Amazon but they looked nothing like the picture, and are basically mumu's! I have sun dresses I wear out but really don't have anything I could do housework in.

[–]jocrue4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Be sure to try on different dress silhouettes to make sure you know what is the most flattering on you. Depending on your hips/waist/bust, you might need a different style.

A-Line is the most universally flattering, drop-waist is the most universally unflattering... but there are some women who look terrible in an a-line, and some that can rock the drop-waist (I assume, I've yet to see it be done).

I have a larger bust, so anything that doesn't nip in at the waist and flair out at the hem looks like a mumu or a tent. Depending on the hemline, a belt can make those style dresses look less tent-like.

Just remember: belts sit around your waist not right under your bust. That's just a transparent fat-girl trick to fake a waistline :P

Have fun experimenting, this should help!

[–]cats_or_get_out4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Try eshakti.com.

They allow you to customize your dress length, sleeve style, etc. I haven't bought anything from them (have my own seamstress), but my friends like their products.

I like how you can do custom sizing. You enter your dimensions (including torso length, etc,) and they see the dress accordingly. They're cute (not frumpy!) little numbers.

[–]Ariel1252 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link


wow thanks! They have the cutest things!

[–]cats_or_get_out0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yay! I'm glad you like it!

I tried shopping at the mall (first time in years) for clothes and it was so frustrating. I prefer a classic, feminine look (Google "Sandra Dee" [the actress] and you'll see my preferred style).

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

H&M and Forever 21 are great spots for cheap lounge dresses in flattering shapes!

[–]FlowerAndWillowWorld1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Just search on these sites by lowest price and look for dresses made of a jersey knit material (like a t shirt). You'll get feminine, affordable, and comfortable all in one.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

They're like 70% of what makes up my closet, haha!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

oh man, i rembember having a couple of those, they're great. Asos has similar ones usually, if H&M doesn't work for you.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lingerie tops with leggings usually

[–]SuperSlavisWifeEndorsed Contributor1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

+1 for simple dresses

What I do is I wear my slodgers for housekeeping and then swap into a dress and heels before he gets home. If there's time a splash of makeup, a piece of jewellery and a bit of perfume in the hair too. :)

[–]prettylittledictator1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I dress up for the weather to be honest..never know when I need to run errands or see my bf at work.

I do my make up and hair so I never feel self-conscious.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I work from home too. I don't dress formally but I get dressed and go out every day. Different guys like different looks so it depends a bit on what your husband finds sexy. My man loves me in tight jeans and a tank top that shows a bit of cleavage, but he also loves flouncy little sundresses.

I wear my long hair down as often as possible and I always do a little bit of natural looking makeup (fill in brows, mascara, and a little eyeliner). I never wear t-shirts or sweatpants and I only wear workout clothes when I'm actually working out.

[–]PursuingGrace1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love, love, love maxi dresses and skirts. They are comfortable and easy to do chores in, but still cute enough that if I am running behind on freshening up before He gets home, I still look feminine and flirty. Just feminine, flirty, and possibly sweaty. lol

[–]vintagegirlgame1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Now that it's summer and the pool has warmed up I spend a lot of time walking around the house in just a bikini! (With a sarong or coverup if the roommate or anyone but my SO is around). We don't use AC so if I get hot I just slip in the pool for a cooling dip. If we have the house to ourselves I'll sometimes skinny dip and try to get rid of some tan line which often leads to poolside sexy times ;)

[–]PrincessofPersuasia0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Jumping on the dress bandwagon and adding:

  • be sure to find a comfortable dress that flatters your body type.
  • stores like ROSS can be fantastic for finding affordable dresses. The ones I buy are usually around $10, super cute, last for a while, and you can buy a few of them.
  • dresses are effortlessly sexy. Super easy to throw on, comfortable around the house, they actually make me feel productive (as opposed to working in pajamas), and if you need to go out you just throw on a pair of wedges and maybe a piece of jewelry.

[–]tradmarriageftw0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I can't really wear dresses to work. I can get away with a cute short skirt or short dress over jeans, if this is the case then the jeans come off when I get home. Other wise I wear a cute top (think floral or lacy) then switch my pants to a skirt when I get home. It's too hot and uncomfortable where I live to stay in pants anyways. I'm always so relieved when I get home to change to a skirt.

[–]anitapk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dresses, skirts with nice tops, shorts, anything that is cute really.

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