What to except from a RP man in a LTR?

Ironically, I'm actually making more money than her for the first time in a decade, thanks to my fiction writing. But yes, in general her career pays more than mine. She also comes from an affluent background, while my folks were decidedly working-class.

1. Yes. I also do the lion's share of the laundry. I'm just better at both. That being said, she has plenty of chores that don't involve either.

2. She COULD be independent, or fake it reasonably well, if she wanted to be. But she's honest enough with herself to understand that she does much better in a complementary relationship, and sees "independence" as a foolish rationalization for divorcees and hyenas.

But it isn't about the housework. The domestic side of TRP is kind of a symbol, and its easy to get wrapped up in that symbolism and miss out on the important part. I don't see it as me being forced to do housework: I see cooking as how I establish control and order for my family. FOOD COMES FROM DADDY. It hasn't come from Mommy since she lactated. I cycle the wash but she folds and puts it away. I mop the floors because I'm just a lot better at it than she is, too.

So what DOES she do? She's on the kids. All three of mine are geniuses (on paper) and have a gazillion enrichment activities. Mrs. I also handles the insurance, all medical issues (A LOT) and non-cooking-related household chores. But she doesn't do anything serious without consulting me, and I am regularly informed of progress and asked to make policy decisions. She also works a part-time job in her field, is highly active in her professional community, is a Red Cross volunteer, a Scout leader, etc. We have a busy life.

And that's the thing. It isn't that we're doing anything much different than other couples, it's the WAY we do it. I make decisions. She expects me to make decisions. She follows my lead unless she thinks I'm being stupid, which doesn't happen often. She's very accommodating of my vast sexual needs. And she understands that sometimes "it's a man thing" and she backs the fuck off.

Hope that helps explain. I'm willing to elaborate.