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What's your job and your partner's job?

April 28, 2017

Kind of curious regarding job pairings and also the personality traits that go along with the job.

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Title What's your job and your partner's job?
Author vanBeethovenLudwig
Upvotes 11
Comments 62
Date April 28, 2017 1:41 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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[–]Willow-girl7 points8 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

We are modern-day homesteaders! We work off the farm as needed to earn whatever money we need to finance our (very frugal) lifestyle, but home is where our hearts are. :-)

[–]dunamis_energeia1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

My dream! I'd love to hear the details about how you run the farm.

[–]Willow-girl0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

Basically, if anything moos, bleats, meows, barks or quacks, we feed it.

If (or, more to the point, when) anything poops, we clean it up!

That's pretty much it in a nutshell. :-)

[–]dunamis_energeia0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

Is it easy to notice when they get sick?

[–]Willow-girl0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Our animals are actually pretty healthy. Marianne the cow had some metabolic issues after a difficult calving, but she pulled through OK. Occasionally one of the cats will get a case of the sniffles and will need to be shot up with penicillin. (We vaccinate them which helps, I think, although they all have autism now, lol.)

Out here it's very difficult to find good large-animal vets. We had a good one until he got hurt by a horse and nearly had to have his leg amputated! Now he only does light-duty stuff like consultations and prescriptions. :(

[–]dunamis_energeia0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

That's horrible, I'm sorry for him. For sure by the time I manage to have a small property and some animals, I'll ask you some tips. Btw, are you familiar with Justin Rhodes' youtube channel? Such an inspiration :)

[–]Willow-girl0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Sure, fire away! Over the years the man and I have had about every kind of domestic animal imaginable, from turkeys to llamas. These days, getting older, we've scaled back a bit and our only large pets are the cows and two goats. The doe goat is sweet and tractable, while the wether is a PITA. His name is Buster, but the man has taken to calling him Bob, short for Kabob. He keeps threatening to turn him lose somewhere with a sign around his neck that says "Eat Me" ...

(Sorry, not familiar with Justin Rhodes ...)

[–]dunamis_energeia0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

His channel is all about visiting small to big properties in the US and show viewers about the techniques and practices of amateurs and professionals raising animals and growing food.

[–]Willow-girl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks! Those look neat. :-)

[–]waterlily72414 points15 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I am a chemist, he is a helicopter pilot for emergency medicine/local news station.

I like our pairing a lot- I'm in a very niche intensive environment (lab) while he is in a more real-world/intense environment (emergency rescue). I am the more academic, pondering type and he is the more pragmatic type.

I am the one who is introducing him to random interesting topics or books and he is the one taking me on helicopter rides over the city.

We had a great laugh on our first date when he asked if I had a personal weakness and I told him that I was absolutely awful with directions like NSEW and he kind of stared vacantly at me for a moment and then we both laughed hysterically b/c he pretty much has a map of the entire city memorized 😂🙈 We're polar opposites in the best way imo.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Both of your jobs sound awesome. My dad had to fly in a rescue helicopter a few years ago, he fell and broke half of his face. He said it was scary being in it because it's so tiny, made him feel claustrophobic.

[–]waterlily7240 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh man I'm so sorry to hear that!!😓😓 I imagine I'd think the same if I were a patient, but sitting in a 5 seat chopper is very comparable to sitting in a small sedan. Plenty of moving room imo 🤔

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

He's totally fine now but it was pretty horrible when it happened. You can't even tell how though, thank God.

[–]scallopkidEndorsed Contributor5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm a CompSci student, SO is a software developer. (My dad is also a software developer, haha)

[–]kitschisland3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Same here, bf and I study Computer Science but he is like a natural born programmer while I am a huge noob. XD

[–]Icoupon5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Him factory me retail.

[–]teaandtalk points points [recovered] | Copy Link

He's a web developer (self employed), I'm a web developer's assistant (husband employed). He's more methodical and logical, I mostly just make things pretty and talk to clients. I have an arts degree and have always been into more people facing jobs than he is.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Haha! I love the self employed, husband employed thing. My husband's long term goal is to freelance in what he does and have me run the day to day.

You guys have to have a great dynamic to be able to live and work together.

[–]teaandtalk points points [recovered] | Copy Link

It is HARD but worthwhile. Right now, we're in a foreign country visiting my extended family, who he hasn't met, and simultaneously working a few hours every's tough. It's a strange mix of business hierarchy (ie he's definitely the boss) and relationship hierarchy (I am a feelings-machine and have to rein that in around him at work, sometimes it's hard to separate my wife-self from my work-self). Worthwhile but tricky.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It almost sounds like there's a FR there... Something to think about!

[–]i_have_a_semicolon0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Do you have another handle? This isn't the first time I heard someone say this exactly in the pill sphere

[–]confusednsqueeky3 points4 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Both medical students right now. But after he might move away from medicine professionally and I won't

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

I took care of a guy's parents and he was a medical doctor, never practiced a day in his life, he does stocks for a major pharmaceutical brand. I was talking to his niece's husband one time and he told me this guy is like #3 in his industry. (Needless to say he's loaded.) But it is cool how flexible an MD is, it's not just about seeing patients.

[–]confusednsqueeky1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Wow great to hear such a succesful story! He realized along the way that he doesn't want to be a physician but opted to finish med school because of all the options available afterwards. I am pretty sure my BF wants to be his own boss but will sure let him know of this way of using medical degree.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, there's so many different ways to use it, he just has to do a little research.

[–]vanBeethovenLudwigEndorsed Contributor[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Michael Crichton (author of Jurassic Park series) was a MD that never practiced either. His medical background inspired all the dinosaur DNA stuff. And he created a whole industry for kids and adults to love dinosaurs (with the help of Spielberg)!

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

TIL! I had no idea!

[–]vanBeethovenLudwigEndorsed Contributor[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

If you read the books you'll see the medical background, it's super cool! Definitely recommend.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My husband just listened to the audio book a few months ago, he loved it.

[–]BrittSprink2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

He is a professor, and I'm a stay at home mom. I am a licensed middle school teacher, and I plan to go back to teaching after our daughter has been in school for a couple of years.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Professor of what? What do you teach?

[–]BrittSprink1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

He's the head of the English Department and focuses on technical writing. It suits him well. He is organized, concise, well-spoken, and logical, so both teaching college students and advising his fellow professors come naturally to him. I teach both Language Arts and Social Studies, so my focus is more on storytelling, and of course basic organizational skills and time management. Prior to high school, we're still doing a lot of teaching children how to learn and exploring creativity.

[–]MissRatatouille2 points3 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

I'm a nurse's aide and in school to be a registered nurse. I think what that says about me is that nothing grosses me out and I am a people person.

My SO is a custom welder and in the national guard. He works hard, is a visual/kinesthetic problem solver, and is able to wake up at ungodly hours.

We are both extremely busy and motivated people, which is what brings us together.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

Nurse's aid! Yay, me too! I'm sure we could swap some stories! 😂

[–]MissRatatouille0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy Link

I bet we have seen some shit! 😂

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy Link

And smelled it... And cleaned it... And probably touched it... And maybe even had it wiped or thrown at us...

[–]Willow-girl1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Oh my. I can handle getting splattered with cow manure, but people manure? I gotta hand it to you ladies; I don't think I could do that! :-o

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

It's a labor of love, although I imagine you could say that about pretty much anything. You learn not to take things personally, that's for sure!

[–]Willow-girl1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I'll bet! I clean for an elderly couple; the lady has dementia and they have a terrible time finding good caregivers who don't steal them blind, etc. You ladies are worth your weight in gold!!

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Isn't that awful 😡

[–]Willow-girl2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

It makes me so mad! They are the sweetest old couple in the world. The husband struggles with health problems too (diabetes) but he doesn't want to put his wife in a nursing home. When they started using a caretaker, they offered me the job, but I've never had that sort of training and didn't feel equipped to take it on. Also, they're a little farther away than I wanted to commute on a daily basis. I wish they were closer; I'd be able to help them more. It's frustrating because their son is very wealthy and willing and able for his mom to have the best care, but it's very hard to find good people here I guess.

Ha,,, the husband told me a funny story about how he screens new caretakers. He says on the first morning they arrive, he leaves his morning paper on the walkway leading up to the front door. If the girl stops to pick it up and bring in it, he figures she's going to be a good worker. If she walks right past it, wellll ...!

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I lol'ed at the newspaper thing. I once cared for an elderly couple in their home for 3 years before the husband passed away. They were lovely. They were Jewish so I was with them for holidays, in learned how to keep a kosher house, I saw one of their granddaughters graduate from medical school... They became family. I leave flowers on the anniversary of their deaths and on their wedding anniversary every year.

[–]fuqyoudale2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My SO is a chemical engineer who manages quality assurance for a pigment plant. I am a branch manager of a home healthcare company.

Although, we are going to be changing that dynamic when he starts a consulting firm of his own for lean manufacturing and six sigma. I will become the dutiful assistant/secretary/accountant. Truly supporting the business in any way I can until it takes off. :)

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am a web operations manager and he is self employed.

[–]i_have_a_semicolon2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

We're both software engineers. I'm a team lead / consultant doing frontend work at a large bank, he's doing more with cell phone networks and stuff he can't tell me due to confidentiality. As for personality I guess you have to have an affinity for logic and solving problems, being detail oriented, and not easily frustrated when things don't do what you expect - and be able to work backwards from the problem to find a solution.

[–]batting4fireflies4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I am an attorney (criminal defense) and my SO is an electrician.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I bet you've got some stories!

[–]batting4fireflies1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

So many I could write a book! My SO loves to hear about the crazy and unpredictable things that happen at my job.

[–]tempintheeastbayEndorsed Contributor1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Super interesting Q! My BF & I are both in finance (sort of, hard to be more specific) though I do slightly more people oriented things and he does slightly more hardcore things.

The job pairing is definitely reflective of our general chemistry and reasons for being together. We're both ambitious, pragmatic, cynical and like puzzles. We both work really long hours and are always thinking about business. I could never be with someone who didn't fit that general mold.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I currently work in behavioral health and am transitioning into human resources. My SO is in automotive maintenance.

[–]Shaela903 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am a software tester transitioning into developer and my boyfriend is a microbiology professor who's also employed in research.

I am really proud of him being all ambitious and I love it when he gets all geeky about his research. I also studied pharmacy and we'll usually spend a good amount of time discussing science and research. Apart from that, I am really impressed by his social skills. Interacting with students made him really tactful, calm and socially savy, which helps a lot, since I tend to be a bit oblivious and shy with people.

I also like the fact that we are both very detail oriented and intellectual, since we can talk about any issue we might encounter. He likes that I'm somewhat of a nitpicker and a problem solver, since this way, we can easily sort out our misunderstandings.

He jokes saying I'm a cute robot humming around, on a mission to improve everything and I really appreciate his love and admiration for all living things.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Librarian. Laborer for the City, with a bachelor's in hydrology. I'm really proud of him for working his way up.

[–]vanBeethovenLudwigEndorsed Contributor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm an artist (creative, live by my own rules) and teacher (nurturing, patient).

My boyfriend is an engineer (practical, problem solving) and entrepreneur (risk taking, sociable).

We pair well because I'm interesting but soft, not super aggressive, and he's not as manipulative as businessmen tend to be. I find engineers to have good hearts because they're so rational.

[–]anothergoodbook0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

My husband works on conveyor belts (the really big ones in mines & anywhere else that needs them) and basically anything to do with rubber (hoses, gaskets, etc) when he isn't on a job site. I was a stay at home mom for 6 years, but decided to go to school for massage therapy. I only work 2-3 days put of the house since I'm also homeschooling the kids.
We were married fairly young before we had our respective jobs, but I knew I always wanted to be a SAHM. He has a ton of energy and doing hard labor 8-16 hour days suits him. I'm more nurturing. He are opposites in a lot of ways which used to make me upset, but now I see how we balance each other out.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm a CNA and have been for 10 years. I love my job, I've worked in every setting imaginable for all kinds of people. I'm a nuture-er and a care taker, that's my personality, so this jobs really suits me. I am able to empathize with people and am very outgoing so I build rapport quickly with patients and their families and they feel comfortable with me very quickly. Being a CNA appeals to me because the qualities that make me a good homemaker also apply to my professional job so its a perfect fit for me.

My husband is in sales, he currently sells advertising for two newspapers and he does branding and marketing for businesses in the area. Mr. Dunham is outgoing, a dreamer, very creative and loves a challenge so this job is perfect for him. His pay is highly based on commission and he love sit because there's no cap to what he can earn in year. I think he likes when a potential client turns him down initially because he comes back at them again and it's a bigger challenge to win them over.

I often say that Mr. Dunham keeps me from being too boring and I keep him from getting into trouble. I'm definitely the type A planner and he has his head in the clouds. It's a balance that works out well.

[–]ecossecho0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am an accountant working on breaking into real estate investment.

He just finished his PhD in biochemistry and is looking at a career in chemical patent law.

[–]bunniebell1 Star0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Currently not working due to health reasons, but I am a middle school teacher. My husband is a marketing and sales executive in a small company

[–]myrpwi_account0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am a dietitian but in school to be a nurse. He is a mechanical engineer.

[–]ForeverMrsK0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

He is a pharmaceutical delivery driver and I am a wedding planner. We both love where we are with our jobs and we are both doing really well at our jobs too, how many people can actually say they love their job????

[–]kekerae0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am a stay at home mother to a 2 year old and am pregnant again and my husband is a law enforcement officer.

[–]EyebrowsOnSpoons0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am a French student (very academic, cannot procrastinate, motivated and empathetic - INFJ) and my SO is a Political Science student soon to be Masters in Public Health student (logical, strong-and-silent type, brilliant and self-assured, caring). Right now, though, he delivers pizza. Haha.

[–]bubblemilkbun0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am a senior in college (receiving my Bachelor's in Elementary Education in December!) and work at a classical charter school being an assistant teacher. My partner works security for multiple events (concerts, festivals, shows, etc) and is planning to do a career change prior to us getting engaged (he will be working with recovering addicts as a mentor).

Since joining RPW I've had to examine myself and not ridicule or rush him for moving into his career. I had a bad habit of being pretentious towards men (I've got my career ahead of me AND I work why aren't you all at my level!). I've changed that recently and noticed I am treated better by my LTR in term of that. He seems to be hinting towards speeding up the engagement progress now that I've been more encouraging versus nagging.

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