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Where to make high-quality, RPW-minded girl friends

March 23, 2016

I've noticed this topic has come up several times, either as a side conversation in comments or in irc chat. Quite a few of us have lamented not having quality girl friendships that encourage us to be the best first-mates that we can be while avoiding the husband-bashing, you-go-grrl, strong, independent, I don't need no man, if you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best.

So where do we find these types of friends? Since you are RPW where do you go when you're looking to find new friends, or are open to making them? Where do you girls hang out for fun?

Lately I haven't had a lot of free time between work, classes, and the SO. But I do try to take some time by myself to go for nature walks and read in the local cafe. However I'm not sure how conducive those activities are to being social and making friends. What about you? Here's some other ideas I've seen around here:

  • volunteering
  • classes (like art, cooking, language, dance)
  • gym (yoga, pilates, butt class [lol I can't remember the name of this but I remember someone making friends there])
  • church stuff for the religious folk
  • clubs for books, knitting, sewing, etc
  • using websites like groupon/livingsocial to find ideas and coupons. On living social there have a section for classes under "Things to do"

Personally, I'm thinking of doing something more fitness related, like a pilates class if I can find something affordable around work. I'm interested in the kind that uses machines since it seems like it would be more fun and offer more neck/back support (whenever I've tried pilates at home I get intense neck pain).

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Title Where to make high-quality, RPW-minded girl friends
Author littleteafox
Upvotes 31
Comments 36
Date March 23, 2016 4:33 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
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[–]Littleknownfacts12 points13 points  (18 children) | Copy Link

I really wish doxxing wasn't a thing, so I could know if anyone in here was in my area. I feel like I know the girls here well enough that I wouldn't get "first date" jitters lol.

[–]littleteafox[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Me too!

[–]FortuneGear091 point2 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

You could chance a trollx meetup.

[–]lifesbrink16 points17 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

Oddly, TrollX has this place pegged as a hate sub with men pretending to be women. I can't understand why.

[–]SouthernPetite8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

The other day I saw a woman claim that RPW is place where women learn to manipulate and control men. Thought that was a tad odd.

[–]lifesbrink4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

No no no, it's obviously a place where Cthulu is training its secret army to ensure the death of millions.

[–]SouthernPetite0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]lifesbrink0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I dig!

[–]FortuneGear092 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

men pretending to be women

What? I had no idea. I think trollx has quite a few funny things, much better than twox. I can't understand why either.

[–]lifesbrink3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It can, but most of the time I see it attacking male behavior.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I do laugh at a lot of things that are posted in TrollX, but I don't do well interacting with the ladies there. TrollY jokes that TrollX is all men, too. So --that's just Reddit -- everyone here is men.

[–]MistressCelius5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Shh. Everyone on reddit is a GUY.

There are no girls on the internet.

^ The consensus of what the internet in the first decade since its conception.

[–]StingrayVC3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is where Tits or GTFO comes from.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]autourbanbot0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Here's the Urban Dictionary definition of Rule 37 :

There are no girls on the internet....ever .

That night elf is a guy, rule 37 bro

about | flag for glitch | Summon: urbanbot, what is something?

[–]tintedlipbalm0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's the same crowd but different subreddit purpose.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Trollx has way too many feminists. I don't think the bulk of them would align well with the bulk of us.

[–]Littleknownfacts2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't hang out there. It wouldn't be the same.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Same, you know what you're getting from anyone here. The IRC is nice, but sometimes I really wish I had a small group of girls to just relax with over a few glasses of wine!

[–]sugarcrushEndorsed Contributor5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

All the best girlfriends I have made I met through other people. So like my husbands guy friends girlfriends, and the that girl introduces me to another girl, etc. I highly recommend getting together with other couples and making friends!

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Saw this on twitter this morning and it had me thinking "Girl-girl relationships will always be fraught, because we were not designed primarily for companionship with each other, but with men." - /u/LeeLee_inBabylon

In this sub the discussion of finding like minded RPW comes up a lot. I have often wondered why I don't do well having long term deep relationships with women and It might be because women are designed to be the ying to man's yang. Women often see each other as competition even if it's just subconsciously. I have 2-3 REALLY good girlfriends, but that's it, and I've kind of come to terms with that. Other ladies come and go but not everyone can be a BFF.

[–]russetrose15 points16 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I have to disagree with you there. There's something about good female friendships that is really special. I have a great group of girlfriends and talking to them makes me happy in a way that I don't get when talking to men. It depends on the woman, obviously, but I honestly think that the majority of women (and people!) have their heart in the right place. Nobody is perfect and yes, jealousy may crop up from time to time but with a strong bond and some maturity it should not be a problem!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I have a great group of girlfriends and talking to them makes me happy in a way that I don't get when talking to men.

I can agree with that! But within the group I really only have 2-3 that are like through thick and thing girls. Maybe it's because a lot of my friends came from sorority life - and that's a dynamic that I don't fit well into anymore. Too many feminists and career driven women.

[–]MistressCelius0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Well that probably explains why I didn't make through selections. (My GPA was still high enough; but apparently I didn't mesh too well with the girls)

My mayhap with forming deep relationships with other women, especially probably stems from how others could see me as a potential threat. They saw me as competition and in order to break my spirit, they would rather leave me alone and not thrive.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Feminine women are always a threat to the non-feminine ;) When you can be highly intelligent and rock life in heels you're a danger to society haha

[–]littleteafox[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think it matters what the girl-friends relationship statuses are and their age ranges. I have found that interactions are very different between single ladies vs. happily married ladies, between young vs. old, and so on. I do think having at least a couple close girl friends is important, especially since we often preach around here "that's what your girlfriends are for, not your husband" and so on. We can't expect a husband to be everything and fulfill every role.

I think this is especially important for ladies who have families and are RPW who live in more rural areas, where it can be hard enough to find friends let alone rp-friendly ones.

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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You can always hop on the IRC if you feel like chatting with some other users.

[–]gabilromariz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Try health related classes. I've met great people by taking vegetarian cooking workshops (offered for free at a green-foods-store). Most attendees are health conscious and nice to talk to. Funny enough I am yet to meet a vegan/vegetarian at this sort of event, though. It's mostly "regular" people just wanting to learn new and different foods

[–]attitude_adjustment1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I feel like presenting yourself in a rpw way encourages your current friends to be more like that. I have three really good girlfriends I've known since high school and we all went through our college/feminist/guys-are-horndogs/jerks stage and now we are all very mature women, imo. We don't bash on our bfs and we understand that girls nights out are not going out nights like we used to do in college but are rather low key with a fun crafty activity. I also got really lucky in that my roommate (who I met through a girl I really don't like) is such wonderful female company. My other best friend got married and though we used to admittedly get pretty crazy back in the day we are both on the same page about things now. I admit though that even with my core group of 4-5 girls, I can get lonely, especially because my boyfriend has like 12 guys just in his core group and someone is always down to do some manly activity with him, whereas it's very hard to coordinate with my friends.

Is a meetup here out of the question? I'm repping the Mid-Atlantic

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I relocated to live with my SO after dating long distance and have struggled finding friends until the past year or so. Like /u/sugarcrush said, making friends with your man's friends' partners can be really good. That said, he has a very small social circle by choice so my options have been somewhat limited, but it has worked out and I finally feel like I am getting the hang of this.

[–]fhigurethisout1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

i'm not religious, but my closest girlfriends are christian, girly, outdoor enthusiasts with good tact. they still have feminazi indoctrination and spout meaningless "i admire independent woman!!" crap every few months, but they are more RPW than they'll ever know hahahaha (don't sleep around, married, have good self-control, respect their partners compared to the average woman, are actually quite co-dependent, dress femininely, etc).

the fitness-centered girls are actually NOT that great...i haven't had much luck. A lot of them try to show up guys at the gym and they're kinda butch :s there was a woman at the gym i go to---complete stranger to me--and she had the gall to make fun of some guy right beside us!! i was mortified.

she was the intense know, those girls are sorta scary and super feminist (i know we weightlift around here, but i'm talking about the girls that have lesbo hair and focus solely on their biceps or something)

committed yoga girls are probably better (they seem really zen and feminine on youtube anyway lol). hiking girls are pretty awesome too. go for more 'chill' activities maybe? people who get outside often are generally awesome and have more positive views on life in my experience.

[–]littleteafox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love the yoga vibe, so laid back and chill. Yoga with Adrienne is def the sort of feel I'd be into.

[–]TheSlicemanCometh1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I feel like church is the right answer.

Youre an atheist? Still church.

I know it sounds funny, but if traditional roles is your goal in a world surrounded by nihilistic novetly-seeking, you have to take extrordinary measures.

I plan on starting to go to church as soon as Im ready for a relationship. I think ill try Catholic first.

[–]Sexwithcoconuts0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I found that I find more like minded women to hang out with when doing things with my husband as a couple. Hiking a lot, we meet a lot of people on the trails. Some people we've just "clicked" with immediately. Our kids being friends with other kids the same size has also opened a lot of friendships.

[–]littleteafox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I just thought of this: volunteering! You'd still have to weed out people, but it'd be a nice place to start. There are volunteering websites out there where you can find opportunities in your area for things like community gardens, trail maintenance/environmental stuff, soup kitchens, etc.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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