Edit: he just told me that he loved me.
TL;DR: RPW strategies work, even if you or your partner are not otherwise conservative/red pilled .
Long, long time lurker (since I was 17). I know I’m likely not too similar to the most active users here, but I want to give my perspective for other lurkers or women who are considering the red pill/red pill strategies but otherwise are not really conservative.
A little bit of personal background: I’m young, pretty socially left wing, goes to a liberal university, studies computer science. I care about being intellectually stimulated more than most other things. I’m 100% a product of my generation: my philosophy is people should go ahead and do whatever it is that makes them happy (as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else).
None the less, I browse RPW from time to time because, more than anything, this reads like a self improvement sub.
So, when a really amazing guy (who’s now my committed, official boyfriend) showed up in my life, I applied a few RPW ideas, and boy oh boy did they work.
Quick background on this guy: 7-8 in terms of looks, hot body, stable career/really good prospects and really disciplined. Also an insanely sweet guy. Very liberal/left wing too.
The RPW strategies I applied:
Being childlike, not childish: this one is a bit cheating since I’m only 19 and also I’m cutesy and very curious as a person as it is. He’s obviously very into that so I ramped it up just a little bit.
I think a big part of being childlike is having wonder, curiosity and a sense of innocence/innocent assumptions and thinking. You can be worldly and childlike at the same time.
I also made sure that I’m not childish. Shit testing, playing games, etc to me are childish behaviours. Also not learning to STFU is very childish.
STFU: the rule of thumb I followed is “would what I say make him feel worse or better?” If it’s worse, STFU. Example: he made me a drink and then nervously laughed at himself for making it slightly wrong. Did I laugh with him/at him/made it worse? Nope. Stfu.
Gratitude: whenever he gives me a compliment, looks at me in a loving way, does anything for me no matter how small, I give him an excited/“wow you’re amazing” thank you. I honestly thought it was getting kind of excessive and isn’t working, until he said that around me he feels like such a gentleman because of how I react.
delicate balance with sex: I made it very clear to him that I don’t have sex with someone who’s not my boyfriend. However, before we became official we also had passionate make out sessions and I made sure he’s aware that despite “inexperienced”, I’m a fast and willing learner.
I’m also currently working on improving myself and my body, but that’s more of a long term thing.
As a liberal, very career/academically focused woman, why do I follow these? Not only because they work, it’s because in my opinion they replicate and amplify actions you would take if you really liked someone anyways. Not for a second did I find any of these things difficult to do, because I did really like this guy. They don’t feel old fashioned or “submissive” to me because I call this type of behaviour not being a jerk to someone you really like.
That said, I’d greatly appreciate more advice on how to keep the relationship going strong! Thanks to all of you in advance.