http://www.redditlog.com/snapshots/1207481
A beautiful example of what women should not do, solipsism in action, and how women typically will look to blame others rather than analyze their own behavior.
My goal in this post is to help RPW who are currently seeking a relationship not suffer the same fate this woman did. The fact is, as women, many of you do want to date/marry guys that have a stable job and is financially well off. I am not saying that you are all gold diggers; I am saying that a man who is financially well off, and possibly rich, is attractive to you and more attractive to you than men that don't. Please don't start giving me comments about how your life is different, because studies have shown this to be the case (a quick youtube search should give you a viral video about this topic). I am making a generalization.
That said, I want to touch on a couple of points we can take away from this.
1) If you honestly have a problem with the relationship you are in, you need to communicate to your partner and address those issues. This woman, in a passive-aggressive manner, shit tested her BF by breaking up with him and wanting him to reclaim her. You know that it was a shit test because just a few days later she messaged him. In short, she was still fixated on him, and tried to get him to chase after her. Most men, especially not men like Will, will do this.
2) The fact that she stated "I'm not a golddigger" tells me she is a gold-digger. As a man who has managed to save up quite a bit of money for someone in undergrad, this is the biggest red flag for me, and it is also a huge red-flag for a cousin and close friend of mine who are rather rich. My message to you RPW is that you need to understand a couple of different things:
2a) Life is not all about money. 2b) If you do choose to focus on his income/assets/wealth, you need to be honest with yourself and decide on what you want. If you don't like a man who is as frugal as Will is, then you need to find someone that better matches what your partner would be like. That said, keep in mind that the more demands you have (in particular financial demands), the smaller your date able pool becomes.
Read the post. See if you can spot the solipsism and hamstering. It's there in all its glory.
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