Me and 2 older women I work with had this conversation today..
I have never been lucky enough to stay home with my kids. But I wish I would have tried harder to stay home. I think my life and my children would be totally different.
As modern day women, we are expected to work the same hours as a man, yet raise a family, rear children, feed our families healthy meals, get kids to appointments, school, activities, keep the house up, help with bills.. and so much more.
It's sad that a modern day man's salary can't support a woman staying home (at least) until kids are school aged. It would theoretically be so much easier to be a good partner, good parent, & better person not having to stress about being a good employee, being on time, daycare, sick kids (because this happens more with daycare), etc.
Stay at home mom's are called lazy, and people act like they have it so easy. What is so wrong with a woman doing what she was biologically put on this earth to do... mother & be a woman? Why is this no longer enough? & why did this change?
My coworkers (who have both been in the workforce a very longtime) agreed. Women overcome. We are resilient, but the amount of burden we endure while working, with kids, is tenfold of what men endure (at least in my experiences). I naturally know that I am responsible for the kids, getting them to and from school & daycare, getting them ready, etc. This makes it really hard for a woman to be her best because we are excepted to do so much. Be so extra, work, school & be a good mom, and balance it all with grace.
If you're on the fence about staying home with kids, I encourage you to do it. I truly regret not trying harder to stay with my babies.
If I am ever graced with another baby I will honestly do whatever it takes to stay home. Raising young children, and working, and schooling and LIFE will only make you a stressed out mess and your family will eventually bear your burdens.
Edit: miffed up some of my tenses. Should be fixed :)