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Women receive

June 6, 2017

A few days ago I had a chat with a psychotherapist, who is also a priest. I really enjoy talking to him because he gives advice based on traditional gender roles (since he's Christian based), and I've found a significant difference in his approach.

Note: I am not religious so I hope this can still be discussed even if you are not religious.

Past therapists have emphasized control over your life, whether it's changing cognitive thinking, creating structure, disciplining your habits, etc. This therapist significantly emphasized that for a female, we need to receive from life, and receive love from God (if you are into that).

I've found this to align with the yielding and submissive feminine nature, and over the past few days I've noticed I'm much happier and relaxed when I just let things flow.

How has receiving in daily life affected you as a woman or your femininity? Have you let go of control in some areas of your life, and what? Has it affected you positively?

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Title Women receive
Author vanBeethovenLudwig
Upvotes 13
Comments 7
Date June 6, 2017 1:14 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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[–]ThatStepfordGalEndorsed Contributor4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Ooh I want to talk to this priest! It's great to receive advice from those who honour gender roles, which is now a rare thing nowadays.

Receiving has changed my life and it has been, honestly, a bit of a challenge. I'm only in my early 20s, I grew up in the feminism-soaked society that teaches you from all around you growing up to take control, prove yourself, you won't be pushed around, etc etc. That is just so wrong, especially in a relationship, it gets you nowhere but misery. Patience is what I needed to learn (and still learning) when it comes to receiving, because that means I'm not setting the timeline, I'm not setting the pace and decisions, my SO is and I need to trust him and just. Stay. Still.

[–]vanBeethovenLudwigEndorsed Contributor2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

He's given really wonderful advice to me, based on the female role. Not only has he given good guidance but he's helped to solve some inner problems of mine that I haven't able to solve with multiple therapists of this "controlling and analyzing" methodology.

I thought it was interesting he also advises this childlike nature of women (similar to Fascinating Womanhood) and in general being forgiving and receiving and flowing. He's fantastic!

teaches you from all around you growing up to take control, prove yourself, you won't be pushed around, etc etc.

I think there are still ways to "prove yourself" (because it's still necessary in a way) but it doesn't have to be done so aggressively, for sure!

[–]ThatStepfordGalEndorsed Contributor0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

How did you find him? I am actually interested in getting to know such people-we need more people like him as community leaders.

I love that book! It was an interesting concept and I actually believe in it. Definitely, proving yourself shouldn't be a narrow definition :)

[–]vanBeethovenLudwigEndorsed Contributor1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

He actually also fell into my life at the right time, I was living in a small town then where everyone knew each other and somehow he found me and we started talking. He can read people pretty well and I think he has a hobby of talking to random people and getting a sense of what their problems would be. I didn't look him up on a website or anything!

[–]mrsdazed2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is something that I am struggling with every day.

My father passed away when I was in jr. high school, but as fas as I remember, they lived their marriage the traditional way so this concept is somewhat familiar to me.

It was during the time my elder sister went to the uni in different city, (she lived with my aunt and uncle, so somehow she can still have the leader of the house) so I had to be 'in charge' at home while my mom back to work. And I have a younger brother to take care to. That's when I was conditioned to be the one who decided things.

Since the passing of my father, we had some financial difficulties so I had to work to get what we want. Then when I finally able to afford my life, I had the urge to prove myself to the world. I try to take, try to give but reluctantly received anything.

Now I am married to a person who holds his religious value and traditional gender role high. And it's been a challenge for me to receive. I always seem to have the answer to the problems or alternative to every solutions. So you can imagine, it's even more challenging for my husband to be married to someone like me.

But we wake up every day to be a better person than yesterday. Like little by little to start giving him the control. One example, I am trying to lose weight and be healthier. And I have a clear picture on my mind on how to prep my meal. But then I told him that and he is now helping me with my meal plan (He has a degree in that area so I am somewhat stupid for never asking his help, though).

My marriage right now is not on it's most beautiful stage, mostly because of my inability to receive. So I am glad you bring this up. This is something that I overlooked when I am preparing my life and my mind to being a wife.

How has it affected me? I feel more relaxed (as relax as someone whose marriage is on the brink, but you get my point) and feel more loved (super important right now)

[–]loneliness-incEndorsed Contributor2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The idea is correct - man as a giver, woman as a receiver. I'll point out a few examples where you can see this.

1) The most obvious being in reproduction. A man gives semen which is received by the woman to create a child.

2) The leader gives ideas, plans, directives etc which the follower receives, internalizes and carries out. See this post for more

3) A giver gives 100 cents in every dollar. There only is the thing itself that's being given. It's a receiver who can stretch a dollar further. A man can go out and earn more dollars, a woman with her resourcefulness can stretch the existing dollars much further.

4) A giver gives the dry essence of something. Semen is the essence of the baby, an idea is the essence of intellect, a directive is the essence of what needs to be done. A receiver expounds on the essence and makes it tasty and flavorful. A woman develops a drop of semen into a whole baby, develops raw ingredients into a tasty meal and develops a simple directive to be better than it could have ever been on its own.

There are more examples, but these are on my head at the moment.

[–]CleburnCO0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

How do you swim?

You have to get in the water and let go...

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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