Women who "do it all"

The modern woman is sacrificing her youth, beauty & femininity to compete with her own husband. What a horrible reality.

I work with two women who have children. Both seem to be super busy, always in a rush, every second of the day is accounted for, allocated a task etc. Both look terrible, & one ignores her femininity entirely and looks / acts like a man.

I used to think they were Super women. Bravo for doing it all, 24/7. I thought that's what I wanted to do. Now I'm not so sure. How can they stay attractive to their husbands and keep a healthy relationship when they're so spent all the time? Why are women doing this to themselves? Why would you WANT to do that?!

My husband and I will be TTC in the NY and I'm not sure to what extent I'll be able to be home full time. It just seems like the alternative is to be grinding 24/7, always late, always busy, always feeling guilty and half assing everything.

Is there another alternative? Do you or women around you, do both but still look and feel great? Do you have time for yourself?