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"You're so sweet it makes my life so much easier"

October 9, 2019

Hello ladies and lurking lads!

I've made a Happiness Sundae, all sweetness.

Today my boyfriend said something that I think made both of us very happy. I was just doing my hair and he popped into the bathroom to simply tell me "You're so sweet, it makes my life so much easier." I smiled and said "AWH REALLY?!" and he said "Yes, you give me all this motivation and energy. It's been a bad month at work and every moment I've been around you has made it durable." I obviously stopped doing my hair to give him a ton of kisses.

This is a field report because I suffer from mental illness and am an incredibly anxious person. I am also an immensely outwardly expressive person, if I'm happy, you know/feel it if I'm sad, it's all over my face. So I re-read Surrendered wife (it's basically my bible) and remembered: "soft place to land". So I've been focusing on "sorting out my moods" while I'm alone so that I can be my better side (my REAL self) around him, since we only see each other a few hours every day.

So assume my sweetness is the icecream of this sundae.

IT WORKED THAT QUICKLY. Why though? Simple - he loves ice cream! and why else? I LOVE ICE CREAM TOO! So as a result, I feel so much better. I can tell that my energy changes how much I want to work towards improving our lives, pushing out a positive energy a "sweetness", made me more motivated and allowed me to enjoy the present more. He then gets that energy too.

The caramel drizzle? Was his response to it all. I've made him so happy, JUST BY BEING A HAPPY PRESENCE!!

Let's throw some sprinkles on this sundae too because my sweetness has increased how much he pays attention to my needs/moods. He's quicker to ask me if I'm okay. Instead of thinking- asking if I'm okay will open up a can of sad worms. He has also asked more about the things that make me less-sweet and has helped me work towards that (my finances stress me out for example, so he offered to draft me up a new budget and took over the internet bill). I think it's because he's less worried about my reactions, he can gauge me better.

Cherry on top? He took me out to this new restaurant I've been dying to go to and every morning for the past two weeks has been a frisky one.

His hugs are tighter, kisses are longer and he lingers around the kitchen when I'm making dinner instead of going on the computer because he wants to be around me more.

Basically moral of the story? Don't underestimate the power of your own positive attitude!!

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Title "You're so sweet it makes my life so much easier"
Author countrylemon
Upvotes 250
Comments 22
Date October 9, 2019 3:48 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
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[–]cassandrarose3945 points46 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This was so uplifting! Thank you!

[–]countrylemon[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for reading!

[–]Rest_in_grace33 points34 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I love when my man calls me a sweetheart!

[–]countrylemon[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yess, so so much!

[–]amadexodus17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My captain has also recently called me a sweetheart, and I too have this sub to thank! I definitely need to take a minute next time I see/talk to him on the phone to let him know how much his discipline, steadiness, and commitment to his values inspire me and motivate me....aka similar to what your SO said to you, but rephrased to compliment his masculinity.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

So happy for you two :) You sound like a very cute and happy couple! :) Taking care of each other is what it is all about.

[–]countrylemon[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you so much! We make a really good team for sure.

[–]ihearthandbags10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

needed this reminder today!

[–]vough5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Same! My man is studying all day so I’ve been giving him space. Can’t wait to see him after his test & be that soft place to land (:

[–]countrylemon[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

glad to be of service!!

[–]spitfitt7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It's true. Being a normal pleasant person does make people want to be around you more.

[–]countrylemon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's wild how the simplest of concepts and behaviour escapes so many

[–]kecoagendut4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This post is sweet! I am beaming reading this over breakfast.

[–]countrylemon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Aww, thank you!!

[–]lilasbaby21 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

What’s “sorting out my moods”?

[–]countrylemon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Evaluating what I need and proceeding to do whatever I can to figure it out on my own. Be it exercise, medication, just breathing, asking for help, relaxing myself, etc. If I'm anxious or irritable, I try to reduce those as best to my ability for example.

[–]LordMitre 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

why I can’t find woman like this?

all I find are women too busy with their careers or too busy with studies or too busy with their family or too busy with life...

and when they are finally not too busy, they are too old for me...

[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl[M] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Questions like this belong on asktrp not here.

[–]LordMitre2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

this was a compliment, not an actual question...

but I don’t blame you, misinterpretations happens all the time on the internet ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

and thanks for the recommendation...

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